Me and my girlfriend have gone out for about 6 weeks now. We've moved along pretty fast and love each other very much.
Recently, we've gone into the realm of the genital areas. Now it doesn't take much at all to get me turned on (I am a guy), all it will take is a simple kiss. And she has given me several hand jobs, which have gone well (works especially well in the shower). But my girlfriend on the other hand, well, she is not familiar with her body as much as I am.
Whenever I try to masterbate her, I usually rub her clit (which is surprisingly not that sensative to her). And I've only made her have an orgasm twice. Other times she finds herself not turned on enough to get an orgasm when I masterbate her.
She doesn't like the feel of my fingers inside of her (because she said it's a weird and kind of painful feeling), so I can't really finger her. And I've try several body parts, such as the neck, ears, nipples, etc.
It seems the only time she has been really turned on is when we kiss after not having kissed a while. I suppose it creates a more intense makeout session that leads to other things.
Can anyone help me with this problem? Any advice or suggestions on how to get her turned on? Any masterbation suggestions also?
Note: We are both virgins and have not and will not have sex for some time to come.
Recently, we've gone into the realm of the genital areas. Now it doesn't take much at all to get me turned on (I am a guy), all it will take is a simple kiss. And she has given me several hand jobs, which have gone well (works especially well in the shower). But my girlfriend on the other hand, well, she is not familiar with her body as much as I am.
Whenever I try to masterbate her, I usually rub her clit (which is surprisingly not that sensative to her). And I've only made her have an orgasm twice. Other times she finds herself not turned on enough to get an orgasm when I masterbate her.
She doesn't like the feel of my fingers inside of her (because she said it's a weird and kind of painful feeling), so I can't really finger her. And I've try several body parts, such as the neck, ears, nipples, etc.
It seems the only time she has been really turned on is when we kiss after not having kissed a while. I suppose it creates a more intense makeout session that leads to other things.
Can anyone help me with this problem? Any advice or suggestions on how to get her turned on? Any masterbation suggestions also?
Note: We are both virgins and have not and will not have sex for some time to come.
I have an update to the situation. It seems that when I kiss her neck and nibble/breathe on her ear it kind of gets her going. The problem though is when masterbation comes into play. The thing is when I rub her down there, I'm looking for her clit, and she's not too sure of where it is, and thinks it's her clit when I rub it, and it may very well be her clit. But her clit is not really that sensative, so it's hard to get her to have an orgasm with it. I want to be able to finger her, and maybe find her G spot if she has it, but like I said in my explanation up there, she doesn't like the feeling of my finger in her, though I haven't ventured in there really for her to experience anything. So, what should I do? Girls opinions would be appreciated.
If she's not willing to try new things, than the blame should be put on her shoulders, obviously current methods aren't working and thats not either of your faults, but it is her fault if she's not willing to do her part in helping to fix the situation.