I am a 33 year old, back in school, no job, in debt. My ex same situation.
My ex and I dated for almost 2 years then he broke things off bc he wasnt sure if he could see a future with me. It was really hard for me since I loved him very much and still do (i guess) We broke up 2 and half years ago and since then we have seen each other on and off. Really messed up situation, I know!! I was on pill but I think I have missed one...so after 5 months of not seeing each we hooked up again and then this last time I got pregnant...My period didnt come so i did the pharmacy test and I am seeing a dr tomorrow to confirm.
He has no idea yet, and I am really confused that I should tell him that I am pregnant and i decided not to have the baby...It is not an easy decision since I ve dreamed to be a mom but my financially situation and our 'friends with benefits" situation has given no other choice. I only told one friend of mine and she has been very supportive.
My question is ...should I tell him that I am pregnant and not having it?!
I am so sad and confused..It is gonna be the hardest conversation I ve ever had with someone. I am not sure how he will react. Since he is back in school for his Masters and may be living abroad for 4 months for an exchange I dont think he will care much that I am not having it... We never really talked about abortion bc it was never a choice for me (until I face with the issue).
I am afraid he will resent me and I will resent him... because this not a easy situation. We had a good history together and I didnt wanna things end for good between us with resentment. I heard/read so much stories of people hating each other after.. and plus I dont wanna him to make me feel guilty, in case he doesnt agree with it (abortion)....it is already hard as it is
What should I do? Please someone give some advice...My heart is in pain.
My ex and I dated for almost 2 years then he broke things off bc he wasnt sure if he could see a future with me. It was really hard for me since I loved him very much and still do (i guess) We broke up 2 and half years ago and since then we have seen each other on and off. Really messed up situation, I know!! I was on pill but I think I have missed one...so after 5 months of not seeing each we hooked up again and then this last time I got pregnant...My period didnt come so i did the pharmacy test and I am seeing a dr tomorrow to confirm.
He has no idea yet, and I am really confused that I should tell him that I am pregnant and i decided not to have the baby...It is not an easy decision since I ve dreamed to be a mom but my financially situation and our 'friends with benefits" situation has given no other choice. I only told one friend of mine and she has been very supportive.
My question is ...should I tell him that I am pregnant and not having it?!
I am so sad and confused..It is gonna be the hardest conversation I ve ever had with someone. I am not sure how he will react. Since he is back in school for his Masters and may be living abroad for 4 months for an exchange I dont think he will care much that I am not having it... We never really talked about abortion bc it was never a choice for me (until I face with the issue).
I am afraid he will resent me and I will resent him... because this not a easy situation. We had a good history together and I didnt wanna things end for good between us with resentment. I heard/read so much stories of people hating each other after.. and plus I dont wanna him to make me feel guilty, in case he doesnt agree with it (abortion)....it is already hard as it is
What should I do? Please someone give some advice...My heart is in pain.
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You should tell your ex if you are pregnant or not. it is his baby too. Plus if you've always dreamed of being a mom you should keep the baby. You could always take care of the baby and you would get a lot of help with it regardless of your situation and everything does happen for a reason, if you and your ex are still messing around you're probably not over eachother, A baby doesn't fix anything but a lot of people who have a way harder time are able to have the same situation.
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I just confirmed with the Dr....Positive!! Now i dont know how to tell him =( I am so shocked, sad, confused, not sure how he will react (he wouldnt be violent nor abusive though)
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