Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

I too have a husband addicted to video games. I am also contemplating divorce for this reason.

Wow.....just absolutely WOW I am floored by you saying ! Your saying these women who are considering divorce are being selfish ??? Omg seriously, you said put themselves in their mens shoes and that its cheap and it releaves Stress??? These women who have been thrown to the side and have their husbands looking at them like they're nothing but an annoyance instead of the beautiful women they married have I think sat quietly long enough ! Have you tried putting yourself in the womens shoes? Doubt it! Have you ever spoken to the one person you love more than anything only to be either completely ignored or have them look at you like you actually caused their death in real life now what is so damn important? You say stress relief. .. how is constant yelling at the screen cursing, getting carpal tunnel, having you body so tight from trying not to die on the mission or get the most points or whatever the case may be how does THAT releive stress ? If anything it causes more stress! Also causesmore stress when they get so angry they throw their remote and break it, or how about punch walls, accidentally hit the tv with the remote they throw and break the tv for something calming and so stress free it can get quite expensive, and then theres the withdrawl when they have to wait to get it fixed or buy a new remote, console, tv or whatever it may be! The fact is yes its fine to hang out play video games and even do it all night if you want, BUT that isnt what these men are doing! I got extremely lucky , my husband realized that his wife and family is more important than games, and I dont believe the saying people dont change, but they have to have a reason to change and they have to WANT to change i.e. they realize their marriage and family is in jeapordy and they dont want to lose something they love so much over something that literally means NOTHING, if video games could pay the bills, play 24/7 but they dont if they meant making a difference in the world. ....play on, if they meant the difference between life and death please play play play. But unless you work for a developer your not getting paid and there isnt a game on this planet that'll change the world or save a life so get over it your grown men key word GROWN the time to play is over your not kids anymore, I understand 5min feels like 5hrs I play games with my hubby and that definitely happens however if you make a conscious decision to not play for more than a hour and set an alarm well then that hour may go by quick as sh*t but your hours up go outside and throw a football with your son or take your daughter to the park bc theyre not going to want to play with their daddies forever eventually sooner than you know they will have their own babies to play with and 95% of the time will be more hands on bc they missed out on that time with their own dads!!!!!!! So my point is these women are not selfish they are desperate and have been on the back burner for way too long, if it were another woman taking their husbands attention would they be selfish then? I know its not the same but as women it may as well be bc either way the affection isnt there !!!!!!!! So no more excuses buddy you say put ourselves in their shoes well how about you take two minutes to squeeze into ours and see how they hurt!!!!!!

The computer games have really destroyed so many men, and couples. Especially, the man who has established his lifestyle only evolved himself before the marriage, games are more fun than associating with a person who has needs, with people who acquire responsibilities. It does need professional help for addiction problem. It serves brain the same way as a drug. It hurts more if you expect a functioned family out of a man with computer game addiction. You're young and energized, don't deserve to be sad. I'm sure it needs courage to walk away, but it will help you eventually.

My partner is addicted go Clash of Clans. We started a business together with a friend of his in 2011. In February of this year, he asked me if there were any games on the iOS games he would like. Stupidly, I suggested that one. It now consumes his life and his money. He is on it every chance he can get, spending the entire weekend in bed playing, all night after work including through dinner, and finding excuses (usually how bad I am) to stay home from work so he can play it. He was talking about marriage at the beginning of the year, saying he just needed to save up for a ring. He spends $500-$1000 a week on the game though, and hasn't spoken about marriage in months because he knows it would mean curbing the spending. I have ended up covering the bills and the groceries as he never has money left, yet he earns a lot more than me. He never does anything around the house yet is the first to complain if it's not up to standard. He never speaks to me, only to tell me at work what he wants me to do. It has even gotten to the point where he will ignore me at work when I am trying to get him to set aside time so he can authorise the invoicing so we can get paid. The company is failing now. If I try speak to him at home, he gets frustrated for my interrupting his game. He questions me on why I would say or ask what I had just said, and I have to explain myself, even if I am just asking what he would like for dinner. My eldest daughter can see everything that is happening and has started to resent him for it, in turn, resenting me for being with him. He is angry with her for disliking him, even though she is polite to him and never speaks out of turn. He can never see his own doing. Two days ago, we had our Christmas function. I found myself feeling hurt that he was so talkative with our employees, as he never speaks to me. He saw it in my eyes then made me tell him what was wrong, knowing what was to come, I didn't want to. He didn't let up so I explained how I was just feeling bad seeing that he was capable of paying attention to others, as I have missed him over the last few months. He accused me of starting dramas and walked out on the function, leaving me there feeling like an id**t, especially since everyone there is under the belief that I am the reason he doesn't show up to work. I have been deciding whether this relationship is worth holding on to, knowing in my heart it isn't. I explained to him today that I would be moving out, but I need a week to sort things as my home, income and car all depend on my being in the relationship with him (the car is a business vehicle). He decided that I would leave immediately. I am now homeless without a job or any money to my name as all my money was spent paying his share of the bills. The best thing is, he believes I deserve this.

