I used to masterbate 3/4 times a week (nothing unusual) but found that I could not ejaculate when I had real sex. The problem got worse with weak erections. I know that there can be lots of causes for erection problems but when I stopped (well nearly stopped) masterbating I was all right with real sex again. I guess masterbating affects different people in different ways but it was bad for me. I stll find it really hard not to do it though. Has anyone else had the same problem?
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hey man. if you were using a condom when you had sex that could be the issue. the first few times i had sex i couldn't cum either. i thought that was really weird and that i had desensitized myself by masturbating for years. eventually i got the chance to try it without a condom and realized it was all good. those things really dampen the experience and then once you don't cum the first time you get nervous the next time cause the girl probably said something when you didn't and it just gets even worse from there. funny thing is after i had sex without a condom once i could cum with condoms after that (i think there was a confidence issue there). a friend of mine actually told me he had the exact same experience of not being able to cum the first time he had sex and i've known a few other guys that just can't cum with a condom on no matter what. just don't worry about it and if you need to take a breather from masturbating to be worked up enough to cum during sex then just go ahead and do it. i still need to do that sometimes myself. im sure its not a product of desensitization from too much masturbating, just the simple fact that guys take awhile to recharge. hope that helps.
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I wouldn't listen to the advice about not using a condom. Yes they can lessen the sensitivity but thats much better than having a baby to worry about!
I don't think masturbation has ruined you, I think that the next time you have sex you should take your time, have lots of foreplay and not worry too much, it will happen eventually. Just enjoy it!
I don't think masturbation has ruined you, I think that the next time you have sex you should take your time, have lots of foreplay and not worry too much, it will happen eventually. Just enjoy it!
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do NOT heed advice about unprotected sex unless you are trying for a child.
the probable cause of this is psychological. having sex is a lot different from masturbation. anxiety about performance or underlying worry about your body can affect you, and many men find it difficult to climax during intercourse!
stopping masturbating for a while probably built up your sex drive so much you came easily when you next had sex, this doesnt mean masturbation is ruining you
I wouldnt think you could desensitize yourself by masturbating 3 or 4 times a week, if you want a more sensual feel, you can try looking into condoms which are coated in lubricants that give off sensations for both you and your partner. durex tingle or heat are two examples.
but again, dont have unprotected sex. unless your partner is on constant hormonal contraception, pill/IUD/implant/nuvaring etc.
the probable cause of this is psychological. having sex is a lot different from masturbation. anxiety about performance or underlying worry about your body can affect you, and many men find it difficult to climax during intercourse!
stopping masturbating for a while probably built up your sex drive so much you came easily when you next had sex, this doesnt mean masturbation is ruining you
I wouldnt think you could desensitize yourself by masturbating 3 or 4 times a week, if you want a more sensual feel, you can try looking into condoms which are coated in lubricants that give off sensations for both you and your partner. durex tingle or heat are two examples.
but again, dont have unprotected sex. unless your partner is on constant hormonal contraception, pill/IUD/implant/nuvaring etc.
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Actually, the more you masterbate, the more semen your body produces.. because your body tries to replenish and replace it's normal levels...
example: If you only cum once a week, each time you do cum will produce about the same amount as the previous week..
If you "spank it" once a day, then each day you do cum will be about the same every day.
if you "spank it" a couple times a day, every day for a week or two... then take a day or two off.. you'll blow a bigger load then when you were doing it once a week or once every day...
Also, exercise and eating healthy should help in producing more "jizz" (testoserone will increase) and in keepin "it" up longer and stronger (improves circulation/blood flow).... so start jogging and eating your fruits and veggies and blah blah blah... you get the drift
example: If you only cum once a week, each time you do cum will produce about the same amount as the previous week..
If you "spank it" once a day, then each day you do cum will be about the same every day.
if you "spank it" a couple times a day, every day for a week or two... then take a day or two off.. you'll blow a bigger load then when you were doing it once a week or once every day...
Also, exercise and eating healthy should help in producing more "jizz" (testoserone will increase) and in keepin "it" up longer and stronger (improves circulation/blood flow).... so start jogging and eating your fruits and veggies and blah blah blah... you get the drift
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yeah that happened to me i havn't had none for a effin year all i did was play then i had some like last week without a condom then i ended up beating her sheit for a good hour and i couldn't cum in side of her she had birth control Cudddieee
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