okay so I'm 19, I've been married 3 months and I REALLY want to have a baby! the plan was for me to get a job after marriage and study part time for a couple years or so before trying for babies as we're both so young! but I have been applying for countless jobs and only had one interview which was unsuccessful, the economy here is not so good atm. So all I do is sit at home all day doing the general house work and thinking about having babies I have ALWAYS been an incredibly clucky one which was made worse by a missed pill and a handful of symptoms month ago... I was so sure I was pregnant. My Husband and I have talked alot about this as he's worried about all the stuff guys worry about like money and timing and we've decided to talk to some people with experience in this area. I know its eventually our decision but I wouldn't mind some opinions?
Serious answers only please :)
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I have not personally had a child yet, but my best friend had a child young *he was 21 and his girlfriend 18*, so I know how much of a problem it can cause. He loves his daughter to death don't get me wrong, but he wishes he could have waited, he had a full time job and both of their parents to help support the child, and yet he still struggles to pay bills and things for his daughter. They have found a way to make it work, but it still does make their lives difficult. A child is a blessing, but if you are having troubles finding a job now or having financial problems in general I suggest waiting for a while and build up a savings to fall back on just in case you do end up having a baby and can't afford it.
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Hubby has a really well paying job and expecting two more pay rises this year.. the money isn't a problem, we're just trying to sort through emotions, thanks :)
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Some things to think about: Does your husband have medical thats definitely important to have, Does he make good money cause babies cost a lot, have you done everything you want to do with your life cause I know a lot of people who have kids always regret not doing some things in their life before having kids. Why do you want a baby? do you only want a baby because your bored at home and have nothing to do?
How do you and your partner communicate with each others needs, fears, dreams, have you passed the honeymoon phase? Are you prepared for the lifestyle changes? Have you achieved your goals?
How do you and your partner communicate with each others needs, fears, dreams, have you passed the honeymoon phase? Are you prepared for the lifestyle changes? Have you achieved your goals?
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even though your husband has a good paying job what happens if he gets injuried and he can no longer work.
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