Last night my boyfriend fingered me and it wasweird because ive never had anyone do that and he knows that. So he took it slow at first then went faster and it felt good but also not good because I felt kinda dizzy and my fingers got a ll tingly and my mouth went dry and it kina scared me. Also I didnt have an orgasm and he went on doing that for about half an hour so im wondering if something is wrong with me. I ended up telling him to stop because I was exhausted and it was getting to be too much. Is that normal?? I feel really bad too I feel like he might feel like he didn't do a good job and we havent talked since last night and im worried something is wrong but he knows I dont regret doing that and all because we talked about it after, but only about regret not anything else. I dont know what to do!! And im not ready to have sex yet so we're waiting for that and taking baby steps and this was the first one and now im scared to do stuff to him because I dont know what to do! I feel like im gonna mess this up and I dont want to... please help me!!!
Hi anonymous. What you was feeling can be quite normal if you was anxious about doing it for the first time and to not orgasm is also quite normal if you wasn't fully relaxed specially your first time. Was it your boyfriends first time fingering a girl to?
Sometimes it takes more than just internal stimulation to make a female orgasm so it can be a good idea to go from internal to clitoral stimulation and alternate between it.
Do you masturbate yourself when your alone if so how do you make yourself reach orgasm? you could always teach your bf the way you do it.
Most teen boys think it's easy to do but to give pleasure properly to a female through genital stimulation can be quite complex thing to do.
If you would like any more help feel free to ask and if you would rather talk privately just make yourself an account what is free and easy to do and I can private message you :-)
I don't know if it was his first time doing that and I don't masturbate... I was really anxious and nervous too. I think part of it was the fact that I'm really insecure and he was seeing ME for the first time and it kinda made me want to curl up in a ball and hide... I'm also really nervous for the next baby step where I'm going to have to do something for him and I have no clue what to do!! It's really freaking me out and it's been on my mind a lot and yeah I just don't know what to do exactly and I don't want to embarrass myself..
Are you saying this was the first time you see this guy and you went straight to letting him finger you?
If you don't feel ready just yet to give him a hand job then there is nothing that says you have to until your ready to do so because if he really cares about you he will understand and wait. Don't rush into anything your not ready for.
No! He's my boyfriend! We've been dating a while and I couldn't remember if he had or not but he hadn't and that's true...
That could also be a reason why you never orgasm if your bf is inexperienced as well next time it's ok to take his hand and to guide him to the place where you feel the most pleasure.
What feels good to one female doesn't necessarily feel the same for the next female it's just a case of experimenting and the same goes for what he likes done :-)