My 4-year old daughter masturbates????

!??! ... Do Some Research .... MASTURBATION Is COMPLETELY NORMAL And SAFE !!!



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It's GOOD That You Let Her Masturbate ..... BUT ..... It's called MATURBATING ... Not DOING YOUR PRIVATE THING ... So Say ARE YOU MASTURBATING ... not Are You Doing Your Private Thing . . . . . HOWEVER ... Calm Down .... Don't Raise Your Voice ... Get Used To Her Doing It ... She WON'T GROW OUT OF IT .... So Learn To Live With It for the Rest Of You Life.

Yes It IS Normal ... AND Healthy. No She WON'T Grow Out Of It ... She'll do it more as she gets older, because that's what happens ... Yes TELL Her To Do It ONLY In Private: Let her go to her room if you have Guests (tell her to say that she's just going to her room for a rest) . . . . . If you are alone with her at home, let her Take Her Pants Off and Masturbate FREELY around the house, but tell her she can only Do That if you and her are alone. But Whatever You Do ... DO NOT Distract Her or inply that IT'S WRONG.

Absolutely Nothing sweetie !!! ..... Your Little Boy Is COMPLETELY NORMAL . . . . . Let Him Masturbate.

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babyblues1222 wrote:

Guest...your daughter sounds like mine. I haven't actually had my daughter take her pants down because she seems to enjoy it enough, I think, with her pants on. Anyway, the shopping cart used to be one of the places that really bothered me, but she has finally stopped doing that. I had to tell her that she won't be able to go to the store with me anymore if she keeps doing it, and that pretty much worked. In her chair is her "preferred", but now, all I have to say is "Are you doing your private thing?" and "Where do you need to go to do that?"...she gets up and goes to her room. We still have issues in the carseat, but pretty soon she will be moving to a booster, so I am hoping it stops then. I do think it is something they grow out of or atleast do less of. The only time she does it is at home, so I don't worry about her doing it at school or anything.

I know it is frustrating...but try not to get mad at your daughter...and believe me, I know its hard, and I have caught myself raising my voice with her over this 'private thing'....but I just have to keep telling myself it is normal, she will grow out of it, and it bothers me more than it bothers anyone else, including her.

Good luck and good to hear your story!

It's GOOD That You Let Her Masturbate ..... BUT ..... It's called MATURBATING ... Not DOING YOUR PRIVATE THING ... So Say ARE YOU MASTURBATING ... not Are You Doing Your Private Thing . . . . . HOWEVER ... Calm Down .... Don't Raise Your Voice ... Get Used To Her Doing It ... She WON'T GROW OUT OF IT .... So Learn To Live With It for the Rest Of You Life.

First of all....don't TELL me how to talk to my daughter. She is 4 years old, and I don't think I need to tell her the "official" term for what she is doing. She knows it is something to do in private, so that is what we call it. I never said she would grow out of masturbating, but she would grow out of the urge (or atleast be able to fight the urge) to do it while in public or while other people are around. I have never told her it is a bad thing, just something she should only do when she is by herself, including not around me or her dad.

I'm wondering if you are even a parent because it doesn't seem like you even know how to talk to a preschooler at all.

And I think you are very rude..."Learn to live with it..."!!!! Are you kidding me?!?!? What do you think I have done...I haven't punished her for doing this, I haven't abandoned her, I am her mother, and a damn good one at that! The reason I posted on this site was just to see how other parents handle it. If you have not been in this situation, which it doesn't seem you have, then I think you should just keep your s*ut!!

This is what I dont understand about this place sometimes. People get on here and act like they know what to do with a little one when they dont have one. I'm not going to tell my 1 year old that him humping a pillow when he is sleepy is masturbating bc it is not. It is something comforting to him when he is restless he has done this since he was born. And little kids like this do not know what they are doing at there age all they know is that it feels good and it once again COMFORTS them. So I guess when I have another child I need to tell them ok go ahead and materbate. But masterbate alone. No you just tell them dont o it or you tell them that it is there own private thing. And to do it elsewhere. Masterbation for a male is usually when he pulls his penis out and rubs it vigorously. But my son doesnt do that and I'm pretty sure babyblues daughter doesnt do what a normal female does for masterbation. So therefor our children are not masterbating just merely comforting themselves when restless. So therefor I will not learn to live with it and he will grow out of it eventually but untill then I will tell him it is his private thing do it alone. Thank you and have a nice day!!!!! 8-|

