it happened on a wednesday and thats when i noticed the blood in my underwear in the toilets.
and im not really sure when my period starts as i am irregular but my guess is about aug. 20th and i dont know if my hymen is still intact because i havent done anything like this before. i did some research and some people said that they can feel symptoms after 3 day and i really havent felt any at all.
@shepherd999 t happened on a wednesday and thats when i noticed the blood in my underwear in the toilets.and im not really sure when my period starts as i am irregular but my guess is about aug. 20th and i dont know if my hymen is still intact because i havent done anything like this before. i did some research and some people said that they can feel symptoms after 3 day and i really havent felt any at all.
i really need ur help... is it possible to feel symptoms in 3 days and also i read that the brown discharge the day after is a way of the vag to cleanse itself? im really scared now because if i am this is my last day to prevent myself from getting pregnant?
It is difficult to be certain from what you have said. I think you are unlikely to have any symptoms so soon anyway.
The likelihood is that the stain on your underwear is from damage bleeding rather that anything to do with pregnancy. However, from the dates you suggest, it is possible that it happened in a fertile time, so there could be a risk.
Some EC pills have 3-day limit; some have a 5-day limit. You say you are Asian, but not where in Asia you are, so I don't know what is available where you live.
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If your period started 20th August (you should know when it started, even if you are irregular), with a 28-day cycle, ovulation could have occurred 3rd Sept (Tuesday, the day before your activity). In that case your activity would have been too late for pregnancy. But you are irregular, so it is a close call. You don't say what your cycle range is. Then there is the question of what you actually did.
"he put his penis against my vag but he didnt go in" What do you mean by your 'vag'? If you mean your actual vagina (the birth canal), then if he secreted any fluid, it is possible some may have entered your vagina. If you mean your vulva, then it may be that he was not near enough to your vagina entrance to put you at risk. Where exactly did his penis touch you?
"he scratched some parts of the vag lips" this could well have caused the bleeding. Was it the inner lips? On the inside, or between the inner and outer lips?
"i dont know if my hymen is still intact" You can always check by using a hand mirror.
I hope this is some help. I understand your fears. Whatever you decide, I think it would be good to talk about what happened in more detail, to try and make sure you don't have this worry again.
Take care.
I wait to hear from you.
thank you so much for replying.
it has been the 7th day after what had happened and there still hasnt been any symptoms. no bleeding, no sore boobs or any other.
i have had to pee a lot but it must be because his hands werent clean b4 he did stuff. and he said he touched the rocks b4 the thing happened.. so yeh. i dont pee as much as i used to anymore though. and im not really sure but i think it was the length of his penis that touched my clitoris? something like that. and the scratch was in the inner lips. and how do i know if my hymen is still intact? also what i think is that he may have just infected my area and maybe thats why i needed to pee a lot. he also said that he didnt ejaculate or precum when it was against me and i feel more reassured because of researches but im still quite scared and i worry a lot as its still quite early to tell.
it means so much to me that someone can actually help me because i cant talk about it with anyone else so thank you ..
I'm pleased to help.
You must make sure that whatever touches your genitals is clean. I think he may have infected you. You have a short urethra, and infection is easy. Do you masturbate with dirty hands? What rocks did he touch?
Make sure you drink lots and lots of water to cleanse your system. You need to pee!
"it was the length of his penis that touched my clitoris" If you mean that the tip of his penis touched your clitoris and not your vagina opening, then you are at less risk. But of course that depends on the size of your clitoris, and how close that would be to your vaginal entrance. It would also depend how wet you were.
Also, dont forget the risk of manual transfer. If you or he had semen on your fingers (from touching his penis?) then fingering (finger in vagina) could transfer sperm.
If the scratch was in the inner lips, then that may well have caused blood stains. That area is always well supplied with blood, and you were aroused!
He said he didn't ejaculate, but you would have known that anyway I think. You would have seen the semen. However neither of you may be certain whether he had precum. Did he orgasm at all? Was his penis tip completely dry?
Pre-cum can contain sperm. So you have to be careful. But I think you may be OK this time, subject to what I have said.
You can visually examine your hymen using a hand-mirror. Hymens vary, but often they have a small finger-sized hole to allow for menstrual out-flow.
