My 4-year old daughter masturbates????

I just found this post on a search online I made at my wit's end. My daughter is 4 and a half, and started masturbating at about 3 months old. That seems crazy to say now, but I can remember her humping us when we would hold her and me wondering what the heck. I've heard the same, "it's normal leave it alone," stuff from the docs, but it seems to be ramping up again. She did it all day the other day at daycare in front of the other kids, and has been removing herself at regular intervals in the evening to go up to her room and "rub." The problem is that she's hurting herself. She is literally rubbing herself raw. I understand there are variations of normal, but I was curious, because I see these posts are a year old or so, how things worked out with you. Your daughter must be in school now... has it settled down?

Hi,

DId she ever use a pillow to masturbate? Cuz my lil girl just turned 5 and she is dry humping pillows. i tell her to stop and she just gets angery.

 

im sorry to bother but i caught my 4 yr old niece touching my 3 yr old daughter i immediately freaked out and started yelling what would your advised be in regards to this ???

 

Hi. This is what I thought to do for my daughter who is now 7. I told her she needs to do this only in her bedroom but she still does it in the living room. I am always telling her about how other people are not supposed to see her private parts etc. She continues to do it in the living room and when I catch her I tell her to go to her room. She tries to hide it by putting a big stuffed animal between her and where she thinks I can see. It is an even bigger deal now because her teacher called me the other day to tell me that she caught my daughter sitting at her desk with her pants and underwear down to her feet. I don't know what to do!

She is 4 and believe me you can get her out of it, I know it from experience. All you have to do is do not leave her alone or unoccupied for a single minute for 20 days. That is all it is going to take.
Step 1: Scare her saying if she does it, it will hurt, make it soar that bad that she would need big giant injections that will hurt her even more. But you need to do this only once. and then step 2, 3 and 4 should be your every day routine for next 19 days.
Step 2: she has outgrown afternoon nap, STOP that STop STop...that is number 1 cause why kids of this age learn this. Kids have lot of energy these days and outgrow naps at 3 and 1/2 years of age.
Step3: buy a trampoline, everytime she goes to bed at night make sure she jumps on it 100 -200 times based on her energy level. She should be tired to a level that whenever you take her to bed she goes to sleep while you are still reading the book or just finished reading the book.

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My daughter is 4 years old, almost 5 (in may) She stimulates herself often, usually in the shopping cart or on her chair. I've never really thought to much of it because, I vaguely remember doing the same sort of stuff when I was little. The other day I did catch her with her pants pulled down around her bum, using her chair to stimulate herself...That's the point that made me do some investigating. I'm glad to hear that its more of a common thing, than not. I usually try & distract her when she does it. I think she knows that its something she shouldn't be doing, because when were at the store all I have to do is look at her funny, or ask her what shes doing...She usually stops. When I caught her w/her pants down & using her chair I did get mad, at first. We had guest over & I discreetly told her that no one wants to see her bum, and I took her chair. Me & my husband both figured it was a normal thing, but weren't sure if it would be something that she grows out of...I'm hoping so. I never thought of telling her it was a private thing, and to go to her room (that just seems a little weird to me) but the more I think about it...I think its a good idea, I don't ever want her to be embarrassed, teased, or caught doing it. I'm glad i googled it, I wasn't sure about searching it (it seemed awkward) but I'm glad I did.

Yes It IS Normal ... AND Healthy. No She WON'T Grow Out Of It ... She'll do it more as she gets older, because that's what happens ... Yes TELL Her To Do It ONLY In Private: Let her go to her room if you have Guests (tell her to say that she's just going to her room for a rest) . . . . . If you are alone with her at home, let her Take Her Pants Off and Masturbate FREELY around the house, but tell her she can only Do That if you and her are alone. But Whatever You Do ... DO NOT Distract Her or inply that IT'S WRONG.

