Since an erection requires a precise sequence of events, ED can occur when any of the events is disrupted. The sequence includes nerve impulses in the brain, spinal column, and area around the penis, and response in muscles, fibrous tissues, veins, and arteries in and near the corpora cavernosa.
Damage to nerves, arteries, smooth muscles, and fibrous tissues, often as a result of disease, is the most common cause of ED. Diseases - such as diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, atherosclerosis, vascular disease, and neurologic disease - account for about 70 percent of ED cases. Between 35 and 50 percent of men with diabetes experience ED.
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Damage to nerves, arteries, smooth muscles, and fibrous tissues, often as a result of disease, is the most common cause of ED. Diseases - such as diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, atherosclerosis, vascular disease, and neurologic disease - account for about 70 percent of ED cases. Between 35 and 50 percent of men with diabetes experience ED.
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I had the same problem when I got a new girlfriend. I would easily get hard, but lose it or just get soft and I was like why, cuz I was able to before. Her and I tried at it a fews times with no luck. Then one day as we were watching a movie we started making out and did some foreplay. Shortly after some lost clothes and kiss while trying to put it in, I got it back! Now we have no problem at all. So foreplay does help and don't try to just do it. Let it happen. It works and feels better. Hope this helps.
I have had this problem. I'm 20 and have tried 3 times with my gf with no luck. i never have trouble being hard when im around her or when we make out/do sexual things, but i loose it/can't get it when I we are about to have sex. it's funny because i would always be hard when i was even holding her hand or kissing her check. I think I am just nervous about it like it not being good enough for her plus i might loose my errection during it. I can get semi-hard and once i put on a condom, but then before we had sex, i lost it. i feel like a lot of thoughts rush through my mind before and it makes me nervous and paranoid.
im a virgin btw. but at this point im considering something like viagra or something to deal with this because i really want to have sex and i have been with my girlfriend for about a year and it's really hurting the relationship. do people my age ever use that kind of stuff? is that an option?
im a virgin btw. but at this point im considering something like viagra or something to deal with this because i really want to have sex and i have been with my girlfriend for about a year and it's really hurting the relationship. do people my age ever use that kind of stuff? is that an option?
Seems like you feel nervous due to which you loose erection. Be a man and Just do it.
Ive been with my boyfriend quite a while, hes a virgin, im not. He had trouble getting it up me because he couldnt stay hard.. Is ther anything i can do to make him feel less nervous ? pleaseeeee!
Just been through that today it is really annoying indeed, eventually I tricked my brain. The third time we tried I told her simply to change her mind about having sex... It's like foreplay without sex, except eventually you just pull that condom over and start. We used plenty of lube but she was really in pain when I penetrated with whole length so that turned me on (self confidence stuff about penis size).
Naturally I stopped immediatly and pushed in way less, nontheless I found it exciting to know my penis is big enough.
So girls, (or boys tell your girls);
1)Pretend you don't want to have sex with him, let him try and convince you. That way he doesnt know when it's gonna happen .. (in a minute, an hour, next evening) (we did after 30 minutes foreplay).
2)Then act quick, it should be either perfectly hard, or just enough for penetration. Dont let yourself be stopped, once he pushed in just squeal a bit and tell him not to go too deep. It'll turn him on bad and things will work perfectly!
3) put a pillow under your hips it makes things much easier.
Hope it works for you as it worked for me, I know how bad it feels...
Naturally I stopped immediatly and pushed in way less, nontheless I found it exciting to know my penis is big enough.
So girls, (or boys tell your girls);
1)Pretend you don't want to have sex with him, let him try and convince you. That way he doesnt know when it's gonna happen .. (in a minute, an hour, next evening) (we did after 30 minutes foreplay).
2)Then act quick, it should be either perfectly hard, or just enough for penetration. Dont let yourself be stopped, once he pushed in just squeal a bit and tell him not to go too deep. It'll turn him on bad and things will work perfectly!
3) put a pillow under your hips it makes things much easier.
Hope it works for you as it worked for me, I know how bad it feels...
OK guys this is for everyone... i HAD this problem.. i tried losing my virginity 5 times before i managed to penetrate! its VERY normal dont worry.. relax and it will all fall into place! recently a few weeks ago i had sex after i got out of the relationship i was in (where i had the problem in the start). and it happened again! it was because i didnt feel very comfortable with the girl and i wasnt too keen on wat i was doing either.. so its all in the brain! i managed to eventually have sex with the other girl by calming myself! cant say that it was the best sex ever but i managed! the key is.. find a girl who is patient.. TALK to the girl about wat happens.. DONT WORRY... and CALM DOWN.. guys it happens to thousands of men around the world it is very NORMAL.. look at me for instance.. i had it and manage dot overcome it.. remember this.. you control your body.. dont let it control you! its all in your head!
I know exactly what all of you are going thru, and I can say that it happens to just about everybody. I've had it happen to me, and from time to time it may still happen. If I'm with a new girl the anxiety can be a b***h, cause u wanna preform well and "rock her world". But you just got to relax and just try to enjoy it. sometimes I lose my erection a bit during sex with my girl and it's not rock hard anymore but I can still stroke. sometimes I'm not that into it so I guess that can lead to it because I'm not focused on enjoying it. But you will have good days and you will have bad days, but just learn to relax and don't focus on the preformance but focus on the pleasure!!!
i m also 18 and facing the same problem.....
erection doesn't last at the time of insertion...
it is very humiliating....
please help me...
erection doesn't last at the time of insertion...
it is very humiliating....
please help me...
Well this may sound a bit weird, but I've done it with my girlfriend 5 times and a few of the times I couldn't get it hiked up... I found that getting undressed with her and doing some teasing (she's taking dance hehehe) usually works, and also don't stress over it. Also try using your hands to slightly penetrate her a little bit, and then storm her trenches. If that doesn't help and it starts shrinking, I've actually smacked my penis softly a few times and it would get back up there. Easiest position I would say is to lay on your back, have her do some teasing and things like that, undress, and you should masturbate extremely slowly just enough to keep the little guy perky, and then have her get on top of it. Yes boys, it happens to all of us... Even the smell of her after a workout one afternoon got me pretty soft, but I still got it. Just don't stress about it guys. Hell, even try talking to her before you engage in activity. Tell her that your sorry if it's embarrassing and stuff like that. and guys also, everyone should be over at least 4-5 inches MINIMUM while hard. She'll love it guys. Over 7 inches starts getting to be severe overkill for her first time... So sometimes a softie is a good thing lol
I had the same problem a while back And I actually came to this website for advice even though I really didn't want to but Im 17 I came in one morning just after leaving my gf house and was mad that this problem happened right before having sex so after reading this and figuring out that all I had to do is relax and enjoy the moment then everything will be ok. It's all in your mind guys it's hard not to think about it and that's normal. But your going to be ok trust me
I tried hugging her and make her kiss you on the neck, that worked for me :)
I've been having the same problem. I get nervous right before its time to get it on and it's embarrassing.. I want to be able to just get down to it sometimes and I know I'm supposed to relax but man.. I can't do it. But once my buddy is finally up the second time we do it is no problem..
Last night I had sex with my Gf she said she was satisfied and happy but I highly doubt she was.
I couldn't get it up to save me. She was really tight and when I was hard it was already hard to put it. Help?
I couldn't get it up to save me. She was really tight and when I was hard it was already hard to put it. Help?
what kind of herbal supplement do u suggest that works