I don't enjoy sex?

Sounds to me like you're an asexual--join the club. Scientists hypothesize that between 1 and 6 percent of Americans are asexual--that is, not sexually attracted to anyone. I am ace, and although I still feel deep attraction to my partner, and sexually please her often, my sexual pleasure is mostly unattainable. But! There is good news. It seems like you have already discovered that asexuals can be sexually active--as I mentioned I am--without achieving orgasm. You are not broken, or missing something, just because you don't orgasm. Sex is NOT a basic human need, and is not even necessary at all for a loving, committed partnership. I'd say there isn't much you can do about it, so you might as well accept it--and be thankful for your wonderfully patient husband! I've had more than one relationship go south because someone has the gall to get offended that I don't want them to please me sexually. He sounds like a keeper!

If you have good commuication with your husband you should talk with him. Try some positions play, Make your fantasy become a reality. Try making yourself pleased alone then teach him what to do later. If absolutely nothing changes atleast you have discovered a man that loves. Intercourse isn't the most important part a relationship. Or else ask him to take anti-impotence pills. They are really helpful.

I'm the same way and I'm in my mid 20's .

Seems that there is a ton of people with this issue, more than I expected actually... Well as almost everyone else here I also have problems enjoying sex. I'm 18 and lost my virginity to my bf (he was virgin too) and well is just... "Meh...". I know that experience is a very important factor and everything but is not really only that, whenever he fingers me or goes down me I just don't have an orgasm, I mean it feels good but not enough to orgasm... The worst part is that I have to fake it everytime when he on the other side doesn't have too. I'm ashamed to admit that sometimes when I give him head and see how good he feels I kind of feel jelous of that and wonder how it would feel, it's seriously awful but I just don't know what to do... Any ideas on how I could change this??

Hi XxX girl, as you say experience is everything but to gain experience you have to know your doing good in the first place, if your faking an orgasm then your bf thinks if is hitting the right spot so will do the same all the time, I take it you can give yourself an orgasm though masturbation? I would suggest that you teach your bf how to give you an orgasm as most inexperienced guys just do what they see on porn movies but that doesn't always work on all woman as your all individuals there for all need different kinds of stimulation. Just be patient and spend time to teach him :-)

This is exactly where I am, and it makes me sad. They say that sex is 50% in our head, and my head has gotten to where it couldn't care less. Maybe after 30 years of marriage and what, maybe 10,000 acts of sex, I'm just burned out. I even had my doctor check me out. Health is fine, everything works. But it seems almost impossible to get revved up anymore.

Iam 28 years old had one serious relationship in my life.  I enjoyed sex w my ex but that was 4 years ago. Since then it just doesn't excite me!  I've had bad experiences w men in my past. And when ever would go out w someone new would dread the day when it came time to do the "deed".  It could be my own insecurities or my problems w men.  I never experienced an orgasm And the people around me make like there is something wrong w me for not reaching that desired goal. Lately I think of sex as something that is "gross" and messy just to make myself feel better for not having any?.  Iam not in a relationship now nor does it really bother Me.  I think if someone would learn of my disdain for sex they might just run! I always felt sex was a chore for me to do, something that I dreaded like working out or running on a treadmill, ughhhhhhh!!!don't know maybe there is something wrong w me!?

Hello, I am 24 (f) and have never had an orgasm. I can feel the physical pleasure but I can't get out of my head. I mostly feel awkward and obligated to act a certain way. My previous boyfriends were only out for themselves, but my current boyfriend (of just over three years) is incredibly patient and tries very hard to make it good for both of us. I have never been closer to someone and we have made some progress together, however I think I am just a bit defective as far as sexuality goes. I have no history of childhood trauma or "religious guilt". Sex is just sort of like reading an article or watching a show while waiting for an appointment. It's not bad (as long as it's with the right person) it's just not all it's hyped up to be. I assumed I was one of the rare people (women) who experience it this way, but it appears I was wrong, and that this is fairly common. OP, it is important for you to know that there is nothing you are doing wrong. Every person is unique. Some people enjoy sex more than others. Some people like the opera, others don't. It's not a big deal. From my personal experience, a lot of it has to do with self-confidence and personal growth. As I have become a stronger and more centered person, I find I can enjoy myself more. Figure out what you DO want, and feel confident when asking for it. Sometimes, all I want is time alone, but being respected in that makes everything better. I hope this helps, anyone, in some way. 

Wow. What an extremely self-righteous, ignorant, judgmental comment. You have your OPINION (NOT fact) about marriage, sex, and life, which is totally fine, but that does not mean others NEED to have the same views. If you don't like, get over it and live your OWN life. If you think, "yeah, but I am right..." just get ove yourself. A quote by Nietzsche says, "There are no facts, only interpretions." Nd of discussion.

I am the same way. I do not enjoy penetration at all. It does nothing for me. I am also jealous of others who love sex and get to experience that pleasure. I often get upset about it.
Is there no hope for us ?!?

I'm in my teens and I don't like sex all that much. It is a chore and the whole time, I just want it to be over. Don't get me wrong, I adore my boyfriend to death. And he does turn me on hella and stuff but for some reason, I get sore and achy and after I'm swollen. I don't know why. I'm a young female new to intercourse and I just can't orgasm or enjoy it. I really enjoy making out and touching but the act of it f*****g sucks.

Hey,
I'm 18,female, I've only ever been in relationships.
My first love at first I was never interested in sex but it was amazing I'd pretty much start getting really excited just touching him, & just his smell

My boyfriend is not supportive at all when i tel him.sex with him is uncomfortable and i tell him to slow down he wont listen and says im just complaining.i prefer oral and half the time these days cwnt wait for sex to be over.his immature attitude about it makes me.resent him and not eant it even more

I have the same problem I would enjoy the foreplay but not penetration I've had this issue my whole life and now I'm 26.I change partners still the same

Its all depends in ur mind dear, if u love it u will do it