When I met my partner 15 years ago, we had a fantastic sex life. Then, about 9 years ago, he began to experience erectile dysfunction. He couldn't maintain an erection for long, couldn't reach climax and eventually lost it altogether, hence, we haven't had sex in around 8 years (much to my utter frustration).
However, I found out a couple of years ago that he was watching porn before I wake up in the morning and wanking to it every couple of days. Apparently it's difficult and orgasm is painful. He's seen a doctor about the dysfunction but has no answers as to why it even happened (apart from finding out that his prostate is not the problem.)
The fact that he pleasures himself every couple of days but never thinks twice about having sex upsets me and it seems excessive. Why would he keep doing it if it's painful? The fact that he refuses to stop is ruining our relationship, which, we both say, is great in every other way. What do I do? He even got Viagara once but it sat unopened and was eventually out of date. I don't want to pressure him in to trying to have sex again but I can't take him watching porn every day. I don't know what to do.