My 14 year old daughter having sex

Alright im 14 and im with an awesome boyfriend who i love tons and i really want to be with him, but hes asked me if ill have sex with him. I dont know what to do i really love him and i want it too but i know the consequences i cant talk to my mom about this does anyone have any advice on what i should do, and if i decide to go ahead? 

make sure to use a condom and leave a little room at the end. I'm 15 and have a set of 6 month old twins, and all though I was not the pregnant one, my girl friend got made fun of all the time and called a s***.

I know this post was from a few yrs ago but after reading this i couldnt belive how it was like u took the words right out of my mouth. I need ur help cuz i just found out myself from a text message that my 14 yr old daughter is having sex with her 14 yr old bf of 1 1/2 yrs. My husband cant even look at her nor be in the same room as her and I know she needs me cuz we all know the relationships not gonna last and i do not want my daughter having sex but i cant brea them up either that would kill her and i am so scared for when it does happen i want to protect my daughter but i cant and it hurts so bad pleas anyone help me. My daughter is a dumb girl she very smart popular great in sports and a amazing daughter  to be honest i once thought she was a perfect daughter and could belive i was so lucky. I wish i would of stoped them hanging so much I wish i was a better mom to know.  I always talked to my daughter about sex i am a very open person i never lied to her about me being a young mom at 18. Someone please help me i cant even see my computer sceen cuz i am cring so hard ... ..... i feel so helpless

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i wish someone would tell me how to handle my 14 yo daughter who has sex with random strangers because she says it doesn't hurt as much as if she has it with, say, someone she knows.  she doesn't even know their names cos she says they all go by fake names anyway.  i caught her sexting a few weeks ago & my husband & i took away her cell, her facebook account & just talked & spent as much time with her (she sleeps with me so we talk a lot - or so i thought - until i now shamefully have to admit that she only tells me what i want to hear) & we thought she was making progress, going to school, doing her house chores, etc.  & then i found out yesterday night, that she had sex with a random stranger she met on the street 'cos he said he liked the way she looked.  she said she needed to feel attractive (she's a bit on the plump side) & the guy made her feel that.  she knows she will never see him again, & she doesn't want to, & she said it's easier this way cos there's no "connection", so she doesn't get hurt.  my heart is broken.  it's like this everytime, we'll discuss about boys & sex & why some things should be done, & what she should or shouldn't do in some situations, & then she goes out & does the complete opposite.  she didn't use a condom & now i fear STD & pregnancy.  i'm so numb.  i don't know what to do.

you just stand by her side and tell her you'll get through it

My 14 year old daughter just told me her and her boyfriend are going to have sex arount her 15th birthday. She said that is both what they want. I told her she should wait and she got really mad at me. We did talk about what could happen if she does. Like she could be pregnant, or possibly catch a std. She was like well he is going to use a condom. I said well they are only 85% effective. So right now we are not on speaking terms. What do I do? If I forbid her from seein him she will go behind my back. And now everything is wrong I say and I cant do anything right. She basically hates me. I am really scared, do not know what to do. She is my only daughter. Her father has never been around, so I have know one to talk to her besides me. Please someone help m:'(

If you can't dissuade her, and you probably can't, get her on birth control so she won't get pregnant. You may not like the idea but it beats the alternative. You can make sure she knows it doesn't mean you approve of what she wants to do and why you are doing it.

You may be able to change her mind or find someone who can. Kids listen to others more readily than their parents many times so is there someone you know who she trusts?

im sorry to say but im 13yrs old and i am a really popular boy in skl, not to be bragging but i really attractive to the girls nd i have had abou 33 girlfriends and i slept with atleast 10 of them and had sex i really enjoyed it but my mum know to cause shes a milf and a w****

Okay, this is crazy. You parents act like this is the end of the world. Do you realize how much sex is integrated into our teen lives everyday? If it happened, it happened. There's nothing you can do to stop it. If you get mad at your child about it, it makes them feel less close to you. They also need room and the ability to make their own mistakes. Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean you can stop it from happening. You also have to consider the maturity of the child. Some can handle it, just let them work it out by themselves instead of smothering them with "chaperoning" and all these crazy things. It's really not that big a deal, just make sure that they have protection and they're being smart about it. Us teens have a whole other life away from our adult family. We're practically another person, and most of you should remember that you were the same way. You have to let them be them and figure out life on their own.

Obviously this is written by a teen.....if it was written by an adult with children they would have a different view

Is she single, cause my penis is ready to mingle.

Tonight....what a bad night.  I was moving my 14 yo daughters laptop from her bed to the nightstand so it wouldnt over heat......to my surprise and disappointment - I read that she had sex and thinks she is pregnant.  She is 5 days late.  This was her first bf and only together 1 month......she says she said no but he insisted. 

A little background.....we are an average family - good parents - always home, family dinner each night, nice home, animals.....she is a good kid decent grades - private tutor - except lately she has been extremely distant, mouthy with me and somewhat depressed.  During spring break she lied to me says she was going to a friends house when in fact she went to the bf house.  I was in shock that afternoon when I saw them drive up.....she left then I called my husband to pick her up at his house - she was only there maybe 30 min at the most.  Evidently this is when it happened. 

She has lied so much lately I dont know when to believe her.  I have tried so hard with my 2 girls to always be there and be someone they could come to.  But not in this case she has confided in her friends.  I feel like this is my fault - because I let her leave the house with him and his sister that day when they went to his house.  I have so much guilt...its eating at me.  I searched and found this website....I cannot sleep and I am sick to my stomach.

My husband went crazy on her tonight.....he was so hurt and disgusted all at the same time.  I thought he would either break down or have heart failure.  I tried to calm him so we could talk about it but he ranted and raved for about 30 min.  I know this was not the best way to handle it...but were in shock and disbelief........tomorrow is her 15th Bday.....not much of a celebration tomorrow.  My husband wants to look at boarding schools.....is this really the answer? 

Just not sure how to proceed from here.  I plan on getting her a Dr appointment just to get checked out and test run.  She said later tonight she started but Im not convinced.   It hurts so much.  She is my baby....I know it was going to happen but not like this and certainly not at this age.  She totally isnt ready.  I have a 21 yo daughter that waited until she was 19/20 yo to have sex and she is now engaged to this person - they plan to marry after college.......

HMMMMM....what to do.  how do I get over this feeling?  HELP!!!  I am exhausted but I lay down and cannot go to sleep my mind wont shut down.

Thanks for any advice.

We had the same problem my bf was having sex with 1girl from our class. When her father find out he told my bf to how shod I say this (f**k) so hard in anal that it hurt her. And it worked then she dident Wana have sex with him. I am just saying.

Hi Brandee
You daufgter is hiding thid from you because she feels guilty. Now that you have confronted her, have another talk. Be kind and understanding and rememnber how it was for you when you were young. Do not stop her from seeing the boy but you can control her seeing him outside of certain hours. Has she had sex instruction? If not that is a priority for you.
If she is going to have sex again, which is most likely, make sure she has condoms and uses them,