I'm more and more leaning towards your ex. But take care. If your relationship is not even "serious", then why continue with the 'bonding' activity of sexual intercourse? Especially as it can have 'serious' consequences!
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No judgements at all! I simply was just reaching out to see if you possibly wanted to share your story as we are currently casting women in similar predicaments for a new show. If you are interested, you can contact me. If not, no worries at all. :)
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I was not making judgements at all, just responding to what you said to help you with your concerns and raising a question, and leaving it open for further talk if you wish - especially as you said you were 'worried and confused'. Talking things through and seeing other aspects, perhaps in a different light, can help deal with problems.
I assume you mean your ex was diagnosed as infertile rather than impotent (as he can get an erection and ejaculate), but I know a woman who was told she could never have any children, and she now has four! As I said before "When you have a scan, you may have more precise information. But really, only a paternity test would actually determine who the father is".
Whatever it is that comes under the area of "what I've done is wrong" needs addressing (sooner rather than later) to deal with your troubled conscience ("dealing with enough on my conscience"). You can't change the past, but you can make certain changes for the future. It won't be easy, but worthwhile in the end.
Take care
Not from only the information you provided.
- How did you determine the time when you conceived?
- By 'conceived' to you mean date of fetilisation or of implantation?
- What dates did your last two periods start?
- What date did you expect your June period to start?
- How long is your cycle usually (typically 28 days)?
- Which, if any, of the sex episodes protected?
- Which of the occasions of sex resulted in ejaculation inside you?
If your 'conception calculator' says conception (?fertilisation?) on 3rd July, it would appear to be working on a 28-day cycle, not 26 or 27. Working on a 26-day cycle, I would estimate ovulation to have occurred on 1st July, and your fertile days would be 26th June to 1st July. July 8th would be a week later, but it is possible to ovulate a week late (or even miss a cycle), especially if there are stressful circumstances.
Conception calculators (you didn't specify which one you use) are often unreliable. What data have you fed into the calculator?
Can you say what the start dates of your periods have been this year?
Anytime you have sex there is a risk of pregnancy following.
Have you actually taken a pregnancy test? Have you seen your doctor/gynae?
I hope this helps as a start.