My boyfriend and I have been having sex since we started dating nine months ago, but he still hasn't made me cum. I didn't even know what it was before I met him and I still am not completely sure if I have ever done it?? I'm so upset because he thinks he can't please me. He makes me feel really good and I think i've orgasmed before, but sometimes I'll get close and he'll change whatever he was doing. I try to tell him, but he takes it all so personal. What can I do to make myself cum?? I want to feel like I hear everyone talk about, but i'm losing hope! Please help!!!!!
Do you cum with other methods? If so, learn what feels good, where, how, and for how long. You absolutely must talk with him to make him understand you are not being critical, criticizing him or complaining. Just let him know that "I want you to know what your doing feels good and to keep going" or "It feels great, but to the left would just be awesome". He wants to pleasure you and watch you orgasm. He would love to feel you orgasm while he is still inside you too. This is just going to help you both hit that sweet spot together. Most importantly make your talking seem caring and not complaining.
One thing is that men usually orgasm faster than women. You might need him to start playing with you to get you warmed up before he enters you. Oral and fingering the vagina is fun thing for the guy and good for you too. A head start maybe all you need with a little coaxing on hitting that spot a little longer. Keep in mind it can turn into a little dirty talk with "oooh more, deeper" and get him too excited to hold on. This just means practice will make perfect, or close to it.
One thing is that men usually orgasm faster than women. You might need him to start playing with you to get you warmed up before he enters you. Oral and fingering the vagina is fun thing for the guy and good for you too. A head start maybe all you need with a little coaxing on hitting that spot a little longer. Keep in mind it can turn into a little dirty talk with "oooh more, deeper" and get him too excited to hold on. This just means practice will make perfect, or close to it.
I don't think i've ever cum before and I've never masturbated so I don't really know much about my body and what triggers it. I feel silly, but I don't even think i've orgasmed before.... Is this normal? I'm kind of new to sex.
He is really sensitive and he only believes that it's his fault and he is lacking as a man, but I just think I don't know my body well enough. I don't even know where to begin really.
He is really sensitive and he only believes that it's his fault and he is lacking as a man, but I just think I don't know my body well enough. I don't even know where to begin really.