Hi

Just came across this page to try and get some answers as I am absolutely distraught right now after my boyfriend has again ended our relationship.  I met him over year ago through work and the initial three months were absolutely great.  After a lovely evening, I received a text the next morning to say he didnt want to be in a relationships with me anymore; I wasn't very affectionate, hardly made any time to see him, he had never been out with someone with such a menial job (I work in an office) and the list went on.  After a few days he changed his explanation to 'I'm going through a low spell and am no good to you when Im like this'.  So began a painful month of limbo for me.  Then he seemed to change and I spent NYE with him-which ended in disaster with the slightest little thing I said seeming to make him mad.  He ended it again that morning saying he now knew that we could never work in a relationship.  Fast forward three months when he got back in touch and wanted to meet up for a coffee.  After this coffee we soon became an item again and I was soooo happy again.  For his birthday I had a lovely dinner planned but he cancelled as he was in another 'spell'.  He came around next evening which was nice, but then I got a text an hour after I left to say I was cold, made no 'fuss' of him and only showed him affection when at the door when he was leaving - my version of the night was that it was nice and relaxed, cuddled up on settee?

I then had a text to say I'd never see him again and to not get in touch.  A week later we were still communicating by text and seemed to get back into a relationship again.  This time it was different - he referred to me as his gf, introduced me to some of his friends, put me down as next of kin on a works trip etc.  Told me almost daily how special I was to him .... then just under a week ago he texts me to say he is going into a bad spell again.  A day later I get a text that we are 'not working out' that he feels zero chemistry with me even though he desperately would like there to be and that we had absolutely nothing in common (we were together for three months then two months)

I am struggling with this.  If there was no chemistry or if I wasnt right for him then why would he keep coming back and why say how special I am to him?  Is it his illness speaking??

Any advice would be most welcome please as I am really struggling with the hurt here :(