best of luck
I would suggest first of all make ur husband feel that u r having affair with another guy for sex pleasure n u r satisfied with it. The. Ur husb will try something extra during sex!! LOL. Try it our honey
May be he has become gay :D:D
Hey Jeniffer! Well, I've been "digging" into this problem for some time (because I also had moments like this, and they quite suck). The thing is that the phallus gets soft after like 10-15 minutes after intercourse, then I had to wait for about 5-10 minutes to get it up, and after it everything goes perfectly well. This was quite strange, because usually I could "stand" for 40 minutes and then ejaculate. There are several things that might cause your husband's "situation" :
1. Too much porn - No offence, but this is mostly has a psychological impact on your husband, which after that goes down to the genitals. You said he is into big asses, So I presume that when he masturbates, this is what he masturbates on. His mind creates the illusion that he is having sex with the girl from porn. What I would suggest is talk him into not watching porn at all, and not masturbating at all, and I know it sounds hard, but try changing his porn time to sex time. Also, do not be afraid of talking during intercourse. The reason he ejaculates during masturbation is the fact that he already knows his body and how to pleasure himself. This is a major problem in couples: "They want to find the secret spots by themselves" instead of asking their partner how to please them.
2. The sex became boring for him - Again I do not want to offend you, but he might be tired of the same things. What I suggest is making something different. For example, prolonging the "prelude". Buying some costumes might be good as well; if you have the resources, you might even buy some sex furniture. Moreover, you might bring some adrenaline into it, and have sex in a public place.
3. The male factor - I personally think that this comes with the genes, and what I mean by that is that the male wants to get as many women as he can, so when he already feels that he owns one, she becomes unattractive to him. This might be "risky", but next time when your husband wants sex, try and play the innocent girl for a couple of minutes, and let him try harder to get you. This might bring some desire into him.
4. Maybe he has a problem - Do not misunderstand me, the problem is not a physiological one but a psychological one. After it happened once or twice, this might have stuck in his head, and during sex he starts thinking about "What if it gets soft again?" and BANG....this is what happens. In contrast, there might be other psychological problems he has: at work, family, etc. I am sorry to say, but I am not a specialist for this problem. Maybe self-talk or other psychological exercises will help with it.
5. His penis might become insensible - After a lot of sex, masturbation, and other sexual "occupations" the penis becomes more and more insensible. This is something I found on the internet and I haven't looked into the anatomy of the problem.
6. Blood circulation - This is also a possibility. The only way this might be fixed(in my opinion) is actually an easy way - SPORT. Once a week (for example on Sunday) running (2-3 km), or some basketball,. soccer, cycling , etc. will have an effect after a couple of times.
I hope this helps you and will restore the total pleasure to both of you. Cheers.
HI JENNIFER, ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAD THE SAME PROBLEM, AND WE DISCUSSED IT, (BECAUSE IT'S NOT EASY FOR A MAN TO LOOSE HIS MANHOOD) . WE DECIDED TO GO TO A SEX SHOP AND BOUGHT A GOOD CAPSULE TO STAY ERECTED LONGER , THE NEXT TIME HE CAME HE DRANK 2 CAPSULES AND IT DID THE TRICK.WE WENT ON ALL NITE AND A FEW TIMES AFTER THAT WITHOUT ANY PROBLEMS, IT IS SO GOOD THAT AFTER 3 WEEKS WHEN AT WORK AND HE JUST THINKS OF US HE GOES STIFF AND IT TAKES A WHILE TO GO DOWN. DISCUSS THIS WITH HUBBY AND VISIT A GOOD SEX SHOP AND BUY A GOOD STIMULANT, DONT GO FOR THE CHEAP ONES. WE KEEP SPARE IN CASE IT HAPPENS AGAIN.
He may have low testosterone. That can be tested by a doctor.
dear i think the problem is in the porn that your husband watches .
he likes the graphics and has gradually detached from reality .
you have to make him feel comfortable with himself. tell him he has the most beautiful natural body and penis
try to calm him. tell him its ok to be naked in front of u .
and one advice for u , stop suffering from inferority complex about ur ass. take porn out of your intimacy. be natural
give a try of oral sex with him. praise his penis and enjoy in which way u want. that will make him think that his wife is better than those porn models in the film.
create a positive atmosphere before sex .encourage him and yourself and support each other to get aroused .
good luck dear . do let me know
Please Devote more time in Romance & Feeling each other & Avoid Intercourse until Both
are real Hot.
Look up Porn related erectile dysfunction. Beleive it or not, it is a real problem and exists, the male brain becomes addicted and reliant on manual stimulation and porn, and cannot respond to normal sex, if he is willing he can try the methods outlined to break his brains chemical addiction to porn.
Do have sex watching porn. Make him do exercises daily for 15 minutes. Give him proteinous food. He will go hard.