schedule an appointment with a Urologist ASAP
SSRI Anti depressants (particularly paroxetine) have been proved to work for many people extending intercourse time anywhere between 5 to 15 times longer. But NOT any kind, look at the side effects, especially if you have some kind of mood disorder (excessive anxiety, fear or depression). They must work similar to alcohol I guess, without having to get really wasted.
I have not yet tried SSRIs cause they require a doc's prescription. I have personally found to have the best sex doing the following. Rest from all heavy exercise for at least three days. Then do some monster hike or extreme workout at the gym (I run up a mountain or do 90 min of intense gym). Start your work out/hike easy, don't hurt yourself!! Then eat a great meal with lots of carbs and fat, then rest for a few hours. I then tend to get a monster erection and be much less sensitive, lasting several minutes when I usually come within 30 seconds. Sometimes getting a couple beers helps even more, but not always. Of course it doesn't work if you do it everyday. Also jerking off regularly to really hot porn and having a powerful orgasms help me be less sensitive the next time around
Here is what you need to know...
When your penis gets extremely sensitive during the initial start of sex you are experiencing
a DIFFERENT KIND OF ORGASM (similar to a woman's clitoral orgasm). What you don't realize is that EJACULATING is the SECOND KIND OF ORGASM that you naturally shift into because, like most men, it comes naturally and is more pleasurable. Just to prove my point, Notice when you decide to finally ejaculate how you can actually thrust for maybe a little while before you actually cum... this is because it is a SEPARATE FUNCTION.
What I am telling you is,
you can have the tip of your penis become extremely sensitive, but not ejaculate. And once you PASS this stage of penis head sensitivity (notice how I say PASS, not AVOID) your penis is ready for thrusting for a much longer time as the tip of your penis becomes slightly numb, similar to how a woman's clitoris becomes numb after orgasm.
SO here is what you do...
The next time you have sex, when you penis becomes sensitive, don't focus on activating kegal muscles like so many people may suggest, because this will increase sensitivity to your prostate and increase the odds of you cumming early. Instead pull your penis out slightly so just the tip is in and do some very small thrusts focusing on how sensitive your head is. IN FACT, I would even go as far as to say pull out completely because if you do small thrusts it will bring sensitivity to the 'base of the penis head' and this often starts an ejaculatory orgasm as well (but it is up to you). THE MOST IMPORTANT THING is to focus on the VERY TIP of the penis. But don't flex your penis using kegals to feel it, just let it be natural.
As you can see from all the pointers I'm giving you I have had my fair share of cumming early, hahaha. :D
BUT NO MORE!
BACK TO THE YOUR TEACHING!
While focusing on the tip, enjoy the sensitivity but DONT BE AFRAID OF IT, because it is a DIFFERENT KIND OF ORGASM, and IT DOESN'T MEAN it's the beginning of you cumming early! Don't think about holding your cum in, THINK ABOUT THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS ONLY. Continue to do so until the sensitivity subsides, this is the end of your "clitoral equivalent orgasm." (it's not as great as an ejaculatory orgasm, so don't think it's going to be mind blowing... Every girl will tell you the same, haha)
Now your penis is ready to do what the girl wants, BUT REMEMBER just because you've made it past the first obstacle doesn't mean there arn't more to come, so make sure you don't rush into it, slowly build your pace up and you'll be giving it to her like you always dreamed of!!!
I believe in you man! :D
I think what throws so many guys off is the fact that they think this PENIS HEAD SENSITIVITY is the start to their EJACULATORY ORGASM. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE!!!
THE BIGGEST ISSUE is that guys get SCARED of the sensitivity because they are so used to CUMMING AS SOON AS THEY FEEL SENSITIVE. And nothing makes a guy come faster than anxiety.
When your penis head gets sensitive, focus in on the head, NOT THE BASE OF the penis and allow the sensitivity to be enjoyed gently. Just like when a woman reaches clitoral orgasm she wants the clitoras to be treated gently. Just enjoy the tip sensitivity and don't think about ejaculating because remember that THEY ARE DIFFERENT. The only one making the ejaculation happen is you and your mind.