hi, i m facing the same problem ,my 5 yrs daughter doing the same thing,i dont know how to stop her of doing this ,we have restricted her of doing this at home ,though she is doing more and more in school and her tution classes ,i feel so embarassed ,that what is the way out to end this,telling her doing this in her room (looks so cheap),means how can u allow them to do this ,they should not do this yaar ,it looks yuck ,pplease..... help me in coming out of this

I started masturbating when I was little and never stopped, but I did learn to do it in private, but not until people had seen me doing it. Even after I learned to do it in private my parents would still walk in on me sometimes and I would get really embarrassed. I think my parents were nice about it and never yelled at me, only told me to do it in private, but I still got the feeling that it was disgusting, maybe from the other kids making fun of me. When I was old enough to learn what sex was I was horrified and humiliated and wanted to move far away so I would not be in contact with anybody who had seen me doing it. I still have issues enjoying myself when I'm with a partner and I'm in my 20's. I would suggest that when you tell her to do it in private that you mention that it is something people do so she doesn't feel like a freak. Something along the lines of, "I know it feels good, but that is something people do in their rooms when nobody is around."

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Do Some Research .... MASTURBATION Is COMPLETELY NORMAL And SAFE !!!

But its not something you SHOULD do...

Mine was one of the earlier responses to this post, and my daughter is now 5 and still does this every chance she gets. For what it's worth though, we just moved and had our first visit with a new doctor. This doc said that she has seen babies in the womb doing this in utero! My daughter started at about 3 months old, and the doc said she'd likely been doing it since before she was born. 

I'm laughing like Hell, but come on, at first it sounded like her ass itched, but she will probably forget about it. You wouldn't think a four year would know..

You are defiantly not alone. My daughter has been doing this since she was 1 year old. As previously described on any chair. She has often done this until she has rubbed herself until she is all red and Inflamed. She has stopped doing it at home now but our problem is that she does it at school and she is now away to turn 6 years old. She is falling behind in her school work which is unusual for her as she is more than capable but with the lack of support from her new teacher she is struggling to stop herself.  Last years teacher was very supportive and kept on top of her and gave the new teacher a hand over warning her of this habit but to no avail. We also went to the doctor who told us it would phase itself out but it hasnt and i am a firm believer that it wont.  We have been doing a lot of school work at home  so she has just about caught up with her work again.

When Questioned she just says that she can't stop. I think we will just have to go down the route of convincing her that if this has to be done she has to do it  at home in private. It does seem to be when she is tired or bored that she does it. I just thought I would post as it is a great comfort to know that others are going through the same even If in different scenarios.

We are a long way from resolving our problem but in recent days we have had better reports that she is getting her work done but is still " wiggling" as we call it. I am not looking to stop the wiggling but just to make sure it does not cause issues in her life.

Guess that doctor has their head in the sand. It won't be a phase. When it first started you should had said it was ok but set the boundries as in her room. That's where many parents go wrong. They want to stop it when they shouldn't. It's a natrual act. Just got to set the boundries.

Hi. I grew up as the child masterbating. I am now an adult with two kids. My parents didn't handle it well. I didn't know what I was doing or why I felt the urge to rub on pillows. All I knew is it was bad and there was something wrong with me. I felt so guilty each time that guilt happens even today at age 35 even though I know I shouldn't. My parents were not religious and never told me it was a sin. They just freaked out and I felt embarassed. I had my own room but I had two siblings I often got walked in on. I also sadly always thought they could see me even when no one was there. If someone laughed in another room I asumed they were laughing at me. I was twelve or thirteen when my aunt explained it. I knew about sex and that it was related but she explained it was normal. Now I have an 9 year old boy who I walked in on masterbating in his sleep and I am freaked out and online looking for help. You would think I would know what to do. Sorry for the bad grammer I am on my phone.

Why you freaking out? You should know by now it's normal. Your parents didn't handle it right. You could get it right. Tell him it's ok to masturbate but keep it private. Don't make him feel the guilt you had. Pretty much all boys masturbate. Just give him his privacy when he needs it.