Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

I found an article on line about 5 main causes of divorce and ONE big problem this list was hobbies. Their not evil in and of them selves it's what we make out of them.. It's an addiction like eating porn etc those games. Women are emotional we need to be talked to not just ok I been on comp. now let's have sex so I have fun.. And I know what your going through, ask him if he'll get help...Or write him a letter saying your thoughts on this matter.My husband has been getting better, I got crazy last week over it, and stayed on him.. I told him life is a balancing act and when we make idols out of these things something suffers. I told him how much our girl's need him, and time is slipping away and you can't get it back.. Porn does things to the brain and it can be VERY hard to brake that addiction. all I can say to you is fight for your marriage don't give up to quick,.. I know it's hard, ever see movie Fireproof? How Kirk was living for self, I encourage you to buy that book fight for your marriage... My husband because things have happened in our lives he was very stressed and retreated to that computer.. He's still plays but is getting better with some loving counsel.. Hope this helps at all. :)

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When you wrote " I guess I am not someone he wants to talk to." I wanted to get up and scream the word "YES!" Congratulations - you figured out the great big mystery the other people (men AND women) don't seem to want to admit, or simply don't understand - the game world is more appealing than the one that the two of you have created. Duh. That's why there is gaming "addiction." Because life with you isn't that much fun. Because you think going to puppy training class and talking about your dull, boring day matters. There is OBVIOUSLY something undesirable about you - or he'd be spending time with you. I know this particular post is a year old but I think this problem is common enough that people need to start speaking up about it - if you want your SO to stop playing games; become more interesting than the games. Yeah I know that might be hard for you, but, that's what you need to do. Also, if he was a gamer before you got married, your magic sexual organs did not cast a "change into the person I want you to be" spell on him just because you got married.

Hi Gaby, I am writing to you because i share this same experience with you. I have been married for 26 years, our children are grown and gone and for the last 10 years or more my husbnad has been addicted to video games. Ever since World of Warcraft has been out that has been the one he is stuck on. When the kids were still young and in the house he would play up to 80 or more hours a week. Now he is between 40 and 60 hours a week. We have nothing in common anymore. he never wants to do anything with me. If we end up outside the house together we have to hurry home so he can get plugged in. Hi is angry and moody all the time unless he has a beer. i am so tired of being lonely and needing stuff done around the house that he should do. So I have been contemplating divorce or seperation because he is in denial that there is a problem. He says if i have a problem with his gaming then I should leave him and stop trying to tell him how to live his life. Like our marriage means nothing to him.

I do...I im 50 years old and my husband is 45, he wakes up plays his computer game, gets ready for work and leaves, He gets home around 5:30 sits in the same place he has been sitting for years. Plays from when he gets home from work, till he goes to bed, he climbs in bed and turns his back to me. The same routine happens 5 days a week. But wait on the weekends he will play from the time he wakes up till the time he goes to bed, I don't exist in his world, im ignored, and there is absolutely no communication in this life with my husband. Its a very depressing world for me. MY friends and family wonder why I stay, I truly love my husband that's why I stay, We started counseling so hopefully things will change.

Wow this sounds familiar! My boyfriend of 5+ years does the exact same c**p! I don't know about the spending because we have separate accounts but the total devotion of time and attention is exactly the same! It's sad. Same exact situation with the kids/resentment, too. He won't even sit next to me. We were having an "argument" but more of a discussion last night. He couldn't even look up from the screen! It escalated to an argument that ended with him telling me to find somewhere else to live!!! (The argument wAs over the railing in the basement coming off the wall. I didn't do it but said I would fix It today). Are you flipping kidding me??? Nothing is ever good enough. He is unpleasant to be around. He doesn't do anything around the house. He is mean, rude and inconsiderate. I'm tired of this. I hope things are going better for you.

I'm sitting in the exact same boat. I'm also 34 and my husband and I are married for a year now.... but things are going down hill because he is addicted to his computer. He is playing this game called Stronghold Kingdoms. When he wakes up, he runs to his computer not even realizing that he never greeted me or even said good morning. The last thing before he goes to bed will be him in front of his computer. We never speaks or even have a conversation if it is NOT about the computer game. When I ask him to accompany me to the shop or to the family, he will have an attitude and walk around with a thick mouth and even tell me to hurry up because he wants to go home. When I speak to him about he problem and tell him to get off his computer, he will get angry and it will always end up in a fight or him leaving the room ignoring me. This is not how I want to be married for the rest of my life. I
don't have a husband. I'm alone even if he is there. He is like a child that can't be disciplined or who don't care about anything else but him. This is so not normal, and he refuse to change. I wake up alone and go to bed alone because a computer is taking over my place.

Fun Fact: Gaming is the number one cause of DIVORCE in 2014!..yes more than finances & infidelity...very sad, but, yes, very true.. 

Just have to say how liberating it is to not feel ALONE anymore!! Every woman on here is so strong, courageous and beautiful... That is obvioulsy why God created us;) Woman are the rulers of this EARTH! Men..not so much!! 

WE NEED to stay strong as women, wives, and moms and friends!  most importantly, we need to be healthy, confident women so our children can reflect our strength.The world we live in today can be very distant and fake ... I am a child of an alcoholic father...who was always so cool, fun, but,  yet very negligent as well.

