anal orgasm how does it feel?

Some suggestions for the curious:

1. Start all your sessions completely flaccid. 

2. Ignore any and all urges to stroke your penis during your initial journey, at least for the first five to ten episodes. 

3. Playing with your penis in later sessions is understandable but should be minimalized and foregone altogether as advanced stages of arousal are reached  

4. Never close any anal session with jerking off. It will thwart progression. Remember, to make this work, the penis has to become neutered. After a few sessions, as you learn to raise arousal levels, the afterglow will be more than you need for satisfaction and in my opinion is superior to cumming in the regular way.  An ejaculation could very well spoil it. 

5. Use nothing but fingers for first several sessions. I begin with a warm wash cloth or warm bath. I prefer using spit but I suppose a water-based lube may be more to your liking. My anus is so accustomed to this that only a little moisture is needed. 

6. Focus on the anus. Certainly rubbing the rim is great but I like to work first one, then two, then three fingers in to mid finger. I alternate doing them in a variety of motions: circular, thrusting, and as the anus starts to sort of turn inside out a bit, I change to sort of a clawing/scratching motion with the face of my fingers. 

7. At some point, you will undoubtedly want to use a toy of sorts. Again, spittle is all I need for lube for most things I use, but I find that with "approved" toys, a commercial lube is required, but just at first insertion. Several add lube throughout. My butt seems to accommodate minimum lube added. The object with a toy will lead to thrusting. I get the most enjoyment from this when my hips do the thrusting instead of my hands. 

8. Some suggested positions: a) standing, with one leg raised, as on a stool or toilet seat; b) lying on one's side with one leg elevated (my favorite); c) on one's back, with knees pulled back toward chest (takes a little flexibility to be effective); d) doggy style (awkward and my least favorite, owing in part to overly working the prostate).

9. Avoid focusing on the prostate. Mild or inadvertent stimulation is okay and quite pleasurable, but the prostate is an obstacle long term.

10. Some find enjoyment through clinching the anus around objects. It has its place. If you can learn the proper breathing technique, clinching alone can raise you to fairly high levels hands free, which is very nice and increases the submissive element. The added nicety is that hours after your sexual session, repeated, rhythmic clinches can bring a somewhat altered state in some neat public places.

11. As I stated in number 10, I have a couple of desirable things to say about clinching. One is the hands free. The problem is I think I need more work on my breathing. I'm too inconsistent. The other positive is enjoying the feeling hours later, but that has a drawback. It can be distracting and a coworker may look at you strangely when you're mildly thrusting in your office chair 

I have written the last several entries. On review, I noticed I may not have answered the question about how an anal orgasm feels. Instead, I've joined the debate on, "Is it possible?", or, "How is it possible?"

Notice in my earlier entries I wrote of ecstasy, ecstatic state, euphoria, euphoric state, and finally an altered state. None of that points to anything occurring in a specific part of the body, even though that occurs, and is wonderful, centered, and intense. It's secondary to the rush the entire body experiences. So, my several writings were insufficient for answering. 

Here's a stab. Light contractions occur in the pelvic area, specifically the anus. The prostate comes alive but does not contract or spasm as in penile ejaculations. The buttocks, thighs, and midsection feel a rush of sorts. It's hard to describe other than a warmth being there, but that's not quite it. The rest is almost indescribable. It is wave after wave after wave of sensation. I wish I could have filmed myself because I probably can't do the description justice. 

I've been married nearly 40 years. The non-orgasmic euphoric states previously written about have been reached before in hetero sex with my wife, but they are not at all common. Best I remember, those states occurred after much anticipation AND much foreplay. Also common was delayed ejaculation. In fact, in one session, after reaching about four plateaus, ejaculation became meaningless and would have been almost counterproductive. But ejaculation did occur in most instances after plateauing, but each were subdued. 

Each of those plateau sessions became about something more than sex. I'll leave it at that because I'm not sure I can tie it to this thread other than each being part of something ecstatic, something euphoric, something altered, all focused on something other than my penis. My penis, God bless it, has brought me many pleasures. But it is just one dimension and many never get beyond television sex, movie sex.

So, as I've said in earlier posts, it takes a paradigm shift to reach that anal orgasm for men. Women? Ask them, but I'm sure the physiology of the female and male anal orgasms are much the same. 

Should you never reach that highest ecstasy, that Big "O", it's not for naught. My sessions now are like having a lot of mini-orgasms....not so much anal based, but euphoric states with some little waves, peaking and ebbing over whatever time you devote to it. And time you'll need. With ejeculation, it's "BAM" and you're done, it's over. But with this shift, you'll last and last into a dreamworld. And, as a bonus, the feeling stays with you. 

i hope this helps. For those truly interested, remember my earlier posts about a shift in thinking. It's major. It's Zen-like.  For those who found success all on our own, the shift happened over time. It wasn't like we picked up a toy one day, inserted it, and wow, Nirvana. 

Indeed, toys can get in the way until the attitudinal shift is complete or at least well on its way

Success came from self-discovery over time.

Another thing. Anal porn, homo or hetero, is your enemy. It shows you the wrong way in my opinion in that it's too one-dimensional. That said, there is something nice about a good pounding. Just don't let it be the only thing. In fact, I think during your paradigm shift, it might prove useful to avoid it. 

