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Hi dawn-I want let him-If I black out :$ I dont think I will. Im never ever going to end up in a situation like this ever again! The horrible thing is-the good memories. i dont htink he will touch me, and the girls are really excited about seeing their granda, so they are still up. ill go to bed when they go to sleep!.

I think he sees it as "woman ganging up oand rejecting him" and it all stems from being rejected as a child by his own mum.Plus I know that his dad gave his mum a few broken bones-i aint supposed to know that stuff-but I do!

Ill be fine. Listen, I will send you an email before I go tomorrow-I hope youre all right! Then Ill be at my dads until Monday. Tuesday Ive my CAB citizens advice appointment and wednesday Im back at work. Im looking forward to going back and I want to find out if there is any kind of study course I could do whilst working there. I think I am a bit of a hedonist that way-but really need the feel good factor again.

If he even gets threatening, Ill rig the police. Men and their stomachs-god forbid, could you imagine a man with a period-id hate to think XD XD XD

Take care Dawn, and I so value your friendship, so pls do not worry, its never going to happen again. I never want Panda eyes again , or stitches in the side of my head, or sore ribs..ill only cope with that if I ned to - from accidents.

Its a shame Ive not been stronger about it-but I know we are nearing the end of this-even if it means I move the girls out. i can get my head round that now, so I am okay, i dont even feel the gut ache or even get angry as before. i am calm..Thats got to be good-though...when I was scared earlier I was thinking about taking the kitchen knife to bed with me-just in case. I didnt though-Im ok. Anyway, hope to speak to you very soon , and take extra specail care of yourself!! Hugs.
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I do not knkow what happened to me last night, but by the time I went to bed I was really excitable. becca my 6 year old had got up and snuck into my bed, she was snoring really loudly. becca has always snored, loudly, even when a abay in the pram...People didnt have to see her -theyd just say "Piece and quiet then aye? Anyway, so I put my headphone son to block out her snoring, but then thought heck, my ears.

He was an absolute intolerable last night-i think I was just glad to get away from him. he kept following me around the house.

Anyway, nothing bad or sinistr happened, so thats a good thing.

I didnt get any sleep though, so clammy and-thinking all the time. Im really insecure about being on my own, but I dont thinkabout the consequencies-Ie if I saty with him, I wil end up really really sick or dead.

Do you think its a myth, or do you think its true, that if a man sees a woman and decides "thats the one I want to marry" thats how it works, rather than anything else, I notice that when a man chases a woman the relationship has a higher chance of working-is that c**p or what?

Its strange, i look at my girls and think , theyll have men chasing them all round the world, but for me, i dont think there wil be a single manthatd be interested let alone put up with me, not that really care right now.

Anyway, Im going to have to go pack. Hope to speak soon, Katy
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dawn=- i dont kno whats wrong. i was thinking that getting away would be a good thing. i dont know if its the pmt, or what but right now Iam howling. the kids are really excited, but Ive this feeling of...I am a freak, and I deserved to be treated like this ..as I am just a b***h, and , I thought he understood me, but the woeird thing is, I know Im making the rght decision as even when I look back to the early days,,, i realise hes never really treated me well, I was blind to it, but at the same time I cant understand how he cant see it when he has 2 lovley girls, it makes me sick... i think Ill always feel this way, no one want sanyone with a squint andthe rest, so I will be alone for ever. also because of my stupid eyes, people just assume Im thick, Im fed up trying to prove to myself who I am , above othersAnyway, cry over, i just need to get to my dads, The thing is I might not want to come back.
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Of course you feel that way! You have ALWAYS been made to feel that way! And if you can tell me in ALL honesty, that you being followed around the house by this jerk is GOOD for you and the girls! Then you ARE barmy!!!!!

You were terrified of him yesterday and I'm sure a LOT. Don't be our mothers Katy and think that THIS is better than nothing!!! He deserves to NOT have this! PERIOD!

