I just wanted to post since I stumbled across this forum by accident.
My fiancee has been experiencing some pain during sex, and I was hoping to research to find a way to allow her to get more satisfaction from our love life, free of pain.
When I read the first few posts, I was actually startled.
As a man, I have a different perspective on the issue.
I can honestly say that I find larger labia minora to be extremely sexy.
I think the common perception is that women with a pronounced labia minora are "loose."
I have heard disparaging comments from friends of both sexes to this effect.
I believe this negative view of pronounced labia minora is just a cultural thing and does not represent the true feelings of most people ... men included.
Honestly, my fiancee has a very small labia minora. I love her all the same, even though I do not instinctively find it as sexy as women who have a more pronounced labia minora.
My main point is simply that you shouldn't despair.
I am sure every part of my body doesn't appeal 100% to my fiancee.
Our sex life is very gratifying and we are plenty attracted to each other nonetheless.
It is perfectly natural for us to feel we aren't big enough (stereotypical male conception) or are too big (this forum post).
I can assure you ... there are men out there, and plenty of them, who are extremely turned on by wonderfully pronounced labia minora.
My advice, enjoy your body. It is unique, and I'm sure its beautiful.
We all come in different shapes and sizes, and I can promise you the more you enjoy your body, the more comfortable you are in your skin, the sexier you will be.
When you love yourself and find yourself sexy ... then so will the men in your life.
I hope this perspective helps.
My fiancee has been experiencing some pain during sex, and I was hoping to research to find a way to allow her to get more satisfaction from our love life, free of pain.
When I read the first few posts, I was actually startled.
As a man, I have a different perspective on the issue.
I can honestly say that I find larger labia minora to be extremely sexy.
I think the common perception is that women with a pronounced labia minora are "loose."
I have heard disparaging comments from friends of both sexes to this effect.
I believe this negative view of pronounced labia minora is just a cultural thing and does not represent the true feelings of most people ... men included.
Honestly, my fiancee has a very small labia minora. I love her all the same, even though I do not instinctively find it as sexy as women who have a more pronounced labia minora.
My main point is simply that you shouldn't despair.
I am sure every part of my body doesn't appeal 100% to my fiancee.
Our sex life is very gratifying and we are plenty attracted to each other nonetheless.
It is perfectly natural for us to feel we aren't big enough (stereotypical male conception) or are too big (this forum post).
I can assure you ... there are men out there, and plenty of them, who are extremely turned on by wonderfully pronounced labia minora.
My advice, enjoy your body. It is unique, and I'm sure its beautiful.
We all come in different shapes and sizes, and I can promise you the more you enjoy your body, the more comfortable you are in your skin, the sexier you will be.
When you love yourself and find yourself sexy ... then so will the men in your life.
I hope this perspective helps.
Well, I have a larger labia minora too and I have been so self conscious about it up until now. I am so thankful I found this.
I'm in an awesome relationship right now and its the only relationship that I've been in that has gotten this sexual. My boyfriend has been wanting to go down on me but I keep telling him no because of being embarrassed about my labia. I personally think its so unattractive but idk seeing the comments on this site from a few guys saying that its sexy is making feel much more accepting of it.
Although I feel a little better about it, I'm scared to allow my boyfriend to see just cuz I don't want it to ruin what we have. But you know what if he truly cares about me my larger labia minora what matter. This is what I'll tell myself and I hope every other girl with it will say this to herself as well. We're all beautiful just the way we are. :-) If guys find this minor defect attractive then even better!
I'm in an awesome relationship right now and its the only relationship that I've been in that has gotten this sexual. My boyfriend has been wanting to go down on me but I keep telling him no because of being embarrassed about my labia. I personally think its so unattractive but idk seeing the comments on this site from a few guys saying that its sexy is making feel much more accepting of it.
Although I feel a little better about it, I'm scared to allow my boyfriend to see just cuz I don't want it to ruin what we have. But you know what if he truly cares about me my larger labia minora what matter. This is what I'll tell myself and I hope every other girl with it will say this to herself as well. We're all beautiful just the way we are. :-) If guys find this minor defect attractive then even better!
