My son is 13 hasn't hit puberty and masturbates with baby lotion (he's uncircumcised)

Hi Jenni,

He's NORMAL.

Not all males enter puberty by 13.  It can often take until 15/16.  If no signs after 16, he needs to see his doctor.

Does he have any signs of puberty?

Most guys can't retract their foreskin until about age 16 or so.

He CAN and SHOULD be stretching it.  Tell him to get an erection and pull down on the shaft skin OR use his fingers to spread the opening.  He may find it easier to do in the shower, the warm water will help soften the skin.

The more he does it, the sooner he'll notice results.  He will likely find his glans very sensitive, almost painful, at first.  This is normal and he'll get used to it.

Congrats on having a great relationship with your son.  Good luck.

I want to reinforce everything Dan said especially the congrats on your relationship. It must be really nice for him having a mother he can share this with and who wants to help him.

Thank you very much!

The mom is conflicted. Her reference is to the boy as her son. But her body will take note that he’s becoming or has become a man. His free reign around the house with an erection that doesn’t go away will wear down her resolve. She will increasingly become aroused and she will become wet and subconsciously will come up with excuses to touch him. An extra hug, a gentle neck massage or peck on his sensitive neck will lead to the desire for more intimate contact. She will suggest she give him a leg massage after his sports practice, for example. Laying there, with his mom’s hands getting closer to his crotch will eventually make him hard. It will be obvious to her through his sports shorts. And it will be very easy for her to innocently probe higher with her fingers and go up and underneath the legs of his shorts. If she’s told him to relax and close his eyes, he won’t see or even notice at first that a single finger of her other hand is gently tickling the fabric of his shorts right on or under the head of his penis - the most sensitive part of his body.That will stimulate him further, allowing her to reach further up with her other hand and massage his scrotum and behind that, the thickened cord that is the root of his penis. At that point he’s a goner and she’ll be instinctively free to then progress to directly massaging her son’s stiff penis. The only real issue after that is whether he’s old enough to have a wet ejaculation and shoot his sperm under her expert ministrations or whether he’ll have a dry orgasm.