I was very worried for you, I have ALWAYS thought that this is the reason why you black out! Your body goes into shock. I TRULY TRULY think he has given you those black eyes EVERYTIME, I think he hurt your ribs etc. etc. What did you say to the doctor and he say to you about your ribs, you keep avoiding answering me about that!!!

Sorry to grill you, but I WANT you to understand and GET what's happening here not only physically, but of course emotionally as well. If you can Let the doctors prove that HE did this to you, then it's SEE YA to him!
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Hi Dawn, Im not long back. The girls are exhausted , and so am I. Ive not slept. Ive not slept since Thursday-I want sleep , but cant switch off.

We had a lovely time at my dads, but I wasnt myself!!Even thought the citaloprma would kick in and Id be ok, Im a bit %-) This new packet I have states that these are generic, and Ive never had a pack thats stated this before, whether its just the word, or not, or whether I am just going through the depression on them, I havent a clue, as Ive been feeling the doom lately. I was well up , before leaving, and now and then realised, heck , what do I want out of life? Whio am I ? and what am I about?

Its at night time, when Im lying in bed, and I just think I am rubbish at everything I do, I go around upsetting everyone all the time, and I am just a problem and a heavy weight on everyones shoulders. I cry and then stupidly end up waisting hours about thinking about what Id like to happen to me, what is going to happen and really if its all so hard its all so pointless...and spiral on like that for hours. hen by morning, Im ok, and can gt up-just, but exhausted, grumpy and detached.

Anyway, Im sure it will pass. Dads was good and even though I didnt sleep, and I didnt get a ton lifted off my shoulders, he said all the right things. Tomorrow , I have my Citizens advice appointment-hoping that clears someof my troubles up for me. I have no idea how long it will take to hear from housing either.

yes, i do get a bit timid when my partner starts going off on one, and even though I get the bravado to tell him to shut up , he turns it on me and shouts back"No, you shut up", anyway, luckily nothing happened and Ill keep a distance. I cant remeber what the doctor said about my ribs , aprt from take paracetaml, and Im sure I suggested that I had bounced of my kitchen table, which I probably did, Anyway, I dont htink the injuries were that bad, and I dont think therd be anyway of proving , if it was, him.

How is your head? Your dad? Your son? How are you doing?
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Having a BAD day today! Anyway I am on my medication so just waiting for it to kick in. This citizens advice thing is it like the council or is it more Social Services kind of thing? You should tell them the truth that things are escalating at home and you are worried for your safety. And I'm sure they will rush the application for you!

Generic are just as good as the name brand - no difference, except the money! If you take an Asprin or an ASA - no difference - same thing!

Maybe you need a different medication! When you go to the doctors NEXT YEAR FOR YOUR RIB!!!!!!!!!! Then you can ask!!!!!! XD
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Hi dawn-sorry to hear you were having a bad time. Hope your feeling a lot better. Youve your appointment soon, are you worried-or relieved its coming up on you?

Just recieved a huge bank statement form te joint account. Got realy confused -thought wed shut it down , but nope instead arewed bacnk charges that make steam come out my ears.

Taking this pill in the morniig as I was told to do initally and it makes me happier at this time of day.plus Im not thinking omg -what will iI do tonight( I need a drink) , so it is helping , but the old sleep deprivation is catching up on me. Rang the bank , closed the account and now have to pay a monthly charge of 25 squid-I have money matters that would make anyones hair stand on end.

Hey Dawn-remeber you cant talk to me about the bad stuff any time. Ill be here for you.

My only option is to wait on new housing. Thats it. hes not communicating. I havent got a clue what he is up to , not signing anything now, as its way tooo risky , and if hes scared...then good....See how it feels and all that nah nah. (Dont get me wrong I d never hurt my children by preventing him seeing him ( unless I thk hed hurt them emotionally ofr physically) I cant wait till I m out of here though..I need contorl back in my life. Thinking about applying to do some sort of nursing-though dont know if id be much good at thta either, Id probably trip over patients and things etc,,and someone would want something and Id be saying "where", what you looking for and so on...so i dont know what I want to do with my life.But I want to do something. Im probably just a bit bored.