I am 34 married to the absolute love of my life, my best friend, my soul mate..going on 6 years of marriage and have known eachother since I was 14, him 17.  we were highschool sweethearts...eachothers first kiss..All that being said, I am sitting here sad wondering what I did wrong? What can I do to get my man's attention?  Feeling very abandoned by my BFF, my husband for life! as to why my husband/best friend is more intrerested in his stupid fake world than he is in the REAL WORLD!! REMEMBER PLANET EARTH as****e!!! We did create together the world we live in., I am very thankful for our children, but very sad you are a child too. GROW THE f**k UP!!!.You are not 12!!

Let us please praise God for our family & Thank you my love for giving us you from 6pm -8pm..It means so much! Little Steps ..#There is hope..#Pray & be patient..xo

I def feel your pain ladies. My husband has always played games on his computer, then phone..then ipad & iphone simutaniously..I was ok with it for a while, until we had children.. two girls, 5 & 2. He is an amazing father and role model to our children..But, I do feel very negelcted by his gaming at times. WE have argued, but we both know its out of his control.. Gaming is definatly an addiction, He has gamed since he ws a child. I used to yell at him and blame him for being obsessed..But it was destroying me as a person. 

They will only slow down or quit if THEY want to.. I have cried rivers to my husband always asking why the "game is so impotant?" WE have argued randomly about his time spent on his phone/computer gaming, but nothing ever got better..the breaking point was..for some random feeling I decided to look at his phone at 4am., while our 4 year old daughter is lying in bed between us..and I found what I was looking for . Another b***h! .my heart broke and probablly never felt the same since..I cried for ever at leat 2 weeks straight.. but He is so good, never goes out & I realezed He needed a bit of slack. .So I prayed to God for us (me & my husband to be together again) I prayed and prayed and God has Answered..

I've cried. He has answered.. and WE have overcome!! Love the man you once knew. Love you Lord!

I feel like he is coming back to reality with whats important in life,, His family and wife..Keep Praying. God is Good. He Will Answer!

 

To make a long story short..I love my husband, He stops his games from 6-8pm..which is progress. I still cry.. He still games.. Kepp praying ladies.. God does hear and will always answer. Praying for streng now..xo We are working towards something. Men have to know their games ae hurting lives!!! Love on.

I feel the same way, in the same boat. This is my second marriage. I never knew this guy had such a problem with this game addiction. He claims he doesn't "chat up" with anyone on there. He claims he never interacts with other people. He claims there isn't a way to talk to other people, I don't believe him. Then why is he "always" on there?? He lies through his teeth! I will leave when I get more finances! How stupid I feel. I should have stayed alone! I kind of saw red flags but of course, ignored them!!!

I stumbled across Clash of clans six months ago and it was addictive, I have played the game for hours at end. Last week I was playing my game when my wife interrupted me trying to draw me in to a conversation... usually I ignore her... she was pissed and I was annoyed at her for the disturbance, we had a loud argument and my 3 year old daughter who I have loved since she opened her eyes started crying, in rage I hit her making her mouth bleed, the sight of her blood shocked me to the core, as I picked her up while she was still bleeding to clean her my life was shattered in my arms was the angel I had loved, adored and because of my stupid addiction I had hit her... I cried the whole night... bought a lot of toys for her the next day but the guilt is still there.... to all the guys please don't ruin your loved one's life, don't ruin your own life... nothing is better than the embrace of your loved ones may it be your kid or your partner... and to all the women going through all this give your partner a chance make it clear to them that they can get their act together or you would move on... we have only one life to live and it cannot be done with a gadget.

I stumbled across Clash of clans six months ago and it was addictive, I have played the game for hours at end. Last week I was playing my game when my wife interrupted me trying to draw me in to a conversation... usually I ignore her... she was pissed and I was annoyed at her for the disturbance, we had a loud argument and my 3 year old daughter who I have loved since she opened her eyes started crying, in rage I hit her making her mouth bleed, the sight of her blood shocked me to the core, as I picked her up while she was still bleeding to clean her my life was shattered in my arms was the angel I had loved, adored and because of my stupid addiction I had hit her... I cried the whole night... bought a lot of toys for her the next day but the guilt is still there.... to all the guys please don't ruin your loved one's life, don't ruin your own life... nothing is better than the embrace of your loved ones may it be your kid or your partner... and to all the women going through all this give your partner a chance make it clear to them that they can get their act together or you would move on... we have only one life to live and it cannot be done with a gadget.

Why don't you lose 30 pounds and start dressing like you still care and see if that helps before you blame the game. Maybe if you were more interesting and not just spouting out the same old blah blah blah he would pay attention.

Yeah, totally. Try bringing over a hot friend and get something going on. If he ignores that then it is time to admit that your just a sad old bird that no one is interested in.

Yeah Right, someone just made up this story. What a load of rubbish.

My situation is pretty much the same as yours, a pay check, leave him alone and he ignores me, but if I try talking to him I'm interrupting his battle or his chat with his team members. It's pretty lonely being with a zombie, I'm gonna end up divorced soon.

Hi I have the same issue he plays more playstation 4 then we talk properly my thing is I go out and do my own thing and leave him too it won't divorce him as still love him so we just live separate lives.