So this is the basic story. My girlfriend and I have been messing around and about 3 weeks ago, I manually stimulated her at her place, pretty much right after the period. Afterward, I met her again the following weekend and did the same. To make it short and simple, basically I had all my clothes on, my pants never were off. I did not ejaculate, except maybe prior at home by myself. I never ejaculated near her. About a week ago, I manually did so again with my fingers, and her without her underwear. The reason why I'm posting this is because of the following:
1) She's been tired, though nothing severely out of the ordinary. Has a stressful life in terms of juggling a stress full time job and being a full time student at college.
2) She did complain about tenderness/itchiness of the breasts, but that had subsided a good time ago. More itchiness than tenderness as she said they were itchy and kind of felt like they were burning. (She does have allergies to certain foods.)
3) Backaches, however again, she has a stressful job where she's running around on her feet all day.
4) Stomach pains.
The reason why I'm posting this is because I'm worried that either some pre-ejaculation might have rubbed off on my hands while I went to the restroom (though I'm pretty sure I washed my hands every time) and then might have rubbed off on her while stimulating her. The other thing is that I felt the pre-ejaculation or at least a small amount in my pants each time. Finally, though I did have my pants on at the entire time during our last time together, I did take off my pants because I was really hot, I did not rub her with my penis nor I do not believe my penis was ever directly exposed near her. However, I'm uncertain if she sat on my boxers without her underwear on, while straddling me. I'm freaking out because, her period is supposed to be in about a week from now, and though she's not too worried and I've ran through the incident a countless number of times, I'm still freaked out. (I have horrible luck in general, where pretty much near impossibilities occur, so I tend to be more superstituous and err on the safer side of things.)
I know the following for certain:
- I had not ejaculated anywhere near her.
- After the first encounter, I washed my hands every time before I touched her.
- I did use soap and water.
- She doesn't know the exact date of her period, but she knows it should be sometime this week.
- She hasn't had any abnormal flows/spotting/etc. at least to my knowledge.
- She has been tired but it does subside after sleeping, I'm guessing its work/school related.
- She hasn't been consistently nauseated to my knowledge.
- She hasn't had weird food cravings, but then again she does eat oddly (vegan sometimes and then a full blown steak and potatoes the next, so hard to tell).
- No irregular urination.
- She also had a mood-swing this past week.
- She has been warm the past couple of times I've been with her.
- I did not penetrate deeply into her with my fingers when I did stimulate her, at max maybe about an inch, but probably a quarter of an inch is more realistic.
I've talked to a pregnancy advisor/hotline and asked the likelihood of pregnancy due to this, and the lady responded, its an impossibility.
- However, I have read that sperm generally does survive about 2-4 hours after being released, and is only dead upon being completely dry in terms of air-exposure. Sperm can live in the urthera of a man for up a couple of days, because of the moist, hospitable environment. I am aware that urinating generally will relieve most if not all of the sperm in the man.
- I had masturbated, prior to seeing her maybe 24-48 hours before. (I always take a shower before seeing her and urinate, seeing as this is a long distance relationship so I have to be on the road for several hours, hence the bathroom break before seeing her).
- I am also aware of the fact that hot water and soap will generally kill all sperm.
- I am aware that the embryo can and often will self-terminate, when in very stressful situations, abnormal hormonal changes, food-deficiency, etc.
- I was taught that it normally takes several million sperm as the female's pH, immune system, as well as assistance in finding and locating the egg and fertilizing it, and the average pre-ejaculate only has a small fraction, maybe 1-2 million.
- I'm probably overreacting and going crazy.
- I could have her take a HPT, however those tests according to most doctors, should be taken within 4-7 days before the period for the early result ones, or generally 7-14 days after conception, or after 2-3 days after the missed period for most accurate results.
I know it is a slim possibility, but I'm still freaked out about it. My girlfriend isn't nearly as worried, she just explains that its okay as long as she gets her period, though I know she's a bit worried too. I'm trying to be the good boyfriend, but honestly, I'm no where ready to have a child. I'm still a student in college basically (transitioning between undergrad and grad school) and I'll be aboard for the next 2-3 years... I do not have a steady job, and mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually I am not ready for a child, hence why I abstained from having sex. The reason why we did what we did was because I wanted to feel the physical intimacy with the person I care about and the gratification that one feels from making another feel good and happy. I know most of you would suggest a pregnancy test, however the unfortunate thing is that because of her medication for allergies and such, it could potentially throw off the pregnancy test should she take one. (I did the research myself). So, the HPT is not really an option. She doesn't want to get a blood test, because of the likelihood of her period showing up in the next couple of days. So I'm just sitting around since last week on pins and needles, freaking out. Any reassurance or legitimate feedback would be much appreciated.
1) She's been tired, though nothing severely out of the ordinary. Has a stressful life in terms of juggling a stress full time job and being a full time student at college.