I know this thread happened over a year ago... but tonight after my husband got off wow (played for 7hours) and i tried to be intimate with him, of course got rejected cause he has work in a couple hours. I cried my eyes out and just started to search for people to talk to. not sure if you or anyone on this thread is of any help... but i could use some help.

I too have a husband addicted to internet games.  He works his full time job, eats, sleeps and watches football, other than that you will find him in front of his computer.  I have talked with him many times about his computer use, but it is only a short term fix.  He spends a few days acting like a husband and father, but slowly the computer wins him back.

I have accepted that I am a now a single parent and take on all the responsiblities of raising my children and caring for all the needs to run a household.  He does contribute a paycheck, but nothing else.  I pay all bills, do all the shopping, repair anything that breaks(car, toilet, etc), take out the garbage, raise the kids, make all the meals and anything else that my family needs to keep running.

I have thought about divorce, but I don't want to do that to my kids and I don't want to be in another relationship now.  I have decided to raise my kids and when they are out of the home, I will decide what my future will be.  Maybe then I might want a partner that wants to live in reality and enjoy life with me.

I needed to read that I that others have a loved one that lives in a fantasy world on their computer.  It is not the situation that I dreamed of, but at least if I leave him alone, he leaves me alone.  I make all the decisions for me and my kids and with his finacial support we are able to pay all our bills.  Not ideal, but could be a lot worse.

Help- Over 2 months ago my fiance lost his job, since then he has been sitting at home playing a game on his phone called Game of War. Its to the point where I perfer not to speak to him when I get home from work because he cant even take a second to talk. When I confront him about it he gets defensive and states that he is playing because I am doing something . He has stopped looking for a job, doesnt clean and ignores and gets angry with our children. My son is 2 and spends all day with him, but when I walk in the door all my son does is yell in my face getting my attention.

I recently stumbled across inappropriate messages with a girl on facebook who he then told her to contact her via the game , so I have no way to access it. He even has numbers showing on our phone bill from canada and wherever else.  He told me his libido has decreased and he doesnt want to have sex anymore ..... he left my birthday party after dinner and refused to stay. He sleeps, eats, breathes with his phone. I joke with him that hes going to lose his family over this game ... and he just looks at me and continues with what hes doing .... someone please help I dont know what to do.

I understand you. Myhusband is an adict also. He does not recocognize anything. He wants sex after a game because he is frustrated. He wants to f**k for giving up his ansiety . He need a a the rape. I am going to divorce nd he is going to his mom's. He is going. To f**k far away ha ha and without my ipad. He has to start a new game ha ha ha ha bye bye stupid husband

I totally know how you feel, my husband ignors our girl's when they try to talk to him.. I asked him the other day can we talk? He said I'm finishing our game and going to bed. Then our daughter, when up to him many times and tries to talk to him and he just ignors all 4 our girl's they are NOW seeing it for what it is. And their very sad, that he won't respond to them :(

My husband plays for hours, he says he needs to unwind from work. My girl's are now telling me we don't have a relationship with our dad. My older daughter makes him breakfast trys hugging him, he pushes her away, by ignoring her, sometimes he'll flat out not answer them.. I'm beside my self.. I feel isolated... I to (like my girl's will start seeking out side companionship. Those games can't love them back, it's an addiction for sure he gets super mad if I bring it up.. Sad and lonely not sure how long to keep this up.. :(

In same boat pretty much your in.. :( It's lonely but could be worse. Glad to come on here have people who understand.. And I know I'm not perfect he tells me because things you do, I escape to my computer. :( Lucky I don't do that my kids would loose 2 parents :( sad and lonely mother of 5

One can only take so much sorry, for you I feel same way :(

Agree so much with this, where are the men, he ignors our girl's they try to talk to him, so sad :(

WTF was that all about silly c**t?????

Omg I am in the same boat too first it was wow when we were dating and now has turned into star wars. He has a buddy he plays with. We've talked about it in the past. He bought himself a new computer with a new credit card right before christmas and my birthday. I blew up the day after christmas. I was accepting of the video games at first but that is all he does. No help around the house other than taking care of the dog. I have other issues with our marriage. He is a 30 yo child. It drives me nuts. I have been really thinking about divorce. I think that is what I want. We've been married for 1.5 years and together for almost 6. He thinks things are fixable but I think I have checked out. He mentioned something about my weight a while ago and I stopped wanting to have sex. He likes to look at porn online. His only problem with our marriage is I won't have sex with him. I have made up my mind but I am scared to death to tell him it's over