I completely agree :)

Me too!!!! LOL XD

Teen mom gets my vote. :-)
When I was a kid (around 5-7 years old) I would sit in front of the water jets in the pool or rub against my hand. I knew it felt good but I obviously didn't know or care about masturbation then, I just liked doing it.
By the time I was old enough to know about masturbating I was doing my best to hide it from my parents anyway.

let her be...she wants to do that, let her, keep it private, i was a girl and i humped everything in front of everyone, that leaded to problems, but leave her be

I know this response is almost a year late but I figured I would write this for other mothers who googled this like I just did. I was once one of those little girls who masturbated at a young age. I remember it very well. I would use chairs and I remember starting around 4yrs of age. I would do it infront of people, at friends houses, at school. I can explain it best as I would get that "throbbing" feeling down there where there was a burst of stimulation and I had to get it to stop by rubbing on a chair. It wasn't something I could control. It was just a need that had to be fullfilled. I was very embarrassed by it, my brothers would make fun of me. I remember my mom taking me to the doctor to see what was wrong, I do remember bieng treated for the condition someone stated above. But that wasn't it, I was masturbating. I never spoke about it. I just now decided to research it because I have my own daughter who is currenlty 18 monthd and I was just curious if it would be something she would go through. I am glad to know it is normal. I thought I was just sexually advanced or something. I think the main thing parents should know is that if they do this it does not mean your daughter is going to be sexually active early or permiscuous. I stayed a virgin until 17 and was not permiscuous. I think the best advice is not to make a big deal about it, it is embarrassing enough for the child. Be supportive and open with the child. I would encourage them to do it in private and be there for them if they need to talk to you about it. I realize it is hard to see your little girl taking part in "sexual" acts at a young age but trust me it is not sexual at all at that age. I didn't know what I was doing or why. I just knew it tingled down there and if I rubbed it it would adventually release the tension.

My 4 year old does this "private thing" but what i would like to know is. Is it something related with the hormones or something genetic. I remember myself doing it when i was her age. Without anyone yelling at me itself i developed this guilt and had low self esteem during my adolescence.  I did not know how to stop my instincts. During my adulthood i was detected with PCOD (irregular menstrual cycle). Higher level of androgens due to lower conversion of androgens to Progestrone. Luckily it was a minor case and am blessed with two kids. But i came out of this instinct only after marriage.

But does masturbating at a younger age indicate some kind of hormonal deficiency which can pose a problem in the future. Or is it simply the genes or structure of the organ where the clitoris seems to protrude a bit which results in quick activation and consequently kids discovering it sooner than they should.

Hmm its bad that you did not let my question pass by and asked to do a research but my question is part of that research. Its normal its safe yes nothing wrong with it. But such instincts has an influence on the kids well being. At least some of them gets affected emotionally by this habbit. Then why is it not considered as a problem why is there no medical research going on such issues.

Its not about doing the private thing..it is that risk of emotional damage that parents might unknowingly inflict in the kid or the kid might develop due to the feeling of doing something which father and mother does not approve. What is its impact on their self esteem and confidence is what we need to discuss. The fact that only one third of toddlers does this private thing and not others raises the question what makes them different from the others. Medical research on such issues could be more helpful.

 

 

I am a 16 year old girl and used to masturbate when I was your daughter's age. My parents told me off for it and made me think that it was a horrible and embarassing thing to do and I have always thought that I was weird and one of the only people who started masturbating at this age, until I just decided to look it up on the internet and it's a relief to find out that this is actually normal! I would say that the best thing to do is not to make her feel like she is doing anything wrong, but you don't seem to want to take that approach anyway- as long as you keep trying to distract her, I think you are doing the right thing. :)

I know this is an old post but i was wondering how things have turned out? i could have written this exact post. my first google search had me worried my daughter had some rare form of OCD that compels her to masturbate constantly lol. I think from this post its normal, and the requency has been triggered by stress or bordom since its often how she passes the time when having a time out around the corner or watching TV. I think she discovered it by balancing on a table and then became addicted, we refer to it as her "exercises". Anyways just wanted to know a year later has the novelty worn off? I just want her to stop doing it in public!!