Im glad I found this website so i can read everyones thoughts and opinions on this. I'm 16 and going through my very insecure teenage years as what my dad would call it. i have large labia also and I am VERY insecure about it. I think they are so gross and disgusting looking. I wish I didn't have them and I know they are normal and common but I do not like having them. I was in 7th grade when I noticed I was different down there from my best friend. I was in the shower with my her after swimming and I was shaving my legs when my friend noticed my large labia and was completely weirded out about them, because she did not have that and they look so strange. she said, "it looks like a turkey gobbler!" it pretty much scarred me for life. lol I absolutely hate having them and I'm considering the surgery but I don't think my mom wants to pay for me to get this at such a young age. I am still a virgin and I do not feel comfortable having any guy down, touching, or in there because of my large labia. Most of my friends don't have a larger labia so they seem more normal and I wish mine looked like that too, I would be so much more comfortable with my lady business. I am with this guy who is basically my first love and he is VERY experienced, he's older and obviously a turned on high school boy. I've mentioned this to him and he has been with girls that have this too but he doesn't seem to like it as much as a normal sized labia or no labia. I've talked to other teenage older boys and VERY sexually active and experienced, they think large labia minora's are gross. one guy friend of mine actually broke up with his girlfriend because she had that. obviously he didn't care for her and it was his loss. but hearing all this just makes me even more insecure about mine. I am not comfortable with them and I think their gross, they almost look like balls. :$ I don't know how to accept them or feel sexy and comfortable with my boyfriend if he thinks they are gross also. I know he loves me no matter what and for who I am but that still doesn't change the fact there is something not "sexy" about me. I want to be perfect in his eyes and having a gross large labia minora doesn't help. I just wish I did not have a large labia minora so I could be a lot more comfortable with myself and not so self-conscious . :-(
hey girl, im going threw the same thing.... but if both of your labias are bigger, than lucky you. mine is different, on of them is totally normalm and the other is a lot bigger, id ont know if this is normal. but i always have the thought of a guy being turned off by it... anyone who has something to say. pleaseee respond. :-(
I'm a guy who loves the female form and personally find that long or short labia minora is not an issue. General body and face attractiveness are so much more important for sex appeal, that the size or shape of the labia is not even on the radar. So, instead of considering surgery, consider other ways to make yourself more attractive to guys: get fit, work on your hair, etc.
Now, just to be clear, if a girl is not really that feminine or not attractive, I could see a case where large labia accompanied by a large clitoris can be a real turnoff since it may start to resemble a small penis. Other than that, not an issue at all.
Now, just to be clear, if a girl is not really that feminine or not attractive, I could see a case where large labia accompanied by a large clitoris can be a real turnoff since it may start to resemble a small penis. Other than that, not an issue at all.
Women like you are superficial beings. It so easy to say if some one loves you they will not look at the size of the breast etc. If you werent fat and was a pretty skinny girl...you would not look at a short black guy and find him attractive....i am sure thet even now you wouldnt...but if a guy was to comment on the breast or any other part it become sacrilage...stop misleading people
eew i hate it it looks horrible ! ee :-( i wish i was like most other girls why me;(
Ladies, dont do it! Real men love you the way you are. I personally find large labia minor very exciting, and deserving of detailed (slow) exploration, untangling, spreading out, etc. Same for the boobs - keep them natural instead of artificial, and I'll be more attracted to you.
hello there...i have the same problem as you girls and i feel very sad and desperate about that. I'm 19 and i have never had sex with anyone until now and i think that i will never have because of my labia minora size that is tooo big. I'm thinking in this way: It is my vagina and i think that it is veryy ugly so how can someone else for example my boyfriend think it's sexy?? I dont really understand that. I would like to know how are youre sizes of labia minora? Can anyone of you tell me with examples or with cm? because i dont think anyone of you have the size that i have that is veryy big...pleaseee write back to mee because i need youre answers. THANKSS A LOOOT from everyone that have posted in this web!
Extended labia minora are beautiful. Some cultures go to great lengths to encourage young girls to stretch their labia minora through pulling. Many men, like myself, absolutely adore long labia minora. If any future partner of mine did not have an extended labia minora I would feel that something was missing.