Sensitivity is good actually because it means that your penis is as sensitive as it should be! DON'T LET GUYS PUT YOU DOWN FOR HAVING A SENSITIVE PENIS, BECAUSE YOU CAN LAST JUST AS LONG AS THEY CAN AND ENJOY IT MORE! :D
Don't forget to take it slow at first and just keep still if you feel like you are shifting into an ejaculatory orgasm, I find it helps if I just breath naturally and focus my attention to my pelvis ABOVE my penis, not below, because that's where all the muscles that activate ejaculation are.
I hope my response helps you out and educated you on the HIDDEN complexities of the male sexual organs. Girls think they're the only ones who can be complex, HA! :D
BEST OF LUCK IN YOUR PURSUITS.
Issue you are describing is high sensitivity to stimulation, not all stimulation is same intensity.
By default your sexual organs have some level of sensitivity, and depending on the type of stimulation they get they ether get more sensitive or less sensitive.
If you stopped doing any kind of sexual stimulation for few weeks, you would become considerably more sensitive because your penis is not getting allot of stimulation.
If you start having highly stimulating experiences with strong and vigorous action, your sensitivity decreases.
This is how body adapts to its environment and you need to learn how to use this mechanism to get what you want.
When you masturbate you are in control and amount of stimulation(pressure, rhythm and force ) is carefully controlled by you, you apply only as much as feels great and no more, because adding more would make the experience less enjoyable, you reflexively avoid it. This means your sensitivity ether stays the same or actually increases, because you are stimulating right in the comfort zone of your body. Thats where the issue begins.
Now how you can fix this
You need to give your body allot more stimulation than it is used to, this will begin the process of getting your private parts less sensitive. When you masturbate apply considerably more pressure to sensitive parts, stroke much harder than usual, lube helps. You should feel pleasure and discomfort, the more discomfort you cause the more you are telling your body - this is normal stimulation, I am going to be having stimulation like this often, get used to it.
Take it at your own pace, it will be difficult your heart will race and blood with rush to your head and face, it will feel unbearable and at the same time pleasurable, take breaks to calm down.
But make sure when you masturbate you do it with allot of stimulation at least for period of time.
Moment of orgasm
Most important moment is when you orgasm and I can bet allot on the fact that your stimulation during masturbation almost completely stops, thats because you are too sensitive. So after your session with vigorous stimulation, always finish with vigorous stimulation when you orgasm. This is hard and needs allot of self control, but remember why you are doing this - you will be able to enjoy normal sex with your loved one.
Have your partner stroke you while you orgasm and not stop no matter what, this will feel incredibly numbingly pleasurable, and you will need to play with what intensity you can take, but gradually you will take more and more.
If you do this few times a week, sensitivity will begin to decrease and you may discover that you can have longer sex sessions with your partner. Keep at it and you will really begin to extend your p***y time. Get to the point where you feel comfortable having sex.
You will soon discover that having sex is just a first step, next is being able to enjoy orgasm inside your woman and that poses another challenge. When you are close to orgasm your penis fills with blood becoming allot harder, this causes more friction and increases sensitivity, this gets you in to same sensitivity issue you had initially but at the moment you orgasm, you will not want to move at all and sensation of orgasm will be diminished - Bummer
There is a way to overcome this, read below.
Get a practice toy
Get one of many available masturbation toys like meki or fleshlight, they usually offer more stimulation than real sex because of textures inside the sleeve. You will notice that right away, you may feel super sensitive shortly after you go in to the toy. But keep working on this, remember discomfort is you telling your body to become less sensitive. You cant overcome this issue without feeling discomfort. Same may muscle can not be built up without training.
When you reach orgasm with the toy, you got to keep it moving, it will be hard but clench your teeth and keep it moving.
Do this few times a week, work on it with your partner, before you know it you will be able to enjoy lasting sex with your partner and enjoyable orgasms.
Use common sense and listen to your body, this process is not easy and takes dedication, but I feel that reward is worth it.
Be observant of your body but do not be too easy on yourself, the more stimulation you provide the faster your body will get used to it.
At some point you will reach your result and sex will be enjoyable, orgasms will feel great - don't forget to stop there. You want to be as sensitive as possible to receive most pleasure but not too sensitive so you stop enjoying sex and have to drill for orgasm.
If reaching orgasm gets hard - take a break, stop stimulating.
I also have the same issue and also have tried everything nothing works. How ever just like someone mentioned drinking alcohol and having a buzz keeps me going long. Maybe these scientist should look into this, sounds like a money maker sorry ladies