Feelings indifferent towards boyfriend after period ever since coming off birth control

I know the feelings are so realistic. It's so crazy to think that there was a time when we didn't think about our relationships all the time. I just hope all the time.

It's crazy to think that I will ever get better because I'm constantly thinking about it from the second I wake up to the second I go to sleep! I miss everything being normal.

Me too. It literally is always on my mind. But, I really do think it has to do with chemical imbalances in the brain. Even people that breakup or go through breakups with their boyfriend/girlfriends do not go through this much pain and turmoil.Realizing that what we are feeling is NOT normal is very hard. Putting things in perspective is a big help. Honestly I feel like the key to this anxiety/depression is to always keep busy. I find that when I am by myself and not as busy (very early mornings before work, days like today where I have most of the day to myself) these thoughts seem to become more annoying!

One more thing! Do little things about your boyfriend bother you now?? Like physical features. My boyfriend has a beautiful face but he's only a slight bit taller than me and I swear that NEVER bothered me. I used to actually say that I love his height. Now, I find that bothering me more than it should and it's so weird.

YES. This part drives me absolutely insane. Stuff that I could ignore in the past but for some reason sticks out like a sore thumb. For example, he is short relative to other guys but still taller than me and he is not that muscular. So I find myself comparing him to other guys. Also, he looks much better with his hair cut short, so when he is in need of a haircut, I would think I was not attracted to him and cry hysterically. I am starting to really get over this, but I also analyze everything about him ( it bothered me that his eyebrows weren't tweezed perfectly, his outfit choices were not my style). Absolutely dumb stuff that I never critiqued in the past and it drives me nuts because I know I can look horrible in front of him, and he does not care because he loves me so much. So, I can related h to when you say that it bothers you more than it should.

He is literally always there for me and would do anything to help me during this time, It is horrible because other annoying thoughts are that "Any guy could be as compassionate and caring as he is." Rationally, I tell myself that I never felt this way EVER about him before I got off of this pill. Overall I feel very very superficial throughout this whole process. I've never critiqued someone so much.

Omg same thing with my boyfriend having short hair lol. When his hair gets long I don't feel attracted to him. It's crazy how we feel so similar. At first the thoughts would just last a week and then just go away. Now, it's on my mind every single day all day even when I'm with him. I lay with him and I just wonder why I feel like this and when I'm going to be back to normal. It's so upsetting! I'm taking it day by day but it's really starting to become draining. Can't wait to be back to normal and hopefully fall in love again???

And although I feel like this I still can't break up with him. I just don't want to let go!!!

I know. It has always been on my mind but honestly the last few days I have felt significantly better. I think about losing him and I get tears in my eyes still. I am so happy (not happy that you are feeling this) but relieved that someone else feels this way about the physical stuff. I am making a lot of progress and I know you will too! It will all be okay. But, I know it sucks.

Did you ever feel like your feelings towards your boyfriend was the reason why you had anxiety instead of the anxiety causing you to have these feelings? Did you ever wake up having these thoughts? I wake up almost every morning with a stomach ache thinking about these thoughts. This went away for a little while but it's back and has been for about a week.

Spoke to a friend and she told me that maybe I should just break up with him. UGH this sucks and no one understands! Not even the doctor.

I thought about the whole anxiety thing a lot but then I really took a step back and thought things logically.Obsessive feelings that literally impede you from doing things all day, make you depressed and cry all the time are NOT normal. Although it seems like your relationship is causing you the anxiety, you are going through so many changes now , one change that is going on potentially made us more susceptible to these thoughts and anxiety. Also, a lot of people state that they lose feelings randomly for their significant other when coming off of the pill. I have seen this side effect from many other medications too, based on the research I have done during my withdrawal from the pill. Thinking that I lost attraction for my boyfriend once made me SO AFRAID that I developed all of these crazy other fears, and fear turns into doubt very quickly. This has turned into such a slippery slope for me.