Anyway, if I dont hear form you -good luck for the 23rd....god I hate that expression...its almost like its your problem and your allone...or all the best ////its like ...brush your hands form you nad never speak again....I think looking forward to see you/speak to you soon is the only way....but with your best wishes ...nope that one doesnt do it either...Someone pls help...i need an expression that means thinking of you, ill be there for you...and illl catch you when you fal, so ok, Im going now ...Just waffling.Take care Katy
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Hi Dawn :-D How ar eyou today?

Well I made it to the citizens advice off, she told me exactly what to do, and Ive started the ball rolling, Ive just finished . Been n the phone all afternnoon trying to get benefits in motion. It was a bit triggered off by the bad bank statement we got this morning ( which I was to take full responsibilty off) . Some of my benefits are being reviewed so I will be absolutely penniless for a while which is worrying, but I am glad, I feel like Ive started to take control. Its a good feeling. Remind me to ring my Housing Officer tomorrow, i keep forgetting. Probably is one of the first things I should have done. Anyway, I hope you are well, I couldnt have done this without all the support especially yours that Ive been getting lately so a big thank you to you and anyone else who has helped and who may be reading. Still anxious about living conditions etc , but hopefully things will start to fall into placce with a little effort, Ok, Im really tired now and my ears are nipping me a little. I managed to wlk a mile -there and back and managed not to cuddle anything. WOW!
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Hi Katy: still having a bad time of it! But it makes me feel SO much better knowing that you have started the ball rolling! I think if you get your balance problems sorted you then can start thinking about a career. Because when you have a "wobbily" time you wont be able to concentrate on the right thing! So IF you ever go to the docs and get some help for your dizziness etc, then you can then start on the rest. It does my heart good Katy to hear you being positive, I know that it is steps that you do, but you are DEFINITELY stronger than you were a month ago even.

That's so nice of you to remember the 23rd I even forgot!!! You see we do have things in common - me supposedly forgeting my appointment and you too!!!!! ;-) I can't get over how we are alike. I wonder if it's just certain personalities or genetic when the same kind of people end up in the same situations? I've always studied people and I will STOP doing anything to hear a great conversation! I love it! I was out with a bunch of girlfriends for coffee once and I walked by this intense couple, while on the way to the bathroom. She was breaking up with him, I stoped to "take a look at a book!!!!! ;-) " don't ask me the title LOL XD And then came back to our table and told them that Sara didn't find Mike very interesting and she wasn't that into him anymore!!!!! I LOVE that kind of stuff!

Do you have a store like we have here, it's called Women In Need - they give you furniture, clothes, bikes anything you need to get your own place? It's a great organization. Is there anything like that in Scotland? Also do you have a worker for you and the kids?
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:-D ..."that into him anymore" :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D Yeah-good stuff dawn! Sorry to hear your still not feeling great! Hope you get well soon! Im now a bit sweaty, but now I know what benefits I am entitled to and I can even take control as an "independent" with him watching...(theres not a face for ...Ha ha ha!!! :-D :-D :-D :-D ) Oh, Im naughty :-D :-D :-D me + likes being naughty. Basically we live like 2 student flatmates until, i or him moves-obviously this situation want go on forever, but when I spoke to the kind lady that helped me today, she stated that housing can actually help him in the right direction, by helping me :-D Also that as I am at such an inbetween state, and bills etc are being cut off and I am clueless to whats happening that I can go "independent "which means, that Ill be ready to do the little changes once hes gone, but financially the big changes will be organised prior to him haven been gone, proving I can be an independent good mum. It was just such a relief to hear! beforehand I was told I couldnt do this, but then again I did not have all the documentation, or proof that I was being cut off, and so forth. So bullies stay away from this woman or Ill eat you for my breakfast yum yum 8-| 8-| :-D

