Hey people I would appreciate very thoughtful answers on what I have to say.I am like a lot of you people in a bi polar relationship.My relationship is being broken up every couple of months aswell but what I am really concerned about is taking my girlfriend back.Well I love my girlfriend to bits and I genuinely care about her life as a whole.What worries me is that she is only coming back to me because she feels that I'm the only one who cares about her as opposed to being a person who can satisfy her in every way for a healthy relationship.If this is the case it seems to me that the relationship is one of me being in a position of power over my girl and her being an invalid.This is not a very respectable way to see my girl who I love.I want her to live life to the full with a person who can make her totally happy.Is this a common scenario with bi polar relationships?I would greatly appreciate an answer from a bi polar person who has gotten well and has a successful relationship and I would like to know what helped that person to get well and how their partner supported him/her.I dont want tofeel like I'm not doing my girlfriend any favours you know.
Im going on 3 years with my gf who is Bi polar. Our relationship right now is as successful as it will ever be. I have been through it ALLLL and a little advice that I have is...have patience, be supportive, and know that your girlfriend probably really cares about you but is going through alot in her own head. This is a very difficult task taking on a relationship with someone who is Bi polar. Leave all expectations behind. Be open with her, and if you really care and want to be with her make time to participate in getting her the help that she needs. Go to appointments, show her that your invested in her best interest. Not only will this win her over but it will give her the confidence and security she needs to feel comfortable and strong when taking on the stress of doctors appointments and medicines. Dont focus on your romantic relationship with her, focus on being the best friend she needs. Dont expect to have the typical relationship that alot of other people have because the meds can really cause her to be very disfunctional. Just take things slow and remember PATIENCE. This type of relationship is definately harder than most but it forges a bond between the bipolar person and the commited friend/bf/gf that is so speacial and cannot be found just anywhere. Be strong for her and keep yourself sane, this hole thing can def wear away at your mental state.
Perhaps the best advice I can give as someone in your girlfriends position, is to only be involved with someone if they're helping themselves, otherwise it's bad for BOTH of you. Just because someone is Bipolar does not mean they get to let loose at you every couple of months, and that is from someone who is severly Bipolar with ultra rapid cycling and psychotic features plus a whole troop of other mental illnesses. You girlfriends health in unfortunate, but she needs to put in extra effort to control herself if she wishes to have a hope at healthy relationships and she needs that to be told to her.
It's sad, but you can't help her and make the relationship work on your own, she needs to put in a very big effort too for herself and for you.
Best of luck!