Okay... I'm 20 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
This is my first pregnancy, and I'm awaiting to have an abortion, since it's the result of a violent rape.
Recently like 2 days ago, I found light brown discharge in my underwear, which means spotting or blood.. right?
And for the past few days I've been having severe pains in my lower stomach... and my vaginal area has been hurting alot too.
During the whole pregnancy I haven't experienced any bleeding at all..
And Also, My breastmilk has seriously been shooting out... and staining my shirts..
My mother says she thinks it's the signs of a miscarriage..
And the only reason I havent gotten my abortion is because my mom's not here yet. SO I'm waiting till at least this weekend or so.
She also said that I should go to an emergency room if I start bleeding.
As you can assume, I am young. I dont know anything about pregnancies.
I'm only 15.
Is this normal? Or Am I in danger?
This is my first pregnancy, and I'm awaiting to have an abortion, since it's the result of a violent rape.
Recently like 2 days ago, I found light brown discharge in my underwear, which means spotting or blood.. right?
And for the past few days I've been having severe pains in my lower stomach... and my vaginal area has been hurting alot too.
During the whole pregnancy I haven't experienced any bleeding at all..
And Also, My breastmilk has seriously been shooting out... and staining my shirts..
My mother says she thinks it's the signs of a miscarriage..
And the only reason I havent gotten my abortion is because my mom's not here yet. SO I'm waiting till at least this weekend or so.
She also said that I should go to an emergency room if I start bleeding.
As you can assume, I am young. I dont know anything about pregnancies.
I'm only 15.
Is this normal? Or Am I in danger?
The pain in your lower stomach could be ligament stretching. Cramps are also very common at this stage of pregnancy. A bit of spotting is also normal, it is only a sign of a miscarriage if it is red, brown discharge is normally old blood and nothing to worry about. Everything you have mentioned sounds like normal pregnancy symptoms.
Please if you are going to have the abortion get it done sooner rather than later. Do you have a friend that could go with you if your mum isn't there? Minors are allowed access to abortions without parental consent.
Good luck
Please if you are going to have the abortion get it done sooner rather than later. Do you have a friend that could go with you if your mum isn't there? Minors are allowed access to abortions without parental consent.
Good luck
This pain's also related with some really bad pain on my lower back.
It's not something I would describe as crampy though :-(
That's what worries me.
And the abortion clinic doesn't give information to minors for some reason here.
So I have to go with my mom, it's obligational.
Plus, my mom has the money to pay for the abortion and whatnot.
*sigh*
I honestly dont know what to do.
I've tried everything from tylenol/advil, to heating pads, to taking warm showers, to rubbing my stomach with rubbing alcohol.
And it's very sharp the pain.
It's not something I would describe as crampy though :-(
That's what worries me.
And the abortion clinic doesn't give information to minors for some reason here.
So I have to go with my mom, it's obligational.
Plus, my mom has the money to pay for the abortion and whatnot.
*sigh*
I honestly dont know what to do.
I've tried everything from tylenol/advil, to heating pads, to taking warm showers, to rubbing my stomach with rubbing alcohol.
And it's very sharp the pain.
At this stage of pregnancy your spine will be starting to bend to keep your centre of balance. Maybe it is something to do with this or the position that the baby is in at the moment. I am in Australia, so I don't really know what the go is with abortion where you are although most of what I have found allows for minor consent. I really hope your mum is back soon and this is over quickly for you. You could ring a medical/pregnancy hotline to get a professional opinion on the pain and decide if maybe you should take a trip to the hospital. Let me know how you go
About the abortion -- I too, expected to be able to get one without parental consent but I guess things are different in this state.
They give abortions up to 24 weeks.
And about these symptoms.. could it be that the fetus is not developing normally?
I have done really bad things like overdosing on various pills and what not..yet I never had a miscarriage..
Could it be that the damage that's been done to the fetus that's also messing me up?
:-(
They give abortions up to 24 weeks.
And about these symptoms.. could it be that the fetus is not developing normally?
I have done really bad things like overdosing on various pills and what not..yet I never had a miscarriage..
Could it be that the damage that's been done to the fetus that's also messing me up?
:-(
Do the pains come and go or are they constant? It could be that you are experienceing Braxton-Hicks contractions. It may be too early for that though, you would have to check. I am glad that you can get an abortion up to 24 weeks, I was worried that you might have a hard time finding a place that would do it. Apart from the pains are you feeling o.k? You've been through a lot. I hope there is someone that you can talk to
The pains are constant almost neverending.
I try and try to suck it up and just be patient till my mom gets here.
It's hard.
Apart from the pains, I'm a wreck mentally.. I think I'll need psychological help.
It's been really stressful and everytime I go through this pain, it just sets me back to that one incident that hurts me.
Not many people I can talk to, because not many know..
Either way they wouldn't understand my situation.
My mom has troubles understanding me as well.
:-(
But I guess I'll be alright.
I try and try to suck it up and just be patient till my mom gets here.
It's hard.
Apart from the pains, I'm a wreck mentally.. I think I'll need psychological help.
It's been really stressful and everytime I go through this pain, it just sets me back to that one incident that hurts me.
Not many people I can talk to, because not many know..
Either way they wouldn't understand my situation.
My mom has troubles understanding me as well.
:-(
But I guess I'll be alright.
Could you look up some rape hotlines? The people on the phones are usually councillors or people that have experienced rape. Maybe they could help you? When does your mum get back? It is not normal to be in constant pain during pregnancy. If you haven't been to the doctor since the rape it is possible that you have been infected with an STI. Some of these can present as severe abdominal pain. I think it would be a good idea to go to the emergency room. They can check to make sure you are not in any danger, and they can arrange some sort of help for you. This must be a really horrible time for you, I really hope you can find some support. If you want to talk privately, feel free to send me a personal message
How are you? I hope everything is going alright
Thanks for the concern..
I've been doin a little better.
In a few days I get my abortion done and whatnot.
So I'm less stressed.
I feel horrible.. health-wise though.
:-(
I've been doin a little better.
In a few days I get my abortion done and whatnot.
So I'm less stressed.
I feel horrible.. health-wise though.
:-(
Hi. I'm glad you will have the abortion done soon, hopefully the pains will go away and you can start feeling better. Let me know how it goes
You are so wrong about feeling better after the abortion. Although the pregnancy was a result of rape, having an abortion is going to put more mental stress on this girl. It is a huge trama to the body to have an abortion and even though the baby is unwanted, there will be a huge emotional trauma and feeling of loss.