Willie *Nickname lol* (A girl that's been through hurt like you've been hurt.)
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you may feel alone if you leave but you probably feel alone if you stay. they are not there for you. you are not important to them. it's very sad considering you sound like a very good man. these people are selfish and aren't deserving of your care.
if you haven't left already then you should definitely consider it. they sound like they're sucking the life out of you. there are people out there that appreciate a man like you and you will find them one day and have a family that loves you. don't give up on yourself and your happy future, it just sounds like you're not going to find it with this girl and her family.
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I usually have an answer to cases where girl cheats... but Damn... write a book... a film, a song... but please DUMP HER!!!! and move on!!!!!!!!!!!
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Really really great post, I'm an author and I am very impressed at how you structured that. I really hope things ended up working out for you. You sound so genuine and considerate, that deserves so much better than lies and deception!
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My reply is probably too late already, but i hope you already moved on from her. Because based on what you wrote (typed), she isn't worth your time. You loved her, that's why you didn't really see that you could be without her. There are so many girls out there who are looking for guys like you. A guy that deserves to be treasured and loved as much as he likes to give love. I hope you've found another girl who loves you just as much as you love her, and i hope you've forgotten this girl because she, honestly, did not seem to be a grown up woman (or lady). It seemed as if her mind is stuck on her teenage years. She needs to slowly, gradually focus on being a grown up and she has to learn that though she has friends, she needs to focus, even just a little bit more on you. You should have gotten the attention that she carelessly directed at other people. As for the messages part, when she texted a guy, maybe you should have already let her go then. But, of course, you loved her, so you stayed. Anyways, if she changed now, and chose you over everyone else (but still gives them time), then she is worthy of you. And if you two worked things out because you two settled your differences and dislikes and started to work on the "we", instead of just the "I" or "me" or "you", then i hope you two are happy.If you left her and found someone else who is better, then YEEHA! :D and goodluck to you:)
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Dear "ThatGuy"
I know this is 2012. But, I had similar experiences like yours between 2007-2010. Only thing is, my girl told me about how she cheated on me and when.
The day after she used to cheat, she would be all like a kid and oozing innocence(my ass). I would be in the venus fly trap again.
Her mother, sister and aunt would deride me, my education and looks. I may not be the handsome hunk, but surely I know what I look like; many people have told me I am handsome; rugged looks. Certainly I looked better than my GF and her entire family. My education was no inferior to any of the people who were deriding me and taunting me. Worst part is, my GF used to communicate to me about the taunts; " My mom said, you are doing your MS in Germany; cause you are inferior and substandard; You(my GF) can get a better guy ; who has better qualification from any 2nd Tier Uni in the US." and so and so forth.
At that time my logic kicked in, and asked back my GF : "I have 2 patents during my Masters; does that mean nothing? And 2 publications in IEEE, that means nothing? And my Uni ranks high in Europe atleast in top 50 in the world"
Prior to this I payed for her Uni Fee in the US. more than 8,000 USD. All this with my student jobs and research internships. I payed because her sister refused to pay for her bills; her father refused to pay for her education et al. I stepped up for her and worked over time. Carrying multiple internships one after the other. I could have finished my Masters earlier; if she wouldnt have been in the way.
Later I realized, it was all BS. All her mom, aunt and sis wanted to do was, kill my confidence. I went into a valley of shite, where in I would walk in the streets and see every other dude; and wonder, is he better than me for my GF?
Every night flashes of she cheating on me would be appearing. The words of my GF witch combo(Aunt, Mom and sis) would be ringing in my head.
One day; I was browsing porn, yeah i admit (LOL) every normal guy does it :P . and came across her video. I was shocked, then I started laughing, coz by this time I was already at the verge of calling it quits. With that video; my urge to hold her back was over. I felt like puking for a while. But then, I called up all my mates for a party. And just within 5 mins; I told myself, dump her, before she does and go on to Party.
So called her up and pasted the video link and said; keep f*****g with every guy you come across. Thank god we never even kissed. You said you wanted to preserve it for later years after the wedding. I am happy about it. And I left the scene. And I told her, never try to get in touch with me. I wanted to marry you, but seems like God( I dont know which one); but he saved me.
The point is, why kill your confidence? Why let anyone else kill your inner self?
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Hi. I just want to say that I know the pain you were going through. I too was in a relationship very similar to this. I was always the one who was blamed. Meanwhile, I was being cheated on for 3 months before we broke up. I never knew it until she sent photos to me of them to figuratively spit in my face. Now she is married to that same guy and having his kid. I feel grateful for no longer being with her because she was manipulative and cruel. However, that rawness and feeling of betrayal has stuck with me to this day. I will say I hope you have left this girl because you deserve so much better. You are intelligent, caring, responsible, and strong, which a lot more guys need to be. After a lot of talking with people, I finally found someone else, and she is the most amazing person in the world. I feel like I can be me and not someone else's play thing. I am actually thinking of proposing to her as well in the future. Please, find happiness in life because you deserve it so much, and this girl never gave you what you deserved. I wish you all of the happiness in the world. Don't let anyone ever take that from you.
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REALLY? YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO? YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN A TON OF RED FLAGS SIGNS THATS SHES CHEATED ON YOU. SHE HAS SHOWN YOU NO RESPECT AS WELL AS HER FAMILYS ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOU. HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT FOR YOURSELF & YOU STOP BEING NEEDY & ACTING LIKE THE VICTIM!!! YOU SAY YOU LOVE HER, SO YOU PUT UP WITH HER ABUSE. IF SHE LOVED YOU SHE WOULD NOT TREAT YOU LIKE A DOOR MAT! SHE DOESN'T ACT LIKE SHES CAPABLE OF LOVING ANYONE. PLEASE WISE UP & STOP BEING SO NAIVE.
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