When I was 15 years old, I had sex for the first with my boyfriend. I was young and uneducated about sex. we belived you take a girls virginity without a condom.Biggest mistake ever. A couple of weeks later, my vargina was very itchy at night and when i had to urinate there was a strong unpleasent odor. Also, i had to go to urinate every 3 mins and barely came out. I feared I had a STD & i didnt want to find out. The symptoms ended up leaving. since my first time, I never had sex again because i feared i'll spread a std . 4 years later, I never ever been sexually excited, ever ! not with porn, girls, toys, by myself, nothing. I can't produce lubercation for myslef & I seen a GYN & she sed my vargina was very dry. I am not sure if a untreated std for such a long time can cause damage to the clitourous. But I cant feel my clitourous, not for pleasure or nothing. My period is normal but I bet my life there is something wrong. I know im not suppose to dig in my vagina but i did & white mucus came out. I also feel uncomfatable when I urinate or random days. I took an std for claymidad & gonherea & it came back neg. I want to be intimate again but I am sure there is something wrong. please help.
Hi there
I agree, sex, is all about being comfortable with someone you love. If there is no intimacy, caring and sharing, a woman cannot enjoy sex. Sex, can then be forced or very uncomfortable for a woma.
I can understand how that feels. Whenever you find a person and he is interested in you, inform you that you have no intentions of having sex on the first date. Inform him about your past experienc. Spend time knowing each other. If he is the one for you, he will wait. It will take lot of self confidence and that "trust" to buildup to have natural lubrication down there.
Meanwhile eat healthy, sleep well, be relaxed. Do not brood over past issues. Whatever happened as a sad event is history. Look forward to a bright future. Good luck