Hello. I'm 25 years old female and I'm interested to find out some informations about some aspects of sex life.
You see, I'm sleeping with my boyfriend about a year now and it was great but just the other day he recommended me anal sex.
Of course, I refuse it, angry, telling him that he isn’t normal. Please tell me, did I act wrong? I don’t know anything about this and I suggest it hurt a lot. How people can enjoy in it!?
Please, tell me- how safe and needed is anal sex and what are the possible consequences?
Thanks
Well, I'm a female and I will tell you some things about anal sex. You see, I think you react wrong because both, men and women, enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking.
You ask what makes it so good- well, anal sex is enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the anus.
Of course that it has to be a bit painful in the beginning but with time, when you learn to relax, the pain will subside into pleasure.
Remember, you must use a lot of lubricant (such as K-jelly) because, unlike the vagina, the anus isn't self-lubricating.
I have felt about this almost same like you now, but I gave it a shot and you wouldn’t believe it- but I really like it. Good luck!
all my girlfriends never suffers pain from anal sex - so, there is no reason for 'substituting' pain for enjoy.
your partner should be very tender and slow - in fact there are not any reasons in anal sex to make a rush - f.e. i greatly enjoy anal foreplay making.
and after your boyf become sure your anus is stretched (is best by fingers) and relaxed enough (without any pain!) - he can slowly start to penetrate you by penis.
anal sex is very (and should be only!) enjoyable and very intimate sexual act
your partner should be very tender and slow - in fact there are not any reasons in anal sex to make a rush - f.e. i greatly enjoy anal foreplay making.
and after your boyf become sure your anus is stretched (is best by fingers) and relaxed enough (without any pain!) - he can slowly start to penetrate you by penis.
anal sex is very (and should be only!) enjoyable and very intimate sexual act
I don't think you should be angry at your boyfriend, at all. First of all you might have hurt him because communication is a big part of a healthy sex life. This includes talking about things you like, dislike, and want to try. In the future he might be scared now to talk to you about how he feels as he might be worried you'll be angry with him if he brings something up. I would talk to him again and apologize for being harsh and tell him how you fee about it honestly, after researching it a bit and reading the responses on this forum.
Secondly, it is completely normal. Many couples have anal sex, and when done correctly it doesn't have to hurt. It may hurt, even when done correctly, but with practice can be very enjoyable.
Anal sex as far as pregnancy is pretty safe. You cannot get pregnant from anal sex alone, unless he cums inside your butt and it leaks out and down into your vagina. Using a condom is a good idea, to collect the cum and also to provide a bit of a barrier between him and your anus as there can be bacteria in there. He shouldn't actually get "dirty" when hes in there, but it never hurts to be on the safe side.
To help make it hurt less, be sure to be very aroused and very relaxed before he begins to penetrate you. The muscles in the anus will tighten up if you aren't relaxed and it will be painful as he pushes in. If you are more turned on you will be more relaxed, and using lots of lube will help him (slowly!) slide in. Once he is all the way in the hard part is over, and he should be able to slide in and out easily. Having him rub your clit while he is inside you will make it more enjoyable for you, and if you do have an orgasm while he is inside you that way it should be very intense for you.
I hope some of this helped, and that you will look at anal in different way now. As I say, you shouldn't ever diss on something you havent tried :-)
Secondly, it is completely normal. Many couples have anal sex, and when done correctly it doesn't have to hurt. It may hurt, even when done correctly, but with practice can be very enjoyable.
Anal sex as far as pregnancy is pretty safe. You cannot get pregnant from anal sex alone, unless he cums inside your butt and it leaks out and down into your vagina. Using a condom is a good idea, to collect the cum and also to provide a bit of a barrier between him and your anus as there can be bacteria in there. He shouldn't actually get "dirty" when hes in there, but it never hurts to be on the safe side.
To help make it hurt less, be sure to be very aroused and very relaxed before he begins to penetrate you. The muscles in the anus will tighten up if you aren't relaxed and it will be painful as he pushes in. If you are more turned on you will be more relaxed, and using lots of lube will help him (slowly!) slide in. Once he is all the way in the hard part is over, and he should be able to slide in and out easily. Having him rub your clit while he is inside you will make it more enjoyable for you, and if you do have an orgasm while he is inside you that way it should be very intense for you.
I hope some of this helped, and that you will look at anal in different way now. As I say, you shouldn't ever diss on something you havent tried :-)