I Cant Orgasm During Sex Only Masturbation

Guest over a year ago

There is a lot of bad info out there. A lot of men and women make a good point that there is nothing wrong from clitoral stimulation, however, if you get yourself off too much and over do it, you will train your body to only get you to climax through the clitoris. I had a boyfriend and I could always cum multiple times with him. We broke up and I started masturbating 2-3 times every other day. Then when we got back together 6 months later, I found that I could not cum like I used to, and could only cum when I was in a position with him where my clitoris was being stimulated. None of the other positions that we ever did would work anymore.

My solution was that I stopped masturbating period, not only did it increase my sex drive, but every time that we had sex in the same positions that we used to when we were first together that made me cum, I came again. These same positions I couldn't cum in when I was over stimulating my clitoris through masturbation. THERE IS A LOSS OF SENSITIVITY, but more so a TRAINING OF THE BODY to only cum through clitoral stimulation. It took me a while to figure it out cause of all the bad information out there. I just couldn't seem to understand how before I started masturbating with my clitoris frequently we would have sex for hours and I would cum 5,6,7 times hard, but after I had started masturbating I couldn't cum from the exact same situations.

In short, stop training your body to cum only from clitoris stimulation and you will be able to cum from normal sex and with sex partners.

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Quki i ardit over a year ago

;-)XD:-|:-SWow girls, the comments made me crazy!

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Guest over a year ago

im 16 . i started masturbating at an early age. i can only have an orgasm wen i rub my clit after im done masterbating my vagina throbs? what does that mean and i cant have an orgasm when i have sex i dont know why.

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lalla over a year ago

i am 17 and i have the same problem its so frustrating i really wish there was something to fix this problem, but i am happy knowing i am not the only girl with this problem

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Guest over a year ago

Guest wrote: Hey girls well im 24 an iv never ever been able to orgasim with men, lord knws not for trying. I thought it was amotional reasons till i got brave enough to look it up. Its embarassing my partner belives me to orgasim alot. Through the years iv just gave up trying in a sense but not physically. its not him so i think well why punish him iv been through enough. Now reguarding you waiting for a orgasim may enhance you to orgasim with your partner, i must say NO WAY. I have 2 kids an im happy with a partner of now 5 years. I love him dearly an we dont always get the chance as in we mainly save the weekends for a nightly romantic night. So anyways im just sayng iv waited ALOT an it doesnt work. im happy i have support in this. Brilliant site

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sarah1989scorpio over a year ago

I am also 22 and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years and never had orgasm during sex until the last few months ago. While we were having sex I just laid back and started playing with myself like I would if he wasn't around I focused on how good it felt and how sexy it all was ;) it sometimes takes a long time of me playing with myself and its hard sometimes because my bf doesn't usually last very long during sex (alas lol) so I tell him to kind stop moving while his penis is inside of me ( he just stays inside and kisses my boobs and touches me its great!) pretty soon I can feel my climax coming and then then, it happens!!!!! lol I was so amazed at how great it felt it was a whole new outlook on sex for me I was like (in my mind) my god so this is what sex is! lol Anyways so yeah like 5 years without orgasm during sex so no it isn't weird there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to find your comfort zone get your bf to be quite and listen (help you out for once! lol ) and just do what you would do if he wasn't around. oh yeah and I've found the more I practice and do this the easier it is becoming! I really hope I can help someone out with this because I wet so many years trying to have climax during sex and thinking that my clit was desensitized it was very depressing for me.

happy orgasms

-Sarah

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Guest over a year ago

It's not the carried away part that's the problem, I do get carried away, but what can I do if i feel nada down 'there'...

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kaylee.barker07223813 over a year ago

I am 25 and have never obey had an orgasim during sex.. Unless i used my vibrator. Even if i do use my toy during sex it doesn't always work. Id much like to know how to have one so i don't have to be jealous of my bf pass gf when i hear how they would have multiple orgasims. Does this make my man not like me as much? Is there something wrong with me?

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kaylee.barker07223813 over a year ago

I have never had an orgasim during sex either Im 25. I have to use a vivrater for any type of climax. If i use my toy during sex... Sometimes it works but if Im getting of while get is having sex with me... Its very painful. I wish i could have orgasims during sex as well... I think i wouldn't then be so jealous when he talks about how his exs would have multiple ones during intercourse.. I never feel good enough. What's wrong with me???! :,(

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imjustlykeyou89 over a year ago

i started masterbating youn too n now i have to oral sex so i can before or after sex

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mrskilo over a year ago

I'm 18 and I've been with my husband for a year, I masturbate sometimes to him or porn and I can get an orgasm but I can't always get an orgasm during sex, this isn't because there's something wrong but simply your clitoris isn't placed correctly, what I mean is fingering/masturbating you can touch and know where and how you need to do it to get that orgasm, during sex you can't exactly get that position or touch you need, there's nothing wrong with you! But no one knows your body and your needs like you do :) not even your hubby

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Guest over a year ago

I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years. I have never had an orgasm during sex unless stimulated before hand whether it be through masturbation or oral thats how we work it any way. but just having intercourse doesn't work for me. also if were having sex he will sometimes stimulate my clitoris at the same time to give me an orgasm.

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Snow over a year ago

I have the same situation with you. I started masturbating since I was 7 and I'm 22 now. It took me a long time to get orgasm when I was little but It took me like 5 mins to come by just rubing my clit. I've never felt the same pleasure with a partner though. I did some research and find out clit is supposed to be the most sensitive part of women and too much masturbating does lead to desensitization of clitoris. I've thought about quit masturbating and see what would happen. I know it's very hard to do, but I'm gonna give it a shot I think.

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guest over a year ago

i cant have one masturbating or having sex...whats wrong with me...im 17

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Guest over a year ago

this happened to me as well. i was with my boyfriend for about 6 months and not once did he make me come, only when he fingered me. we got back together months later and i still couldn't orgasm with him. so we just tried different positions until we finially found one that worked

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