I didnt get much sleep , in fact ive not been sleeping great, at all, but statring to think I look my years , if not older, but thinking actually its not so old, and even when on the phone to a guy discussing finances he said "you sound lovely , sorry to hear what your going thoruhg and best of luck .." I thought that was sweet and I went hey thanks pal, you aint so bad XD XD XD XD (that was in my head)..the end bit :$ :$ :$

anyway, Dawn-chin up!!! Your a great person, and I hope Thursady goes well for you...do what my dad does...that hurts ouch ouch..and take loads of pain relief!!!Anyway, this little girl of mine want s to listen to hannah Montana- 8-| -shes a big fan, shes so so cute, long blonde hair, wee round face, big blue eyes and then head bangs to this 8-| 8-| 8-| o.O :-D

Ok, Hope to speak soon, I think this month will be a reall roller coaster ride fo rme, but hey, I will get through it, and hopefully by the time the girls return to school , things will be settling down to a new life. Pleeeeeeeease , I hope it want take much longer, as I was thinking about how it would be good to be drug free andnot worry about lamposts anymore 8-| XD
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When do the kids go back to school there? I remember about 6 weeks holiday when I was a kid! Here they end in June and are off till usually September! I thank God I have a boy that can drive, he's 17, he took my youngest for physio today. Can't even walk, BUT I have my pain pills!!!! XD LOVE THEM!!!! ;-) I don't know what the hell is wrong with me, but hope to get to the bottom of something on Thursday. I just keep thinking if they do this surgery on my head, the doctor was talking about having a plastic surgeon do the surgery and use a piece of skin from my bum!!!!! 8-| o.O XD I could have SO MUCH fun with that but I wont! ;-) The most innocent thing I WILL say is that along with my wrinkles on my forehead I will now have cellulite!!!! LOL XD I just hope I don't get one long eyebrow!!!!!! ;-) ;-) ;-) o.O XD XD

Anyway you have to laugh at stuff don't ya?! I'm sure I could still pull someone though, I will describe myself right now and I'm sure you will agree - or at least have a side splitting howl!

I'm 45, with the low lights/highlights thing going on, my breasts hurt my knees!!!, my hips dislocate all the time and use a cane, due to the that my one leg is almost always blue!, I have a growth on my tail bone, so I have to sit funny, I know have 5 scars on my head that make me look like the face of the moon!!! Due to that I haven't been able to WAX!!!! So right now I'm thinking of starting to learn how to braid! I've been wearing shorts and a t shirt because it's HOT here right now. So yesterday I got up and went to close the front window and my shorts fell down!!!!!!!! o.O o.O :$ XD I don't know who was more surprised, myself or the guy that cuts my grass!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh yes I did!!!!!!!!!! o.O o.O :$ XD XD I haven't had a shower in 3 days due to the fact I can't get in the bath, so my eldest son got one of those bath seats for me today! My voice sounds like I've smoked 5 packs of cigs everyday! BOY I can't keep track of all the young 20 year olds asking for my phone number right now!!!! LOL It's a good thing I'm married and he can't leave because of the debt load!!!! XD XD ;-)

I will tell you what I say about myself and my husband - just to keep you laughing! "When I met my husband he had hair all the way down his back, now he has hair all OVER his back!" "When I met my husband my hair was down to my waist, now my breasts are!!!!" XD XD XD 8-| ;-)

Anyway I will talk to you later, have FUN with Mylie!!!!!! Don't you just want to shoot yourself in the eye?!!!!!! LOL
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"Your shorts fell down o.O " have you lost a lot of wieght recently????? You cant walk o.O ????? Dawn-whats up? You do not sound yourself at all.!!!!!