Also- please tread very lightly when discussing this with others. I know it feels great to have someone listen and tell you that everything will be okay.But, people DO NOT understand what these feelings are like. Let me give you an example. When I started to go through this, I opened up to my best friend since preschool about it. She is in nursing school and actually wants to be a psychiatric nurse. When I told her I was feeling this, she agreed that I was anxious and depressed but told me that when she broke up with past girlfriends, she also thought a lot about the breakup. She told me to give it time since I was just feeling this, but said I may just be losing feelings. I was crushed, just like you are. She had no idea what I felt, and it is not her fault. It is really weird to begin with.

Fast forward one month later and she texted me saying " I think I am starting to feel like what you were feeling." She developed this horrible anxiety too, but she only gets it around her period. She is now going to a psychiatrist because she cannot take it anymore. I cannot tell you how sorry she was because she initially had no idea what I was going through. She now agrees with me that these feelings ARE NOT THE SAME as simply losing feelings for someone. They are not. These feelings cause way too much pain and suffering to be real. When all of this started I really thought I was losing my mind. I have never have had any mental problems, but the beginning stages of this definitely troubled me mentally. My friend and I have been supporting each other both through this. Very odd that we are both going through this, but it is real and it really has altered our lives.

I went to my regular doctor for a checkup and literally told him what my anxiety centered around; I thought he would be understanding. I WAS WRONG. I was crying in the room. His nurse told me that it is suspicious that I got off of the pill and I got all this anxiety, but I am probably just sick of my boyfriend. The doctor then looked at me like I had 5 heads and told me that this could be due to "emotional issues". I cannot tell you how distraught I was. It triggered such a bad bout of anxiety. I could not stop crying that night into the next. That was an absolute nightmare. Do not get discouraged. I have been through it all. Don't let the medical community's ignorance make you think that it is all in your head.

Thank you so much, everything you say makes me feel better. Although it doesn't take the pain away it definitely helps. I just feel so indifferent, almost like my boyfriend is a stranger or something? So odd! Can't wait to feel better because its exhausting.

I am happy it helps because I wished someone told me this when I felt this way too! I know what you feel about the stranger thing. Almost as if my mind places so much importance on the physical aspects that I don't even care about how great he is as a person or how great he has a future for him.

Yes definitely, the thought of him being short is like stuck in my head and making me look at him differently! Like what?! so bizarre! And I know that this literally has never bothered me before in the 3 years we have been dating. Like I said I'm only 18 so people are trying to tell me that maybe I'm just ready to move on because I'm young but it's not like that. Although I haven't experienced much with other guys I know that I want this one forever. Also, I'm going to Greece in about 10 days for a month and he won't be with me so I'm a little nervous about that. Hoping it will be a good break and make me realize how much I miss him and love him? Although when I feel like this I usually just want to be with him and hug him because it makes me feel somewhat better.

Yeah you are young, but I know people that started dating at 14 and 9 years later they are getting married in 2 months. So don't let people think that! It is very hard because the culture is to date a lot now. And the grass may look greener on the other side, and that's what your mind tries to tell you.

I have had one boyfriend before this, and when I lost feelings for him I felt bad for breaking his heart but I wanted nothing to do with him anymore. I realized that what I had with him didn't make any sense, and I didn't want that in the future. I never had this crazy anxiety, nor did I ever feel , ever, like he was someone to marry. I thought about breaking up with him for a good day because I felt bad. But never did it trigger depression or anxiety. I am so happy I meant my current boyfriend because it was a nice fresh breath of air. I have also felt like my current boyfriend was the one for me until this hit.

That is great that you can go to Greece. What a nice trip. I know what you mean about being afraid to leave. My friends went away for a weekend to celebrate birthdays and I did not go because I didn't want my boyfriend to not be there. I would try to go and see if you can clear your mind and try keep busy. Don't try to feel love or miss him because it will make you crazy. When I feel like this I always want to lay on him. Super strange but I find myself feeling so much love for him then, and I am able to sleep soundly on him.