Hi I'm a 22year old girl and I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. I love him to bits but he feels that the excitement has gone... He enjoys it when I pleasure him, but when we have sex I find it hard to relax and to cum (it's been going on for about 2 months now), he does everything I ask to please me when we're having sex and he goes for a long time. But I just tense up and I think I'm feeling the pressure from him to cum.
It really is affecting the relationship and he has said before that he doesn't want me to think he's not good enough. I thought about going to a sex shop and buying some games and stuff and hope that can bring some excitement back. But I want to know if any of u girls have experienced this? And does anyone know how I can relax and just cum!
I can cum using my dildo in about 5-10mins but when we are having sex it can be 25-30mins or more and I get wet but just don't cum...
It really is affecting the relationship and he has said before that he doesn't want me to think he's not good enough. I thought about going to a sex shop and buying some games and stuff and hope that can bring some excitement back. But I want to know if any of u girls have experienced this? And does anyone know how I can relax and just cum!
I can cum using my dildo in about 5-10mins but when we are having sex it can be 25-30mins or more and I get wet but just don't cum...
I can totally relate however, i'm 23 and lost my virginity 5 years ago and I still have yet to come through sexual intercourse. I think the pressure your putting on yourself is adding to it and perhaps even some kind of guilt because maybe you feel bad that your not being able to show him how you feel sexually about him through physically cuming. Reassuring him is fine but sme guys might find this patronising but what I say is find a way to relax, perhaps making it more intimate and special and about the fact that your making love with someone that means everything to you and that you love. The pressure will eventually go away. Good luck and all the best
It actually helps when you breathe slowly and think about something good in your memories and finger yourself slowly. :)