2) She did complain about tenderness/itchiness of the breasts, but that had subsided a good time ago. More itchiness than tenderness as she said they were itchy and kind of felt like they were burning. (She does have allergies to certain foods.)
3) Backaches, however again, she has a stressful job where she's running around on her feet all day.
4) Stomach pains.
The reason why I'm posting this is because I'm worried that either some pre-ejaculation might have rubbed off on my hands while I went to the restroom (though I'm pretty sure I washed my hands every time) and then might have rubbed off on her while stimulating her. The other thing is that I felt the pre-ejaculation or at least a small amount in my pants each time. Finally, though I did have my pants on at the entire time during our last time together, I did take off my pants because I was really hot, I did not rub her with my penis nor I do not believe my penis was ever directly exposed near her. However, I'm uncertain if she sat on my boxers without her underwear on, while straddling me. I'm freaking out because, her period is supposed to be in about a week from now, and though she's not too worried and I've ran through the incident a countless number of times, I'm still freaked out. (I have horrible luck in general, where pretty much near impossibilities occur, so I tend to be more superstituous and err on the safer side of things.)
I know the following for certain:
- I had not ejaculated anywhere near her.
- After the first encounter, I washed my hands every time before I touched her.
- I did use soap and water.
- She doesn't know the exact date of her period, but she knows it should be sometime this week.
- She hasn't had any abnormal flows/spotting/etc. at least to my knowledge.
- She has been tired but it does subside after sleeping, I'm guessing its work/school related.
- She hasn't been consistently nauseated to my knowledge.
- She hasn't had weird food cravings, but then again she does eat oddly (vegan sometimes and then a full blown steak and potatoes the next, so hard to tell).
- No irregular urination.
- She also had a mood-swing this past week.
- She has been warm the past couple of times I've been with her.
- I did not penetrate deeply into her with my fingers when I did stimulate her, at max maybe about an inch, but probably a quarter of an inch is more realistic.
I've talked to a pregnancy advisor/hotline and asked the likelihood of pregnancy due to this, and the lady responded, its an impossibility.
- However, I have read that sperm generally does survive about 2-4 hours after being released, and is only dead upon being completely dry in terms of air-exposure. Sperm can live in the urthera of a man for up a couple of days, because of the moist, hospitable environment. I am aware that urinating generally will relieve most if not all of the sperm in the man.
- I had masturbated, prior to seeing her maybe 24-48 hours before. (I always take a shower before seeing her and urinate, seeing as this is a long distance relationship so I have to be on the road for several hours, hence the bathroom break before seeing her).
- I am also aware of the fact that hot water and soap will generally kill all sperm.
- I am aware that the embryo can and often will self-terminate, when in very stressful situations, abnormal hormonal changes, food-deficiency, etc.
- I was taught that it normally takes several million sperm as the female's pH, immune system, as well as assistance in finding and locating the egg and fertilizing it, and the average pre-ejaculate only has a small fraction, maybe 1-2 million.
- I'm probably overreacting and going crazy.
- I could have her take a HPT, however those tests according to most doctors, should be taken within 4-7 days before the period for the early result ones, or generally 7-14 days after conception, or after 2-3 days after the missed period for most accurate results.
I know it is a slim possibility, but I'm still freaked out about it. My girlfriend isn't nearly as worried, she just explains that its okay as long as she gets her period, though I know she's a bit worried too. I'm trying to be the good boyfriend, but honestly, I'm no where ready to have a child. I'm still a student in college basically (transitioning between undergrad and grad school) and I'll be aboard for the next 2-3 years... I do not have a steady job, and mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually I am not ready for a child, hence why I abstained from having sex. The reason why we did what we did was because I wanted to feel the physical intimacy with the person I care about and the gratification that one feels from making another feel good and happy. I know most of you would suggest a pregnancy test, however the unfortunate thing is that because of her medication for allergies and such, it could potentially throw off the pregnancy test should she take one. (I did the research myself). So, the HPT is not really an option. She doesn't want to get a blood test, because of the likelihood of her period showing up in the next couple of days. So I'm just sitting around since last week on pins and needles, freaking out. Any reassurance or legitimate feedback would be much appreciated.
Based on your description, I think the possibility of your gf getting pregnant is rather slim to none. Contrary to what you have said, I think you are mature enough to be a husband and a father. If you are concerned about not making enough money to support your family, I have the following advice. If you are planning to attend graduate school, you can apply for a graduate fellowship (teaching or research) at the department that you plan to attend. The stipend that they offer to you would be modest, but should be sufficient for your family if you plan on not having more than one child. You may even have your tuition waived as part of the benefit. It is not going to be easy, but I am confident that you will come out ahead. Many grad students in the United States are married, and many live in dormitories reserved for married students at an affordable rate. Give it some thought, I think you are ready to go the distance. Good luck.