My 6yo son has been struggling with phimosis since shortly after birth when his doctor recommended I begin helping him stretch. As a single mum I don't have any familiarity with the pain is going through and it's quite difficult to deal with. I use some moisturizer to help him along, but after a year or so it's still an issue. A quick check-up with the doctor recently revealed it might have something to do with the size of him down there - which is becoming an increasingly greater problem. Heat rash and the tightness of his underwear hasn't been helping the situation at all and it's only getting worse.
Is there anything else I can do to help my DS with his foreskin and general "downstairs" health? I'm terrified he's not going to develop properly down there if this continues. PS - I'm trying to avoid circumcision as much as possible.
I stretched my foreskin by inserting my two little fingers when I was in the shower and applying pressure to open it. You obviously can't feel how much it hurts but he can probably tell you when it's too much. You hold pressure to stretch it for about 5 to 10 minutes or until he says enough is enough. Do this at every bath. It took me several months to stretch the opening enough so my foreskin didn't get stuck behind the glans when it was erect. That skin will usually stretch but it takes time and continual work afterward so it doesn't return to it's old state. If he gets an erection that helps with the stretching if/when you can pull it back behind the glans. It's nice to know you have such a good relationship with your son. If he happens to get some pleasure because you are doing this for him, don't feel you're a bad mother. I'm 80 now and this wasn't something my mother would even discuss. I feel there is nothing wrong with his mother helping him with his problem. I think it's much better than having him undergo the pain of a circumcision. Hope this helps.