If you want more direction, let me know.
okay thank you so much! i dont think he did an orgasm. and im still quite worried as i have no symptoms for neither pregnancy or period. can pregnancy cause this? and also at the first weeks my cervical mucous was dry and these past days its quite wet and the colour varies its either clear or milky and also it smells weird like fishy or feet smell. is that normal? im sorry if im pestering you i just dont know who i can talk about this to.
Don't worry about asking your questions. You are not pestering me. I'm pleased to help where I can. But you must answer my questions which are asked to help me understand you better, so that I can give a helpful answer. You haven't answered all my questions. If you don't want to say everything in public, sign in and ask in private.
"i dont think he did an orgasm" - but you don't know? tell me more about what happened.
"no symptoms for neither pregnancy or period. can pregnancy cause this?" Yes it can. There are often no signs of pregnancy early on. On 25th September (3 weeks after your activity) a home pregnancy test should be accurate.
"it smells weird like fishy or feet smell" - That could be because of infection. That is a symptom of bacterial vaginosis. If so, it needs treatment.
"i just dont know who i can talk about this to" - That is why this site is here, and why some of us take time to answer. But to answer properly, we have to have all the relevant information from you.
I hope this helps a bit, but feel free to ask for more help if you wish.
i dont have the money to buy a pregnancy test. but having no symptoms of pregnancy or period.. does that mean im pregnant?..
and to answer ur questions:
i dont usually masturbate and we were beside a river so it was sandy muddy light brown rocks. he was moaning but i dont think that was an orgasm? and no i dont think his penis was dry as it had some of my saliva.
if he didnt ejaculate but i was a little wet and his penis did touch my clitoris, how much chance is there of me being pregnant?. considering the fact that the vagina is a very hostile environment for sperms. and also as i have asked earlier on, does it mean i may be pregnant because i dont have any symptoms of pregnancy or period?....
Thank you for the additional information. That helps.
"we were beside a river so it was sandy muddy light brown rocks" that means in infection is likely.
"he was moaning but i dont think that was an orgasm?" Not necessarily. Did he ejaculate? I think you would probably have seen the effects of that.
"i dont think his penis was dry as it had some of my saliva" You might have tasted any pre-cum, but if he was wet with your saliva, you might not visually notice pre-cum.
"if he didnt ejaculate but i was a little wet and his penis did touch my clitoris, how much chance is there of me being pregnant?" It could depend on the size of your clitoris, and/or whether there was any manual transfer. If you have a small clitoris, it may be a distance from your vagina, so making the journey further. A larger clitoris might hang closer to your vagina, making the journey shorter. A much bigger clitoris might mean any sperm is actually further away. Then, whatever the size, if you or he touched your clitoris, and then put that same finger in your vagina, sperm could have been transferred.
"the vagina is a very hostile environment for sperms" But some survive. It only takes one sperm to survive. I think the chances are low, but there is still a risk, however small. On top of that, I am not sure it happened in a fertile time.
okay thank you. my breasts are starting to sore and i had a little blood on my underwear and i mean like 2 small spots. does that mean my period is going to start tomorrow? if it doesnt, what does it mean? is there any other symptoms i have to look out for?
It could be your period is about to start in a day or so. Just wait and see. You are irregular anyway, and probably stressed, which could cause delay.
You haven't answered whether your hymen is intact (by inspection) and whether he ejaculated (by observation).
I think it is unlikely you are pregnant. Can your boyfriend buy you a test?
sorry i dont know what the hymen looks like though or where it is located. and i might get one on monday. he also told me that he didnt ejaculate and if he did i think we would both know. today ive been feeling like i need to vomit. but i also think its because of stress. im young and i really dont want to get pregnant and i think im making myself think i am because i keep thinking about it. i cry alot these past weeks. my boyfriend also said that maybe my period is delayed and why im feeling nauseous today is because im stressing a lot about this. also i had a brown bleeding on my underwear. could that be my period?
Here is an example of a hymen:
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/sites/default/files/files/styles/large/public/field/image/hymen_virginal.jpg
Does this help?
"he also told me that he didnt ejaculate and if he did i think we would both know" I think so too. have you seen him ejaculate before?
"i think im making myself think i am because i keep thinking about it ... maybe my period is delayed and why im feeling nauseous today is because im stressing a lot about this." That is most likely.
"i had a brown bleeding on my underwear. could that be my period?" It could be an indication that the start is not far away.