I'm very self-conscious about my vagina. I think it's ugly and it's causing me to not fully enjoy oral-sex in daylight. I feel like my labia is getting bigger and bigger each time I masturbate. I do do it hard when I play with myself. Will this cause my labia to stretch bigger? Should I start using oil/lotion? Or is it all in my head?
Another thing, I know my fiance loves my body but whenever he's down there..do you think he's thinking that it's ugly too?
Another thing, I know my fiance loves my body but whenever he's down there..do you think he's thinking that it's ugly too?
Hi,
I myself have very large labia as well or I used to since I just got labiaplasty a few days ago...not that I'm suggesting you do that! But, I do not think that you need to worry about masturbating stretching out your labia. I have always masturbated a lot and i guess 'hard' like you and I never saw a change over years so I wouldn't worry about that.
I know that I, for example, don't have a 'type' of person that I'm attracted to; so I am sure that there are men that prefer tiny labia, large labia, and the full range in between. I have talked to guys from both ranges. For me personally, I think that I started disliking the appearance of my vagina long before I ever even saw another person's (whether it be a friend's, in pornography, etc). If you are fine with the appearance of your vagina, then it is irrelevant. But for me, it wouldn't matter if I were married to someone who loved the way I looked...I hated it. But maybe somehow subtly finding out what your boyfriend likes (if you don't feel comfortable just asking him straight up what he thinks of your vagina) you could ask him. You might realize that he thinks it's really sexy. I can definitely understand why some guys do. In that case, you might be able to figure out where your insecurity stems from, whether it's what your partner thinks, what society thinks, or what you think. Whatever the answer is, I hope you find a way to be happy with your body and continue enjoying sex. Above all, the sexiest thing in a woman is confidence and openness so if YOU like looking at yourself masturbating and you think you're beautiful, then that shouldn't change because someone else is in the room...and that love of your own body is going to turn a guy on way more than lips shaped a certain way. Good luck!
I myself have very large labia as well or I used to since I just got labiaplasty a few days ago...not that I'm suggesting you do that! But, I do not think that you need to worry about masturbating stretching out your labia. I have always masturbated a lot and i guess 'hard' like you and I never saw a change over years so I wouldn't worry about that.
I know that I, for example, don't have a 'type' of person that I'm attracted to; so I am sure that there are men that prefer tiny labia, large labia, and the full range in between. I have talked to guys from both ranges. For me personally, I think that I started disliking the appearance of my vagina long before I ever even saw another person's (whether it be a friend's, in pornography, etc). If you are fine with the appearance of your vagina, then it is irrelevant. But for me, it wouldn't matter if I were married to someone who loved the way I looked...I hated it. But maybe somehow subtly finding out what your boyfriend likes (if you don't feel comfortable just asking him straight up what he thinks of your vagina) you could ask him. You might realize that he thinks it's really sexy. I can definitely understand why some guys do. In that case, you might be able to figure out where your insecurity stems from, whether it's what your partner thinks, what society thinks, or what you think. Whatever the answer is, I hope you find a way to be happy with your body and continue enjoying sex. Above all, the sexiest thing in a woman is confidence and openness so if YOU like looking at yourself masturbating and you think you're beautiful, then that shouldn't change because someone else is in the room...and that love of your own body is going to turn a guy on way more than lips shaped a certain way. Good luck!
how much did it cause to do labiaplasty and how long did it take to recover from surgery?