I'm 23 and unable to ejaculate without the usage of my own hand. If someone is performing oral sex on me its as if my nerves just turn off. It doesn't matter if they use their mouth or hand, if my hand isn't on it, I just can't feel it. Is there any way to correct this?
man that's really weird. Donno if i can help u with ur problem. I'll try though to give u some advices. First relax, don't stress out while having oral sex or someone using his hand. just enjoy ur time. Second thing which is the MOST important is: Ur head is the source of all pleasure u have. So while u r in ur sexual act, fantasize about anything that makes u excited. I hope that this would work for you.
It's not so weird.
What has happened is that you have become desensitized through (quite possibly) excessive masturbation. Try going at least three days without masturbating.
Also, an unhealthy addiction to pornography can cause issues both mentally and physically. It is not uncommon, in this day and age, for married men (especially older men) to become addicted to porn to the point that they dislike and avoid sex with their wives.
What has happened is that you have become desensitized through (quite possibly) excessive masturbation. Try going at least three days without masturbating.
Also, an unhealthy addiction to pornography can cause issues both mentally and physically. It is not uncommon, in this day and age, for married men (especially older men) to become addicted to porn to the point that they dislike and avoid sex with their wives.
i've watched a lot of porn.. im not addicted tho.. i rarely watch it now..
i cud go a week withut masterbation, and still get nothing from head..
i smoke a lot of dope tho... see any connections??..
masterbating when ur stoned is THE BEST.....
i cud go a week withut masterbation, and still get nothing from head..
i smoke a lot of dope tho... see any connections??..
masterbating when ur stoned is THE BEST.....
One of the reasons why masturbation with your own hand is so much more effective than sexual stimulation with another is this.
You can read and react to stimulation with lightning speed...(literally, your nerves are conducting their impulses to your brain from you hand, your penis, your skin) and the feedback loop is immediate.
That is, if you like it, you know that immediately, and do more of it.
When you have a friend stimulating you, you may like it, or it may be a little off. If it's a little off, you need to communicate that to them, they need to make a adjustment, they need to get the rhythm back, adjust the pressure, etc. All this takes time....
And if they need to take a break, a breath, a pause, or shift rhymth, you know it immediately... and it just might be at the wrong time. (Ever been building to a climax, and had somebody decide to take a break? Frustrating, isn't it?)
So, it's not unusual that you prefer your own hand... but you can learn to respond to another...and develop a close rapport with them, so that you're in synch.
You can read and react to stimulation with lightning speed...(literally, your nerves are conducting their impulses to your brain from you hand, your penis, your skin) and the feedback loop is immediate.
That is, if you like it, you know that immediately, and do more of it.
When you have a friend stimulating you, you may like it, or it may be a little off. If it's a little off, you need to communicate that to them, they need to make a adjustment, they need to get the rhythm back, adjust the pressure, etc. All this takes time....
And if they need to take a break, a breath, a pause, or shift rhymth, you know it immediately... and it just might be at the wrong time. (Ever been building to a climax, and had somebody decide to take a break? Frustrating, isn't it?)
So, it's not unusual that you prefer your own hand... but you can learn to respond to another...and develop a close rapport with them, so that you're in synch.