My boyfriend would rather masterbate than have sex with me!

I have just spent the last 30mins or so reading through all the posts on this thread and I am filled with sadness right now. There is only one thing to blame for this, and that is PORN! 

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I have a similar situation on my hands also... every morning my bf leaves for work while I am still in bed, he comes in and kisses me goodbye and i listen to him go to the garage and start his car and drive off but... this one particular morning just recently I tried to make the move but he tuned me down as he said he didn't want to be late for work which was fair enough, so he walked out the house got in his car and i lay there for about 5 minutes and notices his car hadn't started (this was unusual) so i got up and opened the garage door and caught him RED HANDED wanking 5 min after he turned me down! Never in my life had I ever felt so worthless... i am trying to see the funny side to it but its so hard as my feelings have been crushed... 

my bf does the same thing and i even had him in counsling and it still didnt help when i tell him im done with this and i need attention then he suddenly is all there but im tired of that game to im slowly leaving the relationship ive been in counsling to help me leave because i did really love him an wanted to marry him an well i found out that marriage or even a proposal wasnt going to happen at the last session so time for me to move on and get out of this emotional draining relationship and find a man that will want me instead of a tv or video screen

MY BOYFRIEND LOVE TO MASTURBATE THAN TO HAVE SEX WITH ME HE LOVE ME TO SO SUCH THING LIKE:WEARING UNDERWEAR WITH HIGH HEELS OR NAKED WITH HIGH HEELS THEN HIS PENIS GETTING SO HARD AND THEN MASTURBATE AND HAVE MULTIPLE CUM WHILE IM STILL WEARING THAT ATTIRE... I THINK THIS IS NOT NORMal HIS ONLY WANT HIS PLEASURE HE NEVER THINK THAT I NEED PLEASURE TO...

Alright... you know nothing. This is a new paradigm. Men do not women to be in the same room to satisfy their sexual needs. I could high five every man I ever meet in the street due to this news. We are not "addicted". Well, at least, not as addicted as men historically have been to women.

You women have to understand the baggage you bring to us. We don't need that anymore. Sex is cheap now. No need to take out a mortgage for it. Especially if you are just going to be nags and grow old until we die before you.

We are not addicted to porn. We are addicted to not needing your clingy issues.

I think us women should just start doing the same damn thing, looking at porn! Yes I am serious.

I think WE should start saving various images and videos of other men jacking off to the computer.

I think WE should start leaving our dirty orgasm panties around the computer.

I think WE should creep around the internet at night while our signifigant other is trying to sleep.

I think WE should start taking magazines into the bathroom.

I think WE should be the ones saying "not tonight honey. i'm too tired. i already orgasmed 15 times today to Juan Largo and his 10 inch penis".

Come on ladies! Who's with me? Reverse psychology, lets make this happen! We can't just let the gays have all the male porn out there!

Let's do this! For real! The worst that can happen is we finally start to feel fulfilled.

Hi I'm in the same position as u but the told me that he would rather do that them touch me and that our sex life is borring we have been together for 4 1/2 years I feel like he has ripped out my heart and shoved it down my throat if u can up with an answer please let me know thank you

I have watched my boyfriend masturbate every morning at least twice, plus he does it before i get home from work. We have sex only about twice a month and i have to initiate it. He likes lingerie and wants me to dress up which i do, but between cooking, cleaning, laundry, hand jobs, blow jobs. I get nothing. He even masturbates after we've had sex. Im 7 years older than him and we used to have sex all the time. We have been together 5 years, moved in together, but it hurts cause no matter how much he says he loves me and cares, i feel.hes unattracted to me. I know he wont cheat , but at the same time looking at nylons and lingerie photos and masturbating to them is a form of cheatung if it takes away from the relationship doesnt it? I dont know what to do. Im very frustrated. He gets hand jobs and blow jobs all the time, i get nothing. Should i leave?

Im having the same problem with  my boyfriend. I told him when im home i will take care of him but nope he would rather jack off. He told me that if i have a problem with it then i need to move out.

Are you enjoying this relationship? If not, leave. I'm sure you can find a guy who will be happy to take care of your wants and needs. There really are guys who feel they should.

I have a very similar problem. My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years now, and pretty much the entire time we've been together, he has masturbated EVERY night, sometimes even in his sleep. He does it after we've had sex too. Lately I've noticed a random sock just laying on the floor, as I was cleaning up our room this morning, I picked up said sock, and found it COVERED, inside and out, in semen. EVERY night, I am kept awake, for hours on end, while he lays there, RIGHT NEXT TO ME, and masturbates. I try to initiate sex, only to be told he's "trying to sleep" or he's "just adjusting himself". When I try to talk to him about it, he flat out denies everything, and says I'm being paranoid, or makes excuses like "It's natural, stop being a b***h about it", though when I try to talk to him I am literally just laying my feelings on the line, and almost begging for him to talk to me about why he 'needs' to do it every night. Some nights he stays up until 2am, masturbating to girls on the internet, then comes to bed and does it some more. Sometimes he'll try to have sex with me after he's been masturbating to girls on the internet, but he rarely finishes, he just tries to fake it, pushes me off in a hurry, mumbling about needing a drink, and goes and masturbates in the bathroom instead. He tells me he loves me, he thinks I'm sexy, etc. but when he does things like this, it really is hard to believe him. I wouldn't mind him doing it so much, if at least I knew WHY, but he won't talk to me about it. The best advice I can give, given how well I'm handling MY situation (LOL!) is to just persevere with him, keep trying to talk to him about it, because if he's got a reason for it, sooner or later he will spit it out. Be wary though, you might not like what he has to say.

Im in the same boat....It hurts so much, my boyfriend says his lost his libido.... but if that is so how can he be doing what his doing all the time.. Im talking everyday watch porn...like what can I do or say...we have talked about it but we nothing has changed.... if anything it is worse....he is so zoned out from me... cant even look at me when we do talk...

Love your way of thinking hahaha

Im in the same boat right now...... we were goin 2 get married but well not 2 sure now due 2 him saying his not 2 sure about it now and he said this after i found out about all the porn on his PC and the times of when he was doing it after i had left from being with him all weekend and he say he was 2 tired but after I left he got on and watched porn so yer well... ouch big ouch ta me.... like wowow I feel he love and wants porn more den me.....

you are awesome and i respect your opinion and honesty . thankyou for letting me know there are real good men out there