Tips: Anticipate, preparation (voiding, warm bath or warm washcloth, lighting candles, applying makeup if that's your thing, etc), learn the area of interest (inside and out), when thrusting of any kind occurs, try to use the hips for thrusting instead of the hand, practice breathing techniques, get all parts of your body into a rhythm (rhythm helps build to ecstatic moments), let go.

LET GO! Don't create expectations. Enjoy the moments. But for crying out loud, LET GO!

The Big "O" may remain elusive. I hope it doesn't. I've only reached it once. But the long, ecstatic love sessions I have with myself are cherished. Indeed, those sessions place me in an altered state. 

It takes rewiring the brain It doesn't work quickly. It's a journey. 

A couple of sites focus on the wiring or rewiring. Also of note, is learning breathing techniques. Breathing with abdomen doesn't come natural for most but it is helpful not just in this journey but in life overall. When I am stressed at work I will use abdominal breathing to relax. 

On anal orgasms, if you are falling short but still find aspects of it pleasurable, then I implore you to continue. 

A a good signpost toward success is when you get your cavity begins contracting on its own. Milder twitches in the buttocks accompany the internal contractions from time to time. The pleasure may not appear right away, but I know now that the spontaneous contractions almost always trigger the orgasm for me. I experienced the contractions/spasmsfor a couple of months before the orgasm ever came. 

As a funny aside, the contractions may continue later, post orgasm, when you are least expecting them. (Un)fortunately, the orgasms do not accompany those post spasms. It could prove embarrassing. LMAO. 

Contractions can happen before, during, and after orgasm. 

The afterglow can last for hours. Even overnight 

A minority of the population will ever experience an anal orgasm. Trying to replicate any sexual intercourse will fail. That doesn't mean insertion is wrong. It is simply different. i suspect it is easier for men because of the prostate but most who have been there will tell you it has to do with a lot more than the prostate. However, insertion of some sort makes orgasm more likely. 

Masturbation is more likely to succeed than having a partner. Advanced techniques in anal orgasm might be reached with a knowing partner, but I find it unlikely. I can't imagine myself trying it that way. 

But be thoroughly warned, if you go the insertion route, void yourself first. If you have a really good diet, have regular bowel movements at the same time every day, you may be safe without an enema. But why chance it?

i have a modified paleo diet. Lots of fiber. I'm regular, but I'm regular about four times a day. Failing to give myself an enema first, usually ends up with some yukky cleansing at the end. I think what happens is when the inner sphincter gets relaxed, the involuntary movement in my bowels continue. Even though I don't feel the need to poop, the poop is moving down nonetheless. I'll leave it at that. Thank heaven for showers. 

Your mileage may vary 

I agree. Enemas may not match the moment but a mess spoils the moment.

I agree. Enemas are your friend. Consider them as foreplay 

You want see me posting a lot about lube because I use very little of it and mostly when I do, it's natural luble, a little spit. If I want to get into vigorous action, which is seldom, the rules change. 

But if you're a beginner, yes lube it up. 

If you haven't been rewired and are into an active anal masturbation, yes lube it up.

However, if you've been at rewiring for awhile, even if you're not rewired yet, insertion is rather easy and not at all painful. Painful, even in the absence of lube means you're doing it wrong. 

That said, some toys, even those designed for anal play, do not work well without lube. The softer the material, the more lube is required. I like stainless steel. Steel and spit are enough for me. 

Thinner is better, but not too thin. Too thin and you'll risk puncture. Tapered ends are best for ease of insertion and pose less puncture risk. 

Relaxation is key but it's not just relaxation of the anal sphincter that is important.  It's relaxation of the whole body, comfort for sending something up the wrong way on a one-way street. Try pushing out. That pushing out automatically opens the sphincter. 

Approach anal play as you would yoga. Men who are most successful with anal masturbation employ yoga-like techniques whether they realize it or not. Breathing is key to success. 

Adding on to above, use toys without seams. Ensure fingers are well trimmed 

I disagree. Either you are a poser or you are into something besides passive masturbation. In fact, men tend to go smaller and smaller the further they progress with male multiple orgasms (MMO).

Many mini-orgasms? That's me. No big orgasm yet. Oh well.

The first guy was right keep going. Fair warning it will get every wher.

What a turn on reading your post. While reading I had a nice white candle inserted up my ass about 5 6 inches. When you reminded yourself to clench, I did that too and it felt great.I'm a lady and I loved reading your sexy post.

I wanna know what you think about this 2 year relationship I am in with a great looking guy who is 13 years younger than me. We are very very close emotionally...sensual, but not in a sexual relationship. He lets me give him a foot or back massage when we are out at the pool. He lets me rub the back of his neck. He knows I'm crazy about him, but he purposefully keeps me in the friend zone. He cooks for me and we go out to clubs and people think we are a couple. I want to get out of the friend zone and I got a new idea. We drink a lot together and he smokes cigarettes and weed every day.he loves the rush of adrenaline and he loves to gamble. What if the next time I.try to give him a foot massage ( and we are at his place) I.tell him I.have a new massage for him-- and just be straight up with him," I want to give you an anal massage, so roll over and don't argue with me". He would find that very hot and irresistible, right? I.know he's had a lot of girls go down on him, but probably never had a woman give him an anal massage. What do you think?