Well, you obviously married him on false pretenses. Making you sign an agreement is absolutly ridiculous as well. You have to make a decision because your bio clock is ticking. What do you want more? A baby or your marraige? Or a divorce? Many marraige's break up bc one or the other doesn't want a family. If you want both, you may have to get it from someone else. Your husband sound's selfish and he apparently lied to you on top of it. It's not your fault because he doesn't have a good relationship with his first set of children.
Get pregnant and raise the child, without him, even tho he is there. Or, stay with him and follow his rule's, meaning no children. He sound's pretty sure about his decision, this is something you really have to think about. Maybe once he see's his child with you, he may change completly, i don't know. I don't think i helped much and i can't tell you to leave him.
What did you do?
Your story is the same as mine. I dont know what to do?
I really want to be a mother but my husband after 5 years changed his mind or he had lied to me all this time. Im hearth broken too.
With a situation on a marriage with a visa tied on it, there's that question if he is thinking that you just want to have a baby to tied him to it and it's your meal ticket. He wants that legal agreement to make sure he is not being screwed up. Trust is hard to gain this days. Not even the person you love so much will give that 100%.
We have the same problem! accept it or leave.Don't expect that he'll change his mind.Clock is ticking!!!