Ive rang the Housing Officer and she has said "get him to phone me" Ok , but he will just do the Im calling your bluff and shout about me signing these parental right forms....I may just sign and then if he tries th "you are an unfit mother "etc bit on me, Ive got the fight to fight back. Nothing lost nothing gained


My boobs are like bricks and really lumpy...but not yet hurting my knees (thats to come)...My hair looks like a pigeon flew over my head and let one loose, my bellie is like mount everestmand my bottom e could sink the a ship the same size as the titanic.

Been at work .Had a luagh....I found your last messsage so funny, well if you cant cry, why not laugh ( it is good to be able to laugh at ourselves, ) but , no one else is to-woud you agree? People are aloowed to laugh with us but not at us!

OK, Im really tired, worried about money matters etc, but ok. I wish you the best for tomorrow and hope they see you fit again!!! Hope to hear from you soon, and take care, Katy
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The surgeons asstitant phoned today and said I was supposed to have surgery on my head today!!!!!!!! o.O I was like "I didn't get that memo!!!!" So he was ticked, but understanding and I said to him "I haven't even discussed with you what part of my body you want to use, I haven't been given something to knock me out! CUZ I AIN'T getting skin off my bum OR anywhere else and put on my head WHILE I'm awake!!! I almost went into a FULL panic attack Katy! My heart was pounding SO fast! It was awful! I am the maid of honor at my oldest friends wedding in September, I don't want to look like this o.O 8) Through the whole damn ceremony!!!

So anyway he said we will talk tommorrow when he sees me and the kids! Get this I have 3 dogs and 2 cats, so my female cat was meowing that the dogs wouldn't let her out of my bedroom, so I went out of the room so the dogs would follow and then came back in and sat on the bed and she was just "sitting there" so I gave her a petting and ALL of a sudden my Golden Retreiver jumped on the bed and showed me WHAT EXACTLY she was doing SITTING on the frickin bed!!!!!!!!!!! YES She DID!!!!!!!!!! I'm surprised you didn't hear me screaming in Scotland!!! I'm like "WHY ME?!!!!!!" Don't you hate it when things just keep happening, and your like "Go to a bad person for crying out loud" Well at least we have things to laugh about! That's probably why I laugh when people trip!!! ;-)

Why does your HO want to talk to him?
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Gosh-good luck tomorrow dawn!! yeah-you tell them-you aint cutting skin of my buttocks until I am totally sleeping-okay!

Put a sticker on your face to say-hey look this is where you are operating-cheers-thanks ( just thought Id remind you all!)

My dad did it, put a sticker on his foot to make sure they cut through the correct toe.

Okay, ......Ive spoken to himself, and stated that Ive rang the HO, and that they can help.he has said hed ring her-heres me hoping he will-but I dont trust anything about him, but we shall see!

Isnt it funny how animals can be so trustworthy and protective? My cat lies on my painful ribs every night, but I love it. he purrs away, and his soft big body helps to relieve the pain! Yeah, its still sore.

ive been crying all night-Ive put it down to being on my jabs (perios). i get this really bad pain in my left (at least I think its my ovary) it hurts like hell-stabbing pains and feels like a pulled muscle if its not stabbing me-I worry that I might be like my mums family, they all have had ovarian cysts, but I aint going to complain until really necessary.

Anyway, Dawn, I hope things go well for you tomorrow ..will you tell them about your difficulties...walking etc? There might be something going on, it may even be a simple check to heal ( i hope). i keep getting extreme cramps in my legs, really bad-but I havent ate a heck of a lot. and worse I went shopping today on my visa-it needs chopping up!

Children are acting really spoilt and I cant cope with them . Ihave to go the youngest is bellowing "mum". Anyway, bettter dash-pls let me know how it goes and hope it goes as best as it can, hugs, Katy
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Hi Dawn- I hope today went as smoothly as it could for you. I know your probably really under the weather ( so to speak) so hope to hear from you soon. hop eyou have a quick recovery and that everything is ok.Take care , Katy, (Thinking of you!)
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