I'm a 17 year old female, and in a great relationship. I am sexually active with him, but I've never had an orgasm.
I keep reading topics about girls as young as 13 getting orgasms through masturbation, and it's really starting to frustrate me!
I've never truly masturbated to the point of having one, because I was always ashamed of it when I was younger.
Now that I'm older, I guess that mentality just stuck. I kept trying to have fun with myself, even my bf was trying to help me relax.
I'm turned on by his touch, but the moment I started touching myself, I got turned off and well, dry.
This is getting really frustrating for me. I just want to feel good, and atleast have an orgasm :/
I feel like I'm missing out on a great feeling, especially if it'll bring my bf and I closer. Sometimes I feel like my lack of orgasms makes him feel like he's not good enough, And that's not the case :/
Help?
I keep reading topics about girls as young as 13 getting orgasms through masturbation, and it's really starting to frustrate me!
I've never truly masturbated to the point of having one, because I was always ashamed of it when I was younger.
Now that I'm older, I guess that mentality just stuck. I kept trying to have fun with myself, even my bf was trying to help me relax.
I'm turned on by his touch, but the moment I started touching myself, I got turned off and well, dry.
This is getting really frustrating for me. I just want to feel good, and atleast have an orgasm :/
I feel like I'm missing out on a great feeling, especially if it'll bring my bf and I closer. Sometimes I feel like my lack of orgasms makes him feel like he's not good enough, And that's not the case :/
Help?
It's not just that you are "missing out on a great feeling", but... you are not allowing yourself to experience probably the best things humans can experience, just by our own bodies. So, this is something that really is wort you taking the time an changing your mindset. I think that it would be best if you first started to get to know your body yourself, when you feel comfortable enough. Because you have tried to masturbate before, I can't understand why the obstacle (some negative thought, I suppose) comes during the masturbation. Maybe it would be the best to first identify that thought and than face that with reality.
It sounds like you were programmed to believe touching yourself is wrong and that expanded to enjoying that type of touch is wrong too. I think you need to figure out where that came from and make peace with yourself for what you want to do. I grew up in the days when most girls were taught by their mothers the old Rusty Warren comedy line that sex is horrible, sex is terrible, sex is dirty, ----- DON'T DO IT!!!!! I think that attitude has stuck around in some families.
If they used religion to impress it on you, all I can say is I personally do not believe a God who designed our bodies with such wonderful pleasures, if we figure them out, intended for us to be tortured by thinking we should not enjoy them.
As a boy I was caught masturbating on seperate occasions by both my mother and father. Neither of them made me feel it was wrong or bad. However some of my friends weren't so lucky. They got all the old adages about going blind, etc. The one I liked best was that you used up a pint of blood to replace the ejaculate every time you did it. When we heard that one we all knew they were just lieing to us. If that were true, most of us would have died from lack of blood before they told it to us.
If they used religion to impress it on you, all I can say is I personally do not believe a God who designed our bodies with such wonderful pleasures, if we figure them out, intended for us to be tortured by thinking we should not enjoy them.
As a boy I was caught masturbating on seperate occasions by both my mother and father. Neither of them made me feel it was wrong or bad. However some of my friends weren't so lucky. They got all the old adages about going blind, etc. The one I liked best was that you used up a pint of blood to replace the ejaculate every time you did it. When we heard that one we all knew they were just lieing to us. If that were true, most of us would have died from lack of blood before they told it to us.