Urrrm OK SO I KNOW THIS IS RELI LONG BUT JUST SKIP SOME AND FIND THE ? IF YOU DNT WANNA READ IT ALL. PLEASE HELP THANKEYOU!:L OK so im a girl im 14 and a half and ive been masturbating since i was about 10 or 11 and its getting harder for me to orgasm..I have to be alot rougher..and sometimes i struggle for breath, but if i dont finnish then i will feel unwell nd in pain all day..i dont like havting to masturbate, it makes me feel horrible and descusted with myself. i dont think it's wrong but i do not like doing it...I was sexualy abused at age ten or even younger(I think maybe I was 6 or near that), i dont remember much, i tryed to block it out..i never did tell anybody. and i still see the person who did it alont, as she is one of my sisters closest friends. she was about 16, 17 when she started using me for sex, telling me it was a game, i was brought up not knowing about this stuff so i thought she was telling the trueth..but i started hearing people talking and joking about it in school and it came up on some films on tv..thats when i started to realise it was wrong and thats why it was a secret and she knew i cliking on so she soon stopped, nd acted as if it never happened. i think now she thiks i dnt remember, or shes just a hard faced b*tch..Anyway when i was about ten i started gettin a wierd feelin in my p***y and it wudnt go away until i rubbed it and my nickers got wet, i obviously didnt realise i was masturbating, i just didnt like the feeling. and when I manage to finnish i cry and i get this horrible pulse feeling in my p***y..Is this normal? is there anyway i can make the urge to masturbate stop? Is there an easier way to orgasm faster? I have to do it once a day atleast. I hate it and I go get in the shower soon after and scrub myself..I have the feeling and I want it over with..Can anybody help? I reli dnt wanna tell my family whats gone on and I have no-one I can talk to, Im a relitivly shy girl and I keep myself to myself..I dont wanna see a shrink but I think I have to..But I know if I tell someone they will want me to go to the police and then through court and I carnt do it..Can anybody help me?? Please!! Im desparate!! I actually atempted suicide once and i still think about it sometimes..but i know i cudnt do it to my family. I love them so much. and Im scared they're gon be dissapointed at me..Im kind of religious too..and I believe God and Loved ones that have passed away can see you..And I feel like Ive let them down and that they will be descusted in me(I know I am) I always try to pray but I never know what to say..I just say sorri and that i will try to stop but its hard and i send my love to my dad(sorta) and say goodnight or have a nice day, then end it with Ahmen..:L Sorry about the life story but I needed to get it out..PLEASE PLEASE HELP MEE!!!:L :'(
It's normal to feel the urge to masturbate a lot... it's not normal for it to feel horrible though... I think you should see a therapist or something, but at 14 it's hard to know who to talk to. No one can make you go to the police if you don't want to, and I don't think you'd have to appear in court even if you did, but keep in mind that most abusers don't just do it to one person, so there could be a lot of people like you who feel the same way. I wish I could help more, sorry. :(
dear fir of all i feel sorry for u
u dont have to feel guilty and more cause it is not guilt to live with , i know how u feel , i feel u and iam sure it is not ur mistack , masterbating is not wrong thing to do , it is really normal thing to do or feel or do (masturbation i mean ) :)
feel free and this is ur moment enjoy it :)
u dont have to feel guilty and more cause it is not guilt to live with , i know how u feel , i feel u and iam sure it is not ur mistack , masterbating is not wrong thing to do , it is really normal thing to do or feel or do (masturbation i mean ) :)
feel free and this is ur moment enjoy it :)
There is nothing wrong with feeling sexual and masturbating , The pulsing is normal. Its all normal. But whats not normal but is common is sexual abuse/assault of a minor from a family member. I think your sister def remembers it and is probably hoping you just dont but you do. If you really do not want to talk to your mom or dad / family or a therapist then you have to at least say something to your sister. Sit down with her and talk it over. Bring it up and just let the conversation come natural. You feel dirty but you are not dirty. You are a normal young person whos reaching different sexual levels in your age. Its ok. The reason its taking longer and longer is because you are dong it too often. You are probably doing it too often because you are a survivor of sexual abuse. Notice i did not call you a victim, while i realize you were a victim. You are here and survived it. Now you just need to open up and work it out. PS... suicide is never an option OK.. so lets just forget that completely right now. Ok? ok. You were an innocent child and did nothing to deserve the sexual abuse. Wrap your arms around yourself and give that little 6 yr old girl a hug for yourself. Be strong and brave. Research how other survivors of sexual assault manage. Pray and have faith and dont ever feel ashamed of yourself or your sexuality. :).
thank you! and urrm it was my sisters friend..not my sister just to be clear. And no i dnt wanna talk to anybody..and i realise that suacide isnt an option now..and im glad i didnt go along with it bcuz i did tell my boyfriend and he was relii supportive and he listens to me whenever i need to talk and it does get most of the pain away for a while but i cnt seem to talk to him about masturbation or anything..so i just needed some advise..Urmm may I ask..do you know any other techneiques to orgasm faster?
dont feel sorry for me..it happens to may people im not special..and thanks and well do you know how i can orgasm faster? and can nobody report my problem plz it wa about 7 yrs ago and i dnt wanna hurt y family:L thank you.
I was sexually abused as a child as well and didn't talk to anyone until I was 28. You don't have to talk to anyone if you don't want to, but there will maybe come a time when you will feel the need to. A therapist can help alot.
There is nothing dirty or guilty about masturbating. Almost everyone does it. I think it's taking you longer to reach the finish line because of the guilt feelings. If you can come to realize that the throbbing is just caused by the extra blood flow of arousal draining off, and that masturbating is normal, even healthy, the problem of taking a long time to orgasm will get better as well. Also such things as hormone changes throughout the month can cause you to go quicker or take longer. No one has a set time limit every time. As women we are rarely the same twice in a row.
Hi, I'm 14 in July and I have almost a identical problem as you..I have had nobody to talk to either...I was sexually abused when I was 3 and ever since i randomly get a weird feeling in my *area* of discomfort and that I need to masturbate...it happens in school, at night and it is VERY uncomfortable ..I was wondering if it was the same thing as you described.. please can we talk some time as I am desperate for some advise...I beg, please reply I feel so alone with my problem.. thank you ❤️
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masturbation is normal, it is good for your health, you should do it as much as you can.