Ok, I'm 14 and I have a crush on this girl... I wanna ask her out but I'm nervous about it and I don't really know how to ask her out or really when to do it...... Ladies if you have an suggestions you think would help and guys just knowledge from experience... plz help before its too late
oberg13 a long one
So if you have a class or common interest together, start talking now to her, exchange phone numbers, so it is more on a friend basic at first, not "jump in the sack date" as you may see a bond grow, make it later. a drama class way to get over stage fright; think of seeing her in her underwear when you finally ask her out.(this may be a exciting moment)
1) be direct, but not forceful, & not unsure of yourself, don't talk/ask about something and "off the wall" asking her to the dance" and if a dance, don't stand/sit there, because you can't dance - everyone can!!!
OK so it is easy to ask a girl out, the other problem is;
a) this is the worst part the guy will go through, she says NO, or not now, that means ask me later, but not too much later, if you have a firm answer like "go *** your self, drop dead" or other long list like that, don't ask her again (until high school - if she treats the boys like that - she will need to change before having a first date)
b) she says YES then what do you do?
so have a plan on some thinks or places you wish to go, talk to her over the phone (& DON"T Text her, be personal.) to make sure she will be intersted in going there, a movie is not a good place to have early dates at, you need to be able to talk with her, not to her (be intersted, not intersting*) what you two may have in common, or to some place that your friends may have never been.
* be intersted, not intersting means you wish to hear about her, not that you did this, have her the "centre of the picture".
and after a few dates, it will be time to meet the parnets, they will wish to know who is taking up their daughter's time..do this as a double double dates, you & her, her parnets & your parnets at a causal dinner, but that is "up the road aways".
RT
Your first real girlfriend will always be with you, she may be or may be not be that one.
So if you have a class or common interest together, start talking now to her, exchange phone numbers, so it is more on a friend basic at first, not "jump in the sack date" as you may see a bond grow, make it later. a drama class way to get over stage fright; think of seeing her in her underwear when you finally ask her out.(this may be a exciting moment)
1) be direct, but not forceful, & not unsure of yourself, don't talk/ask about something and "off the wall" asking her to the dance" and if a dance, don't stand/sit there, because you can't dance - everyone can!!!
OK so it is easy to ask a girl out, the other problem is;
a) this is the worst part the guy will go through, she says NO, or not now, that means ask me later, but not too much later, if you have a firm answer like "go *** your self, drop dead" or other long list like that, don't ask her again (until high school - if she treats the boys like that - she will need to change before having a first date)
b) she says YES then what do you do?
so have a plan on some thinks or places you wish to go, talk to her over the phone (& DON"T Text her, be personal.) to make sure she will be intersted in going there, a movie is not a good place to have early dates at, you need to be able to talk with her, not to her (be intersted, not intersting*) what you two may have in common, or to some place that your friends may have never been.
* be intersted, not intersting means you wish to hear about her, not that you did this, have her the "centre of the picture".
and after a few dates, it will be time to meet the parnets, they will wish to know who is taking up their daughter's time..do this as a double double dates, you & her, her parnets & your parnets at a causal dinner, but that is "up the road aways".
RT
Your first real girlfriend will always be with you, she may be or may be not be that one.