My situation.
I have been with my Girlfriend now for about 16 months. After 2 months we started sleeping together and it became a regular thing. After about 3 months she had the inplant contrapcetion. Within 2 weeks she had lost all sexual interest, she never really was a full-on physicial person when it came to the sexual side but she lost all feelings.This happened around June last year and since then we have only had sex about 4 times. Just after christmas we moved in together, i thought that her problem would ease or sort itself out due to new things/surrounds but there been no change. The last 2 times we have attempted to have sex we have had to stop as its too painful for her. She went back to the Doc and they removed the inplant and put her on the pill-this changed nothing!
This has really demoralised and brings down me as i keep on getting rejected and leads me into thinking other things to the extent of finishing it, but i love her so much to put us both through the pain. Ive tried relaxing her, and tried getting her in the mood etc even buying dvds on tips to help us.She tells me that she loves me and she dosent know why this has happened to her, but every time i try and speak about it she gets agitated and dismisses it causing arguments which lead to more fustration that is putting a real strain on the relationship.
I know im not the only person suffering, as other people have similair problems. But im now at the end of my teather and dont no what more i can do as i feel that all im doing is banging my head against a wall and im getting even more fustrated and find it difficult to get it outta my mind at times and to the extent of thinking about other girls and even cheating-even though i wouldnt have the guts to do it.
Any advice would be appreciated
I have been with my Girlfriend now for about 16 months. After 2 months we started sleeping together and it became a regular thing. After about 3 months she had the inplant contrapcetion. Within 2 weeks she had lost all sexual interest, she never really was a full-on physicial person when it came to the sexual side but she lost all feelings.This happened around June last year and since then we have only had sex about 4 times. Just after christmas we moved in together, i thought that her problem would ease or sort itself out due to new things/surrounds but there been no change. The last 2 times we have attempted to have sex we have had to stop as its too painful for her. She went back to the Doc and they removed the inplant and put her on the pill-this changed nothing!
This has really demoralised and brings down me as i keep on getting rejected and leads me into thinking other things to the extent of finishing it, but i love her so much to put us both through the pain. Ive tried relaxing her, and tried getting her in the mood etc even buying dvds on tips to help us.She tells me that she loves me and she dosent know why this has happened to her, but every time i try and speak about it she gets agitated and dismisses it causing arguments which lead to more fustration that is putting a real strain on the relationship.
I know im not the only person suffering, as other people have similair problems. But im now at the end of my teather and dont no what more i can do as i feel that all im doing is banging my head against a wall and im getting even more fustrated and find it difficult to get it outta my mind at times and to the extent of thinking about other girls and even cheating-even though i wouldnt have the guts to do it.
Any advice would be appreciated
how long has she been off the implant? i'm told it can take a while for the body's hormonal imbalance to sort itself out after it is removed and unfortunately though loss of sexual desire is a common side effect of hormonal contraceptives. this may be something only time can fix. if it continues perhaps she should visit her doctor and explain the symptoms. they can then work out if a change of prescription is in order.
normally i'm all in favour of hormonal contraceptives but in the case of a long term relationship where the sex life is dissipating perhaps condoms are the solution. they are very safe as long as you use them correctly.
normally i'm all in favour of hormonal contraceptives but in the case of a long term relationship where the sex life is dissipating perhaps condoms are the solution. they are very safe as long as you use them correctly.