I can't cum during sex, my boyfriend thinks it's his fault,

It's most likely because he's putting way for friction on your clit with oral or you riding him compared to when he's on top ..try pushing yourself closer to him (clit) when he's on top , lifting your pelvis a little will help and moving along with him like keeping a beat while dancing..it's hard to explain lol but rubbing against him might help..try it out and keep in mind that since you're in charge while riding him your movement is at your desirable Pace maybe he needs to slow it down or pick up the speed at which his penetrates... Lol too much info here this is the first time I ever dried giving advice...

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It's most likely because he's putting way more friction on your clit with oral or you riding him compared to when he's on top ..try pushing yourself closer to him (clit) when he's on top , lifting your pelvis a little will help and moving along with him like keeping a beat while dancing..it's hard to explain lol but rubbing against him might help..try it out and keep in mind that since you're in charge while riding him your movement is at your desirable Pace maybe he needs to slow it down or pick up the speed at which his penetrates... Lol too much info here this is the first time I ever dried giving advice...

Hey I am 21, and I can relate to ALL of you, I also have NEVER been able to cum by a man the only way I can get off is when im having sex, and im rubbing my clit, I can't let the guy do it bc it feels uncomfortable.  Is there ANYTHING i can do. My boyfriend feels like c**p because he can't get me too, Is there something wrong with me??/ what can I do/try.. I am also insecure abou tmy body, and i am trying to lose weight,  .....

Okay, so. Ive had sex with three guys y whole life. The first two have made me soak the bed.. And ive made my sel do it aswell. But my current boyfriend who im crazy in love with has never done it before. And he makes me feel like sh*t because of it and he knows ive done it before. When he eats me out he gives me a orgasm that i xant give my self. Its like all my muscles tingle and spasm and then they tense up and i cant move for a second ad then they let go and my whole body feels amazing and tingly, my vagina gets super soaking but a dont soak the bed. Why arent the feelings the same and why cant i squirt for him? Is there any advice you can help me give him? Please? He was literally crying about it lastnight. Oh and ps. Hes made his ex gf squirt..so i know he can do it. Ugh.

I suggest you have a cunnilingus till you cum and then he can start penetration. i;ve try it and it works.

look... you all need to relax. I've been with my man for 6 years now, and at first sex was horrible. he had had relationships where neither party cared about the other getting off, "wham bam thank you mam" kinda stuff. when i almost left him because that's just not what i wanted he asked me if there was something he could do. COMMUNICATION is the best thing. i slowed him down, made him focus more on me. lemme tell you, when he got it right, he REALLY got it RIGHT. but still, my underactive self confidence and poor self image get in the way. i know how he sees me, but i still think in the back of my mind "i wish i was skinnier, more beautiful, more intelligent". I still think he's gonna leave me one day, but i'm happy to have him for as long as i get to. no1 in my life has stuck by me through so much. the best thing for me is when he  takes the whole day and pampers me. breakfast in bed, lay there talking and cuddling, we have fun goofin around, (he is very corny and crazy), tickle fights and wrestling around till we get back to cuddling, he rubs my feet my back my shoulders, even gave me a pedi!!!!(had no idea what he was doing or that he knew what he was doing lol) he runs me a bath and lets me soak then when i get out he dries my hair and brushes it. i think that just the total acceptance and devotion is what makes me want him so bad. and when those doubts creep up on me and i feel like its just not gonna work tonight, i tell myself who cares. what is the big deal. it means nothing if you cum or dont all that matters is that you enjoy yourself, and that he respects you, and doesnt make you feel pressured. i used to cry when it just wouldnt work out, i thought there was something wrong with me too, and there was... ME! i got in my own way. he made me see that. we do like to set impossible goals and have fun trying to reach them.... like "you're not allowed to cum till i get get off atleast 4 times" and just seeing how determined he is to make it and how he can hold back turns me on lol, and i dont make it easy. i like knowing how badly i get his blood boiling, how sexy i really am to him, and when he shows me that i get a bit daring.... its just sex ppl, have fun! and if your not having fun, you need to find a way or find someone new. long and a bit pointless at times, but i hope it helps someone.

I been with my fella nearly a year and can't cum it is frustrating for me big time. I can't cum if we have sex or oral any one help me?

Hi I'm 11 and I can cum. WTF is wrong with your p***y

I have exactly the same problem... i masturbate and use toys to cum but when it comes to the real thing with my boyfriend i just can't do it for real :/ I feel pretty awful about it as well because I haven't got the courage to tell my boyfriend about it in case I upset him, so I've been faking it which I hate myself for doing it... I had bad experiences like yourself in past relationships cuz my first proper boyfriend who I lost my virginity to cheated on me :/ Me and my boyfriend have amazing sex, the best sex I've ever had but for some reason I'm just not able to cum... I wish I could so then I can stop 'fake climaxing'. Any thoughts people?

You know, I have the same problem and I'm a guy. I can make my girl cum through sex in under 3 minutes, and under a minute through fingering, but it takes me FOREVER to cum, and I have no idea why. It's very annoying.

i also had the same problem with my boyfriend we would have sex almost daily sometimes i didnt want to at first and i told him so we only had sex when i told him i actually wanted it and i started cumming again if you take breaks from having sex and relax you will want it more and not have anything else on your mind but having sex. also have him take it slow at first that helps with the ripping my friend couldnt stop bleeding one time after sex thats because he shoved it in. even when they were ready. if you take it slower at first it will open up korr and less chance for ripping. (: enjoy

I am 21 and I have been having the same problem! My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months...in the beginning we would have sex 5 times in a night...sometimes a couple times in a row...I would cum at least once or twice a night. Now I don't cum at all...it's been months...the sex is INCREDIBLE but I get close and then it goes away. I told him to finger me more before we have sex to get me going, but then he usually finds everything I do so hot that he cums way to fast. Either that or I need it harder or faster and this makes him cum too. I don't know what to do because every so often we get in a fight or he gets depressed because I havn't been able to cum in months.
The thing is I watch porn quite often and I always cum when I finger myself, but i can't cum when he does it? What does this mean?

Well i think u r right cuz i been with my fiance for five yrs and he pleasures really good its just that i am not cumming cuz it annoys me so badly.

I have not had an orgasm with my current boyfriend or my two exes. I am 19 years old. I can organ by myself, during oral or when he rubs my clitoris. I can not orgasm during any type of actual intecourse using fingers or a penis. Is there a reason why?

I think that's perfectly normal. Many women get nothing from vaginal sex but the feeling of closeness (oneness) with their partner.