help my boyfriend masterbates at night when we don't have sex. should i be worried i mean am i not enough?
NO YOU DONT HAVE TO WORRY. MY BOYFRIEND DOES THAT A LOT TOO. AND WE HAVE SEX IF NOT EVERYDAY EVERYOTHER DAY. AND HE STILL MASTURBATES WHEN IM SLEEPING EVEN IF WE HAD SEX ALREADY. IT JUST HELPS THEM RELEAVE TENSION.
Some males are just generally active, sexually. If he only masterbates during the nights you don't have sex, its nothing against you. Don't worry and if he still has sex with you (as you have stated.) Then he obviously still has a sexual attraction to you. I don't think you have to worry. he's just.... feeding the appetite when you're not up for the challenge. :-P Don't take it against yourself.
No..I wish girls didnt think things like this.
Its not that you arent giving him 'good sex'. especially since even crummy sex is just as good to guys, its just that he isnt getting enough, if your up for it than have sex with him more. Or you might want to try to masterbate for him without actually having sex if your still concerned.(Im sure he would like that) either way your husband just needs lots of sex.
If all guys gave in and didnt resist urges we'd be masterbating at least 3 times a day...us guys love sex!
Its not that you arent giving him 'good sex'. especially since even crummy sex is just as good to guys, its just that he isnt getting enough, if your up for it than have sex with him more. Or you might want to try to masterbate for him without actually having sex if your still concerned.(Im sure he would like that) either way your husband just needs lots of sex.
If all guys gave in and didnt resist urges we'd be masterbating at least 3 times a day...us guys love sex!
you don't have anything to worry about, it's normal for guys to masterbate to porn. it's a way we can releave stress that's been piling up all day. also since you said he does it at night, he might not want to wake you up because he can see you're really exhausted, so he'll just let you sleep. i could be wrong, but my main point is, you have nothing to worry about, he still loves you.
Its so true! :]
yeah my boy friend masterbates when we just had sex
My boyfriend have sex with me the night and when i get up i want to have sex and he doesnt' he waits till i leave for work and look at porn sites and i am guessin ejaculate then when he gets home at night he's too tired for sex?? does this mean that he prefers ejaculatin cause me as a woman i love sex. by the way he comes to fast
It is totally normal. However, as a woman who has a boyfriend who does the same thing, I worried a lot that I wasn't what he wanted. I took the time to nerve up and ask him. He assured me everything was fine, it's just a thing guys do. Everyone needs a little time to do their own thing. It'll always be awkward and I'll always be a little...hurt about it, but hey, at least he's not finding it somewhere else when I'm not in the mood!
I'm 9 years younger than my bf, and both of us have quite a high sex drive. However, he rarely satisfies me.
we can have sex, but never foreplay. So he always comes before I do, and thats it. we do have sex regularly, but its crummy to be honest. But he thinks he's mister wonderful.
Everyday I satisfy his needs for him, mainly so that at least i'm involved. If i didn't he fulfil himself anyway. Often he does both, one straight after the other. He's always got his hands down his pants!! so not that hes got a low sex drive.
But I get nothing. I now find it such a turn off when he starts to, as I know its just another occasion where i'm not going to get my needs met. He'll play with himself in the night when he thinks im sleeping some times on and off for several hours, which just wakes me up and makes me more irritable. Partly as I'm tired and partly as hes trying to hide it. I know probably trying to hide it as he knows i dont like it.
He will watch porn, sat next to me, he doesnt wank to it when im there, but he completely ignores me. I have tried to get him to involve me in this and watch it with him. But he doesnt really want to or care about what I might want to watch, and if he does touch me, he's nowhere near anywhere remotely stimulating, because he's not really paying any attention to me.
Or he watches and ejaculates to porn when i'm out.
I dress up for him, he asks me to wear skirts and heels. I do, but makes no difference now.
If i dress in stockings etc then that usually gets him going, and sometimes my needs are met othertimes they arent.
We have been together 3 years and i have orgasmed by him less than 10 times. its not that i cant, or he cant make me, i just think he thinks hes far better than he is.
I try to change position, etc, he doesnt like it. I try to hint, rather than be brutal, makes no difference.
If i blatantly say u dont meet my needs. He thinks im being an ungrateful cow and comparing him to past partners which I have never done.
