You have no idea what you are talking about. LADIES GET THE FACTS FROM THOSE WHO HAVE HAD A TOTAL. I HAVE AND IT IS BETTER THEN BEFORE!!!!!!
my wife had a total hysterectomy 2 years ago & there is no sex life. i feel for you. she has pain as soon as i enter no matter what position. life sucks for both of us in the intimate part of life.
I'm 48 and four months out from surgery. Complete hysterectomy but left one ovary. No one mentioned the fact that sex was going to be totally different, especially my doctor just gave the benefits of the surgery not the downfalls! I even studied up or so I thought before going through it. Well have to say if I could go back I probably would, sex is terrible I have no feeling at all!!! Not to mention no sex drive either. The pain from the tumors i had was atleast off and on, I am sick at heart and feel like my sex life is over for good. My husband is not very understanding and thinks I should be resuming as usual but its not happening. Do whatever you can to avoid a hysterectomy.
I had a total hysterectomy, including removal of my tubes and ovaries, 23 years ago. My husband and I had a very active sex life (at least once, sometimes two to three times a day) and specifically asked the GYN doctor if the removal of my ovaries would have any effect on my sex life and he said 'no.' Unfortunately, that was not the case. Initially following the surgery, I was up for having sex about two to three times a week, but, as my hormone level dropped, so did my interest in sex. I tried hormone replacement therapy, creams and even got testosterone injections for a while, until I started growing some facial hair and noticed a slight drop in my voice, so I discontinued the injections. The years have passed and our sex life is pretty much non-existent. I feel awful for my husband and he has been a patient man, but I still cannot get him to quite understand how it is that I have absolutely no physical feelings anymore. The best way I could relate it to him is to tell him to imagine having his testicles completely removed, and along with them would go his hormones. He has tried, but still cannot grasp the idea that there is no physical feeling or desire left. Having gone from an extremely active sex life to absolutely nothing at all is hard for both of us, because I can remember those great times and wish I could have them back. If I had to do it all over again, I would rather go through the painful, 3-week long periods every month than to have lost such a vital part of our marriage. I am fortunate he has stayed with me for 37 years, but he deserves more than I can give him. I wish all of you the best, but if there is anyone out there who is contemplating having a hysterectomy, get opinions from alternative medicine docs and explore the benefits of acupuncture and other schools of thought before undertaking such a drastic step as a hysterectomy. If nothing else, do NOT left a doctor remove your ovaries, unless it's absolutely necessary. Blessings to all of you.
I had a total Hysterectomy just over 12 yrs ago now ovaries and tubes intact. I must say my sex life never suffered one bit, In fact my husbands sex drive has decreased and mine has gone through the roof. I still have multiple orgasms with the right stimulation.
I had no choice but surgery My smears showed changes in my cervix and I had fibroid trouble for a few years prior to surgery. I had finished my family and have never felt less of a woman just because I don't have a "grow-bag" anymore. I just wished I put the money I had been spending on sanitary protection in a jar. Goodness knows how much I have saved over the years.
hi i am going to have the same surgery i am not n pain but i am always bleeding my doctor say my only option is to have surgery i am scare i may not b enjoy my sex life anymore
I had a partial about your age. Then a 2 years ago they had to go back in a finish what they started. I am not trying to scare you but be very careful with your choices. I wish I would have had more information when I did mine. I would have tried other things before getting a partial. I might have been able to have more children or even still have a sex life. It does effect it. It also can effect how you feel. It also can effect your moods. You will still feel like you are having a period at first but with no way to release those hormones you get moody really bad. Some people learn how to control it and some do not. I have been around some that do not. I also am noticing that I am tired all the time no matter how much sleep I get. I am also noticing that I gain weight easier than I did before so be careful of that. These are things that no one tells you about. I also Love my husband but trust me there patients start to were thin when they feel things are not the same and they don't understand why. They try and understand but they don't really get it. I with they did but bless him he doesn't. He try's but he does not. I have given up so many foods and other things because if I eat them I will end up gaining 5 pounds from them. I also have learned that it is up to me to make sex work the is stuff out there to help you just need to find what works for you. Ask about Testosterone cream it does work I use one. There is also other things that will help.
I hope this help
Crystal
my surgery was 5 years ago and I never think about sex, I have no interest of it what so ever. I use to want it everyday. And i've had beast cancer so i really don't know what is out there for me to take to get back my desire, please advise if anyone knows of anything, thanks
My doctor has helped me with a lot of options in this area to help me. I take a pill called L-ARGININE 1000 MG one a day. The TESTOSTERONE 10 MG/GM VLC I APPLY .5 GRAMS topically everyday. I also take Estradiol now when it comes to that it is one of those you need to balance to your body. I take 2mg once a day. I also take a birth control pill to help me control the hot flashes and it also has helped balance the hormones which in turn gave me my sexual desire back. My doctor also told me about a testosterone patch that is out there that some doctors are using. In the part of the county I live we can not find it that easy that is why we went with the cream. Now the next thing is the support you are getting that is very important and he need make you feel he is behind you and willing to help you do this. My husband has been great. For example the other night he gave me a bath which lead to other thing, because of the simple little things he does and the romantic things he tries to do help. Trust me he doesn't have a romantic bone in his body on most days but he is trying because he knows it will help. We also have word in place in the bedroom during sex because of the fact we do not get wet or stay wet like we did before and we have stuff to help with that and one of us will use that word if need be to let the other know we need to stop to get the lubricant out to help. It is nothing to be a shamed for it is just apart of are life now. I also have learned to keep a towel beside me because of the amount a of fluid we have now during a orgasm which is total wonderful feeling trust me but it can be a little messy. I totally enjoy sex now that I don't have the pain but I have had to also learn thing as well to enjoy it and make it happen.
HMMMM. I had a total laprascopic hysterectomy 7 weeks ago and my sex drive is over the top !!! I am 54 years old. So did my mom and she was in her 70's and still doing it. Sometimes after reading all these posts I wonder if sex drives are inherited?
HMMMM. I had a total laprascopic hysterectomy 7 weeks ago and my sex drive is over the top !!! I am 54 years old. So did my mom and she was in her 70's and still doing it. Sometimes after reading all these posts I wonder if sex drives are inherited?
My wife had a total hysterectomy aboout 4 years ago. For about the first year and a half, ser sex drive was close to the same as it had always been, good. Since then it has tapered off to almost none. Multiple doctors have checked her out, and said, sometimes it happens, sorry. Hormones have been unable to fix the problem.
I recomend getting many opinions before going under the knife. Sometimes it is the only way to stay healthy, but not always. You should always educate yourself about all of your options, and the likely results of each, before choosing one.
I had a total hysterectomy in 2005. I lost sex drive till I met my third husband. We have great sex and I orgasim really well. I can thank my husband for that, he loves it. But, I go through spells when I want it for a while, and then go through a downer and won't want anything to do with sex for a week or two.