My husband and I have been married over 13 years but have been together almost 20 years. I am 60, he is 71 and we have had our problems. He doesn't work steady. He has health problems. He is a
diabetic. He lies all the time to people. He gets angry in a matter of seconds and is always telling me what to do, how to cook. This is the way I should have done it. Why didn't I do it the way he told me what's wrong with me. You need help see a doctor. That is just some of the things he says to me. He will swear at me call me names. He says that he tells me things and that I don't listen and blames me for everything. If I do make a mistake he goes crazy by yelling at me and towering over me pointing his finger in my face. I am not blameless in this for example I thought he said one thing and he said something else but when I tried to explain to him that I miss heard what he had said, he still carried on to the point I said this has to stop or I am leaving. He said it is all my fault because I don't listen to anything he says. I must admit there are times why I don't listen because he lies and I feel if he is lying to others he problably is doing it to me. I am worried that this rage he feels is going to get worse and don't have many options left at my age. I only have a part time job and we are barely hanging on.
What do you think.
diabetic. He lies all the time to people. He gets angry in a matter of seconds and is always telling me what to do, how to cook. This is the way I should have done it. Why didn't I do it the way he told me what's wrong with me. You need help see a doctor. That is just some of the things he says to me. He will swear at me call me names. He says that he tells me things and that I don't listen and blames me for everything. If I do make a mistake he goes crazy by yelling at me and towering over me pointing his finger in my face. I am not blameless in this for example I thought he said one thing and he said something else but when I tried to explain to him that I miss heard what he had said, he still carried on to the point I said this has to stop or I am leaving. He said it is all my fault because I don't listen to anything he says. I must admit there are times why I don't listen because he lies and I feel if he is lying to others he problably is doing it to me. I am worried that this rage he feels is going to get worse and don't have many options left at my age. I only have a part time job and we are barely hanging on.
What do you think.
Have you talked to your Doctor?
My Father in law woke up one day and said to my Mother in law.Why are you trying to kill me?
He was soon diagnosed with Alzheimer.you should talk to your Doctor
My Father in law woke up one day and said to my Mother in law.Why are you trying to kill me?
He was soon diagnosed with Alzheimer.you should talk to your Doctor
I would see if it is a medical problem. If it isn't and you don't feel safe around him, then it may be time to look at an alternative living situation. One that he is either cared for by a full time licensed care taker, placed in a living center, etc. It would depend upon your finances, but some states are able to help out. If that isn't something you want to do, then ask yourself "can I live like this?" If so, then let it be. If not, then it may be time to move on. If he has children, they need to step up and help too or take over completely.