My 14 year old daughter having sex

I am a teenage male myself, and I find some of the vlaims within this topic not only annoying but downright discriminatory, and in fact sexist. So it is now that I throw the idea that no trickery was involvedinto the ring, and hope it's not too late to change your baseless opinions of us. Also, I firmly believe that anyone capable of the most basic of tasks should be granted privacy, and that many of you found out about your children's problems by intruding upon this.

Get ADT installed if you can and dont let her know

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Pray for the best and make sure she is on birth control of some kind.

 

Seriously, shielding your teen from this "supposed threat" is really not the way to go. Honestly, it seems like the most logical option to try and force yourself to prevent this from happening, but that just doesn't work. You should educate your kid and talk to her about it. Do not scare her about sex, do not tell her false lies or supposed facts about sex, rather, teach her how to be safe and acknowledge the fact that you do not think she is old enough for it. Trust me, if you talk to your kids in a calm, authoritative manner then she will understand and listen to you and everything will be hunky dory. It's never worth doing anything out of fear...don't worry if you think your kid isn't telling you stuff. Every kid does it one time or another, it is inevitable. So ultimately it's your job to rightfully educate your kids on safe sex and keep supporting her by being a mother, not a bodyguard.

The single most important thing that you can do Brandee is ensure that your daughter understands the importance of using adequate protection.

If you try to protect your daughter, as tempting as this is, you run the risk of driving her to having more sex as a form of rebellion.  Instead I suggest that you accept that your daughter is growing up and act around her accordingly.

i am 44 an have 2 married daughters i put them both on the pill at 13. am explained to them that sex is a natural thing. an should be ehtered into thoughtfully,dont confuse love with sex! love will come later when you find mr right. so for now enjoy the great feeling of sex. its not just for peeing thru have fun . luv mom

then you should had him arrested, i dont know what state your in but in my state it illegal for a boy to have sex with under age of 18 year old girl. by legal rights you could have sent him in prison for more than 20 years at least. dont blame it on teenage hormones. what you just describe is illegal and criminal in my state. good luck

to be honest i dont know why your so upset. i'm 14 and i have lost my virginity? so what? As long as you use protection and stay safe then i dont see the problem with it. If both people are willing there is nothing you can do to stop them. Take a chill pill, life goes on :P

Try to be in touch with her othervise she may go out of you entirely

Hi! Don't worry. Try to be more close to her. Othervise she may go out of you to this bastard. And don't forget that she already feels herself ADULT PERSON.

Is this thread all serious? Madness. It's you that needs the help not your children.

I thought once divorced I would not date much, obstain from sex and focus on my two daughters. So as to show them that sex was serious and not just a recreational past time like it is for some females of various ages. Now I know in this day and age it is not commen  practice to obstain until marriage. So I suggested love and respect yourself before allowing a guy to even have a chance. Have feelings for the guy, you know seeing fire works and feeling those butterflies in your belly. Well it worked on my now 23 year old. She was 20 when she lost her virginity. My now 14 year old, well I don't think heard a word I said, if she did it was blah blah blah blah blah. She had sex for the first time at the tender age of 12 with, ready for this, her two child hood friends, 11 year old girl and 13 year old boy. A three some, I am mom and never experienced that any age. She has had sex 3 more times since the first. She has been with a gay guy a 23 year old and an 18 year old. She has recieved and given oral sex to both male and female. She tells me she is exploring her sexuality. And with talking to therapists this generation is very sexually aggressive. Maybe due to easy accessability to Internet and sexual content on t.v. thanks to cable.do not blame yourself. We as parents try to instill good old fashioned values,but at the end of the day it it comes down to the choices our children make.

What u should do is talk, be calm. Do not lecture her or yell, or ground her, this will definitely backfire. Make her aware of the dangers, get her condoms and birth control just incase, notify his parents so they are aware and ABSOLUTELY do not separate them, that could make her very rebellious and she'll purposely defy u as payback, just ease her into this and talk.

look if nothing bad happened, then there is nothing to worry about.  You are naturally very protective over your children, but if anything, it is a blessing not a curse, just tell her to be safe and that's all you should say,