If i masterbate, it turns him on more, and I still get nothing.
Do you think there is any hope for us, or do you think its a case of satisfy yourself, or move on. Help muchly appreciated please, im quite desperate!!
you would think most men would be gagging for a blonde,large breasted woman wanting to have lots and lots of passionate sex!!! obviously im so wrong!!
P.s he has been married before and he said after15 years his wife had also said that he had never made her orgasm. Surely u would think that he would realise there is a pattern, and not just me being jealous that he masterbates. I understand its natural, and I wouldnt mind, but its me that makes all the effort and he makes none!
we can have sex, but never foreplay. So he always comes before I do, and thats it. we do have sex regularly, but its crummy to be honest. But he thinks he's mister wonderful.
Everyday I satisfy his needs for him, mainly so that at least i'm involved. If i didn't he fulfil himself anyway. Often he does both, one straight after the other. He's always got his hands down his pants!! so not that hes got a low sex drive.
But I get nothing. I now find it such a turn off when he starts to, as I know its just another occasion where i'm not going to get my needs met. He'll play with himself in the night when he thinks im sleeping some times on and off for several hours, which just wakes me up and makes me more irritable. Partly as I'm tired and partly as hes trying to hide it. I know probably trying to hide it as he knows i dont like it.
He will watch porn, sat next to me, he doesnt wank to it when im there, but he completely ignores me. I have tried to get him to involve me in this and watch it with him. But he doesnt really want to or care about what I might want to watch, and if he does touch me, he's nowhere near anywhere remotely stimulating, because he's not really paying any attention to me.
Or he watches and ejaculates to porn when i'm out.
I dress up for him, he asks me to wear skirts and heels. I do, but makes no difference now.
If i dress in stockings etc then that usually gets him going, and sometimes my needs are met othertimes they arent.
We have been together 3 years and i have orgasmed by him less than 10 times. its not that i cant, or he cant make me, i just think he thinks hes far better than he is.
I try to change position, etc, he doesnt like it. I try to hint, rather than be brutal, makes no difference.
If i blatantly say u dont meet my needs. He thinks im being an ungrateful cow and comparing him to past partners which I have never done.
If i masterbate, it turns him on more, and I still get nothing.
Do you think there is any hope for us, or do you think its a case of satisfy yourself, or move on. Help muchly appreciated please, im quite desperate!!
you would think most men would be gagging for a blonde,large breasted woman wanting to have lots and lots of passionate sex!!! obviously im so wrong!!
P.s he has been married before and he said after15 years his wife had also said that he had never made her orgasm. Surely u would think that he would realise there is a pattern, and not just me being jealous that he masterbates. I understand its natural, and I wouldnt mind, but its me that makes all the effort and he makes none!
I'm 9 years younger than my bf, and both of us have quite a high sex drive. However, he rarely satisfies me.
we can have sex, but never foreplay. So he always comes before I do, and thats it. we do have sex regularly, but its crummy to be honest. But he thinks he's mister wonderful.
Everyday I satisfy his needs for him, mainly so that at least i'm involved. If i didn't he would relieve himself anyway. Often he does both, one straight after the other. He's always got his hands down his pants!! so not that hes got a low sex drive.
But I get nothing. I now find it such a turn off when he starts to, I know its just another occasion where i'm not going to get my needs met. He'll play with himself in the night when he thinks im sleeping some times on and off for several hours, which just wakes me up and makes me more irritable. Partly as I'm tired and partly as hes trying to hide it. I know probably trying to hide it as he knows i dont like it.
He will watch porn, sat next to me, he doesnt wank to it, but he completely ignores me. I have tried to get him to involve me in this and watch it with him. But he doesnt really care about what I might want to watch, and if he does touch me, he's nowhere near anywhere remotely stimulating, because he's not really paying any attention to me.
Or he watches and wanks to porn when i'm out.
I dress up for him, he asks me to wear skirts and heels. I do, but makes no difference now.
If i dress in stockings etc then that usually gets him going, and sometimes my needs are met othertimes they arent.
We have been together 3 years and i have orgasmed by him less than 10 times. its not that i cant, or he cant make me, i just think he thinks hes far better than he is.
