my neighbours kids never stop screaming!!! Driving me insane

I don't know what the heck is wrong with these people who call themselves parents. They have no clue what they are doing. Those kids are going to end up in the judicial system if they don't start doling out consequences. And to that genius who said it's her daughter's personality to scream: screaming is a learned behavior after a certain age, which tells me that either you or another adult in the household is a screamer and is modeling this behavior. If that's not the case, then your daughter has a mental problem! Either learn to control yourself and model better behavior for your kid or go get the kid medicated because I do not want to hear your kid screaming. I have a right to peace and quiet. It was YOUR choice to have this kid, and I don't want YOUR CHOICES affecting my peace.

It's so validating to hear the comments about screaming kids - thanks! We live in a condominium with three sections. Each section has a grass courtyard, surrounded by small townhouse style condos. We live outside of NYC in NJ. There are condo signs posted everywhere that say, "Stay off grass. No playing. No ball throwing. No climbing on rocks."

These kids in the condos with their parents will hang out in the middle of the courtyard, ignoring the signs, rules. Their kids will yell, scream, run around, fight, throw tantrums, throw balls, ride their bikes across the lawn, litter, etc. Our condo's rules are very strict. One of the many rules is "No playing or practicing musical instruments." Two of these kids will play their flutes outside loudly and laugh. Other times, they're screaming, yelling, etc. with the other kids. With the windows open in summer, it's non-stop, listening to kids screaming, yelling, playing flutes. One kid has a mini bike that he rides around the sidewalk with another boy. They are constantly yelling back and forth to each other as they ride.

In my condo unit section of 6 units, there are 9 kids. Then, add the other unit sections, their friends, other neighborhood kids, visiting grandkids, etc.

The biggest issue is these kids screaming. Also, they will hang out by our open living room window, sitting on our steps and standing near our steps. Some of the kids aren't supervised, like the two boys on bikes, our adjoining neighbor with the three kids, etc., cycling around the condo sidewalks and yelling at each other or just yelling period.

Then, there are the toddlers throwing tantrums, babies teething, etc. There must be at least 20 plus kids in our condominium complex now. Our neighbors on the adjoining wall would let their kids jump rope in the condo, and it also sounded like they were jumping on the stairs and sledding down them. We developed a large crack in our adjoining wall. One day, I asked them nicely to stop. They rudely refused saying, "Just tune it out. We hear you walking on the stairs." Not the same as a family of five living in an 800 square foot condo with visiting relatives, regularly. Plus, their rough housing with their dad, screaming like they're being murdered, etc. So, we complained to management. Then, that became awkward.

We are past the awkward stage and say, "Hi" again. But, it seems like these neighbors with kids have teamed up, and now band together. To play in the court yards, ignoring all the signs. I'm hoping that other neighbors complain.

Especially, the other day, three girls stood outside, screaming in front of the condos across from us. Far away from their own condo unit, unsupervised.

A condo management note went out a year ago, restating that the courtyards are not playgrounds, and it's not allowed. It gets ignored by these kids and their parents.

Ironically, there's a park, one condo over with nice playground equipment, open areas, a baseball field and tennis court.

I've decided that it's time to sell our condo. The non-stop noise and tension are too much. The condo is also on a street with a lot of traffic, including many buses.

Thank-you! I don't get this screaming ALL the time. Seems like the kids in our condo complex scream like it's a sport of who can scream the loudest and longest. Another thing that I've noticed is, that when we're grocery shopping at 9 or later at night, screaming, crying kids at the store, eating a late dinner, etc. When I was a little kid, I was in bed by 8 pm. I guess it's because both parents work nowadays or something, that the kids are up so late and are eating dinner so late...

I agree that you can teach kids to be polite and respectful of others.

I started playing tennis against a backboard this week. On the other side of me, was a 7 year old kid playing with his mother. When, he hit the ball to my side by mistake, his mom taught him to politely, retrieve the ball without disturbing me. When I returned his tennis balls, he'd say thank-you. His mom was very considerate and apologetic for any kind of disturbance, like their balls coming to my side of the back board, etc.

The next day another mom with kids showed up on the other side of the backboard with her three kids. When I hit a ball over by mistake, one kid grabbed my tennis ball to keep it. But, by the end, he learned to return by ball, nicely. And, as usual, I did the same back with their tennis balls. The mom taught them some tennis manners. And, the kids seemed to feel good about themselves too, being praised for being considerate.

Yesterday, three other unsupervised kids entered my backboard area, while I was hitting. One took one of my tennis balls, and was about to throw it over the fence. I said, "I think that's my tennis ball", and finally got him to drop it. No manners at all. Finally, the kids left. They didn't even shut the tennis court fence door. They had no clue that you don't just enter a tennis court where someone is playing and start playing on it, leave the door open, and start taking their tennis balls. They also could have gotten hit by a tennis ball. I was very surprised.

The seriousness of this disturbance should not be taken too lightly by parents of noisy children. It is unfair to disturb others who work, work night shift, are ill, are elderly or exhausted by their own children. While it is hard to raise children, especially when special needs or behavioral issues are present, the fact still remains that the burden of responsibility remains with the parent. You have to give up your rights to raise your children in a considerate manner, and not expect others to abide with your choices. Equally, when these noisy children grow up in a few short years to do great things and achieve great success, your neighbors cannot expect to benefit from your good fortune, because that success is all yours.

I agree! But what's to be done? I spoke kindly to the children. I spoke reasonably to the father, and got rudeness in return!! I call the little girl screaming demon!! My husband is very ill, dying in fact, and I explained that to the father and to the children. So what?? They don't care!!

There is an saying, birds of a feather flock together. Screaming kids are raised by their screaming parents (maybe when they were young and their parents did not teach them either). It's easy to feed children, but not easy to teach them how to behave. It's a result of their own low education and quality.

No, you're the insane one because you disrespected his or her right to express her or his right to dislike for screaming kids. How would you like it if you're in that same position as him or her?

If I'm you, I'd put myself in the place of another instead of passing judgment on her or him.

How can you agree and sympathize when you asked the disrespectful question "So what?" That sounds you like you don't care. Shame on you!

If you truly agree and sympathize with those who can't stand screaming children, you should know better than to be hypocritical about it!

You could be right.

you people on here don't half talk sh*t. its not acceptable for unruly rubbish tearaway chav kids to scream the whole neighbouhood down, day in, day out. We did not and were not allowed to do that when we were kids as we had proper parents., Either shut up your angry evil monsters or sent them of to boarding school never to be seen or heard of agin (what a dream that would be)

Kids these days 9 times out of 10 are messed up, nasty vicious little sh**s who will grow up to be substance abusing violent criminals, Watch and see what society will be like in 10-15 years from now when all these little angry shitbag scumbags become teenagers and you will say "oh he was right"

Kids next door are screaming and shouting for hours on end. I even close windows sometimes on boiling days, just so I can't hear them as loud. I'm surprised that they don't lose their voices from all the shouting. Would be nice to have some quiet after a hard day at work!

I pretty much agree with you.

You, Sir, have my sympathy.