I am not sure how to respond to someone so young. I believe it is important for people to learn about themselves - sexuality included - and to develop a positive self image about their mind & body. So I will have to think about the best way to respond. Perhaps some links to an appropriate sex education site? In any case, I am not sure I am best one to answer that question. However, I will do my best to provide answers that will not cause problems for either of us if you want to hear from me on this. (I am sure you can understand that there are concerns about the appropriateness of discussing this with someone so young, especially by an older male responding to a young female.) Perhaps putting you in touch with my wife would be best? Let me know if would like to hear from her. I am sure she can help you better than I can. I am also fairly confident we can find sex education sites that cover this in a safe way. I am not sure we can be more explicit than that, again due to your age. I am sure others would want to answer explicitly, but please remember the internet is not a safe place and that you need to be very cautious. Stay safe!
No problem, and thanks for writing back! I will get back to you a little later. I have a few things I gotta do. So I will talk to you later!
Hey Selena
I can see Hympnomorph is a bit busy atm, and you've asked for his wife to pop on as you may prefer a female to chat with, I'm happy to have a chat with you until she's able too, my daughter is not much older than you so I know how the hormones are...Well I can remember my own I was a curious little bunny too. So why are you nervous? Are you worried your going to hurt yourself, get caught or do it wrong? Because all of those reasons are not much to stress over. You wont hurt yourself, as it's your body and if it's uncomfortable you will stop. Doubtful you will get caught, unless your planning on sitting on the sofa just before CNN news of the day airs (idk what shows your parents watch but you knoweh and doing it wrong, well there is not wrong, every person is different and will find there own method and style, yeh some ways your not going to like as much as others so you'll move on to something else.
So I'm guessing you've never done much exploring down there yet If you have one get a mirror and have a peek, whatever you see is perfect as like peoples faces not any two will be exactly the same. Towards the top of your as you open you outer labia, the lips with the hairs on, you will see on each side another set of smaller pink lips, this is called your inner labia. You can start using the flat area of either your pointy or middle finger to gently have a feel just onside of them, see if anything feels nice, any specific area, moving towards the top...by top I mean up toward your belly not down toward your bum, so moving up a bit you will find an area that feels kind of like a bump, it;s inside whats called your hood, this is your clitoris and the magic button for masturbation. If your finger is not slipping about easily maybe if your a bit scared you wont be too wet just yet, put some saliva on it, so it moves about easily.
So far you've found your clitoris, try circular movements slowly around it, some people dont like direct touching at first, just move about see where you get that hmmm feeling. If you seem to enjoy rubbing directly on your clit you can either carry on with circles, or side to side, up and down whichever you prefer. If you need more moisture either more saliva or lower your hand towards your bottom (not that far just that direction) and you will feel your vaginal opening, you may want to either take some lubrication from there and carry on with your clit or decide to explore yourself inside. If you decide to feel inside, perhaps try your little finger at first, if you feel the one you have been using maybe too big. You can put it inside as far as you feel comfortable, Im not suggesting you do this but if you put the whole length of your finger inside you will not damage yourself, unless you have long nails...best to trim them before hand anyway lol
So inside move your finger about touch the sides, front back what feels best for you, gentle circle movements on that area for a while can be nice or some girls prefer to move up and down, or make their finger flick back and forth as if you were calling someone over (if that makes sense). Whichever method you prefer, clitoral, internal or both carry on with it as long as you feel comfortable. After a while you may feel one of or both of your legs twitch, this is normal, this will increase as you start to enjoy yourself more. You may feel your tummy tightening and your heart start to race quite hard, again this is all normal and happens as you climax. Some girls feel the urge to wee, dont worry you wont pee yourself. Just carry on with what is working and youl figure it all out. It may be you dont feel the leg shaking etc for a few times, again no problem, some things take time, or you may need to find another method. I'm not goin to overwhelm you with more than finger stimulation, as you are just becoming curious about yourself and need to walk before you can run. Just be safe, wash your hands before and make sure your nails are not too long, if you get the urge to use something to put inside yourself be sensible, make sure its clean, smooth and cant break off of cause any damage. Again for the first few times just stick to figuring out what you like and where before you think about moving on to other methods.
If you need to ask me anything again I'm happy to pop back, I can take some time as I'm not in the same time zone as you. Hypnomorph wil be back when he has chance, until then stay safe and enjoy
I am really happy Violet Chery checked in. She is right, I have gotten myself a bit swamped and I am grateful for her helping me out. I really don't like to leave people hanging, especially after I promised I would help. The good news is I am almost completely caught up. A quick aside, thank you Violet Chery, I really do appreciate your checking up on these cases! And I really think you give some awesome advice! Ok, picking up where I left off... She is definitely a good source of information and she is able to talk at a personal level in her writing that I can't touch. I strongly recommend her for any questions you might have. Having input from more than one person who really wants to help you is always good. It is even better when they come from different experiences and with different ideas.
I have prepared an opening letter to discus how best to address all of your questions. (I did tell you I talk to much didn't I?) For now, I am keeping it private and I sent it to you via email. I don't appear to be able to send via SteadyHealth's private messaging (a security setting in your profile I would imagine, I think it might be a good idea to leave it as it is considering the first few answers you got here). We will want to post the letter after we amend it to cover your specific needs. I want to make sure we address the issues you want to address in a manner that is most comfortable for you. I think - and hope - you will approve of the format I am suggesting. I think it will work well and I believe it will provide an opening for others to comment on the specific topics I mentioned. If you prefer, I would be happy to post it unamended. Just let me know what you would like to do. I wanted to give you an opportunity to make a private decision.
Thanks! I didn't realize that. It is good to know!