I try to change position, etc, he doesnt like it. I try to hint, rather than be brutal, makes no difference.
If i blatantly say u dont meet my needs. He thinks im being an ungrateful cow and comparing him to past partners which I have never done.
If i wank, it turns him on more, and I still get nothing.
Do you think there is any hope for us, or do you think its a case of satisfy yourself, or move on. Help muchly appreciated please, im quite desperate!!
you would think most men would be gagging for a blonde,large breasted woman wanting to have lots and lots of passionate sex!!! obviously im so wrong!!
P.s he has been married before and he said after15 years his wife had also said that he had never made her orgasm. Surely u would think that he would realise there is a pattern, and not just me being jealous that he wanks. I understand its natural, and I wouldnt mind, but its me that makes all the effort and he makes none!
we can have sex, but never foreplay. So he always comes before I do, and thats it. we do have sex regularly, but its crummy to be honest. But he thinks he's mister wonderful.
Everyday I satisfy his needs for him, mainly so that at least i'm involved. If i didn't he would relieve himself anyway. Often he does both, one straight after the other. He's always got his hands down his pants!! so not that hes got a low sex drive.
But I get nothing. I now find it such a turn off when he starts to, I know its just another occasion where i'm not going to get my needs met. He'll play with himself in the night when he thinks im sleeping some times on and off for several hours, which just wakes me up and makes me more irritable. Partly as I'm tired and partly as hes trying to hide it. I know probably trying to hide it as he knows i dont like it.
He will watch porn, sat next to me, he doesnt wank to it, but he completely ignores me. I have tried to get him to involve me in this and watch it with him. But he doesnt really care about what I might want to watch, and if he does touch me, he's nowhere near anywhere remotely stimulating, because he's not really paying any attention to me.
Or he watches and wanks to porn when i'm out.
I dress up for him, he asks me to wear skirts and heels. I do, but makes no difference now.
If i dress in stockings etc then that usually gets him going, and sometimes my needs are met othertimes they arent.
We have been together 3 years and i have orgasmed by him less than 10 times. its not that i cant, or he cant make me, i just think he thinks hes far better than he is.
I try to change position, etc, he doesnt like it. I try to hint, rather than be brutal, makes no difference.
If i blatantly say u dont meet my needs. He thinks im being an ungrateful cow and comparing him to past partners which I have never done.
If i wank, it turns him on more, and I still get nothing.
Do you think there is any hope for us, or do you think its a case of satisfy yourself, or move on. Help muchly appreciated please, im quite desperate!!
you would think most men would be gagging for a blonde,large breasted woman wanting to have lots and lots of passionate sex!!! obviously im so wrong!!
P.s he has been married before and he said after15 years his wife had also said that he had never made her orgasm. Surely u would think that he would realise there is a pattern, and not just me being jealous that he wanks. I understand its natural, and I wouldnt mind, but its me that makes all the effort and he makes none!
I am right there with you girl. I am amped up and ready to go every night. but yet he rather going to take a shower and masturbate. I even seen mobile porn sites on his phone. it makes me feel very I'm pretty, unattractive, and like I'm not doing doung it for him anymore. I'd even started feeling like he's not with me anymore. I've even tried to talk to him about our sex life and he denies masturbation. he told me that he thinks he needs to be checked for ED. he's only 34 years old, and very active at the gym. I don't think that is testosterone has anything to do with it. and even after talking to him about it he still continues it. I'm starting to feel really depressed. we've been together for 10 years and have 2 children. I need some advice in some help now!!!
I wish i could believe this but my boyfriend of ten years has all of a sudden developed a thing for porn and masterbastion. We used to have GREAT sex alot now i feel like an old married couple. I have not changed and im always up for experimenting. He thinks that i dont know but i hear him masterbating while he is in the shower. I even tested it one night and tried to have sex he couldnt even get hard! I was so up set i started crying and i couldnt sleep, i cant help but feel its me. I know im pretty and sexy but i dont have an attitude about it. I do love him and if i didnt care about my relationship i wouldnt be seeking help, i would be seeking a new man.
Guys are just wired different than 99% of women... Sure you may date somebody with a high labodo and wants sex money stop although chances are your not. So guys need to wank off a few times a week and sex even more a week... I think lol