Been looking through what I could find on Google, to see if anything I could read would give me some insight. Unfortunately, I've had no such luck.
I've been with my fiance for about 3 years now, and we weren't sexually active until after the first year. She was the first and last girl I have been with. I'm currently 20 years old, and she is 33. Bit of an age gap im sure, but age hasn't stopped me from loving her. Anyway, I never had trouble reaching an orgasm with her for the first 6 months or so. But lately I can't finish at all unless I masturbate, and that's a bit of a problem, because I wont do it in front of her. I feel absolutely no pleasure when we have sex, and I've honestly tried everything I can think of based on what Ive found through my searches, such as different positions. It's frustrating her some, because I don't even want to have sex anymore. I feel sex is meant for us both to enjoy, not just one or the other.
Im an overweight fella, I weigh about 350ish, while she is around 150ish. I talked with an older friend of mine, and he suggested to start taking a OTC vitamin called Stress Tabs, which has some B vitamins, to help bigger guys like me (hes a big fella also) have more stamina for activities like this. The pills worked as far as me having more energy at the end of the night, but still no luck in the sex department.
Everyone says stress is a huge factor in enjoying sex, and maybe stress is the reason. But honestly, everyone is under stress yet somehow, others enjoy sex just fine. I got bills to pay and some months it's really hard to make ends meet. Most of my stress is from financial issues which is just caused by bills, and everyone has them.
Im willing to provide more information if anyone has questions.
I've been with my fiance for about 3 years now, and we weren't sexually active until after the first year. She was the first and last girl I have been with. I'm currently 20 years old, and she is 33. Bit of an age gap im sure, but age hasn't stopped me from loving her. Anyway, I never had trouble reaching an orgasm with her for the first 6 months or so. But lately I can't finish at all unless I masturbate, and that's a bit of a problem, because I wont do it in front of her. I feel absolutely no pleasure when we have sex, and I've honestly tried everything I can think of based on what Ive found through my searches, such as different positions. It's frustrating her some, because I don't even want to have sex anymore. I feel sex is meant for us both to enjoy, not just one or the other.
Im an overweight fella, I weigh about 350ish, while she is around 150ish. I talked with an older friend of mine, and he suggested to start taking a OTC vitamin called Stress Tabs, which has some B vitamins, to help bigger guys like me (hes a big fella also) have more stamina for activities like this. The pills worked as far as me having more energy at the end of the night, but still no luck in the sex department.
Everyone says stress is a huge factor in enjoying sex, and maybe stress is the reason. But honestly, everyone is under stress yet somehow, others enjoy sex just fine. I got bills to pay and some months it's really hard to make ends meet. Most of my stress is from financial issues which is just caused by bills, and everyone has them.
Im willing to provide more information if anyone has questions.
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Was thinking about the original post and wanted to add some more information.
Ever since I was 7 I have been masturbating, which is not a BAD thing, at least I don't think so. The problem there in lies, that since I WAS 7 I would masturbate once a day. By the time I was 13 it has escalated to 3 times a day, usually never missing a day, except on rare occasion. After age 15 or 16 I hit the internet, lol. Which brought a whole new meaning to masturbation through pornography and hentai. At this point I would masturbate anytime from 3 times a day to a high peak of 15 or 17 averaging out to about 7 times a day.
Now im not a medical doctor or anything, but about 7 times a day on average seems awfully excessive, im not sure what the definition of normal masturbation is, but its prolly not 7 times a day.
Anyway, that continues up until me and my soul mate moved in together, which puts me at the age of 18ish 19ish. Was reading something somewhere that this might cause my body to believe it should only enjoy masturbation and only finish when I masturbate? Not sure if its true.
Anyway, im highly anticipation some replies, as I don't have money to see a sexual therapist or health insurance to speak with a doctor. Thank you in advanced for your time.
Decided to register after I made the post.
Was thinking about the original post and wanted to add some more information.
Ever since I was 7 I have been masturbating, which is not a BAD thing, at least I don't think so. The problem there in lies, that since I WAS 7 I would masturbate once a day. By the time I was 13 it has escalated to 3 times a day, usually never missing a day, except on rare occasion. After age 15 or 16 I hit the internet, lol. Which brought a whole new meaning to masturbation through pornography and hentai. At this point I would masturbate anytime from 3 times a day to a high peak of 15 or 17 averaging out to about 7 times a day.
Now im not a medical doctor or anything, but about 7 times a day on average seems awfully excessive, im not sure what the definition of normal masturbation is, but its prolly not 7 times a day.
Anyway, that continues up until me and my soul mate moved in together, which puts me at the age of 18ish 19ish. Was reading something somewhere that this might cause my body to believe it should only enjoy masturbation and only finish when I masturbate? Not sure if its true.
Anyway, im highly anticipation some replies, as I don't have money to see a sexual therapist or health insurance to speak with a doctor. Thank you in advanced for your time.
I don't think that masturbation is the problem. HOnestly at 350 lb., I think that might be affecting your sex drive. I know that it can be a factor, and I hate to rag on you for your weight because I am DEFINITELY not trying to but I think some regular exercise might help you with your sex life! Guy to guy--and this is me confiding something to you here--I am ready and raring to go after a good jog! What do you think about that as a solution?
I live in god awefully bloody hot weather, its a minimum of 85 degress here on 99% of days unless its raining. During the noon hours it peaks at mid 90's to 100.
I normally walk miles, but only during winter season when the peak is usually 75ish. However, trying to walk in the current temperatures wear me down in a matter of minutes. Which defeats the purpose.
I appreciate the idea, and I too wish I could get on an exercise routine, but our living space is small, with me, her, and her 2 kids its not the best place to attempt exercise. Id like to get signd up at a gym of sorts, but have no extra money, heck, we dont even have cable.
Still watching this topic hourly!
I normally walk miles, but only during winter season when the peak is usually 75ish. However, trying to walk in the current temperatures wear me down in a matter of minutes. Which defeats the purpose.
I appreciate the idea, and I too wish I could get on an exercise routine, but our living space is small, with me, her, and her 2 kids its not the best place to attempt exercise. Id like to get signd up at a gym of sorts, but have no extra money, heck, we dont even have cable.
Still watching this topic hourly!
Well I'd recommend if you're walking that hot weather is the best time to do it actually. And I think that's the way to get started on an exercise routine, really. You just have to get yourself in a habit first--so start walking around the block like 10 minutes a day 4 times a week or something like that. Also! If you cut sodas out of your diet and replace them with ice water, you actually will save yourself a lot of calories every week. Do you drink a lot of soda?
I dont like carbonated drinks. Normally only drink water or tea.
i have to agree on the exercise front. in the last year i have put on some weight and my level of exercise has declined, i would say my libido has decreased somewhat alongside with it.