Feelings indifferent towards boyfriend after period ever since coming off birth control

Well yeah- I only experienced this after I got off of the pill so it is a chemical imbalance regardless, you know? But anxiety can really happen as a result of anything. My friend went to a psychatrist when she was anxious like us because for her it literally came out of nowhere and coincided with her period. He told her that it is even possible that her schedule change could have caused it: she goes to nursing school so during the spring and fall semesters she is non stop studying, then in the summer she does not have that studying anymore. For us, these feelings happen to coincide with our periods, and hormones really affect everything in our bodies, mental health included.

Yes I understand what you are saying. I feel like everyone has anxiety in some situations but going on/coming off the pill definitely made it a lot worse for me. Also, everytime I had anxiety it never effected the way I felt about my boyfriend. I would always just feel happy with him and love him for who he is so these thoughts are weird and scary to me. They don't effect me as much anymore because although I still feel them I think I learned how to deal with them, like I said the feelings became apart of me.

Yeah I agree. Feel the same way.

But when I'm with him I'll still think "I lost feelings for him and things aren't the same" and I just feel like that everytime even if we will be having a great time. And I don't act differently when I'm with him but I feel differently

Me too!! I don't act differently which is nice because it doesn't strain the relationship. We are literally identical.

yes seriously can not believe how similar our situations are. At least I know someone is going through something similar. Even though it's horrible I know I'm not alone

How are you feeling?

Hello, I'm new to this thread. Was wondering how you feel 4 months later? Do you still have weird feelings for your significant other or did they go away?

Hello, how are you feeling?

Its been almost a year since I came off the pill. I was put on the pill for 8 years because my periods were irregular when I was 13. Im 23 now. I met my current boyfriend when I was on the pill and we've been together for 3 years. when we first met, I knew he was the one. He was selfless, smart, funny and promised me we would never be bored and he would always take me on adventures. He is the most amazing lover I have ever met end everyone who knows us, complements our relationship. When I came off the pill, I suffered from severe cystic acne, vitamin B deficiency, mood swings, on the plus side, my libido increased. (if you're experiencing acne, eat a clean paleo diet, no sugar or starches, no bananas, no stress! and see an applied kinesiologist instead of a doctor, also check out the oil cleansing method on ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** posting of web addresses is not allowed*** Please read our Terms of Use. I tried the regular OCM and it was aweful but a microfiber cloth works wonders! Thats a whole other story though.) While I was going through these challenges my boyfriend was so supportive. He always told me I was beautiful and wanted to make love even when my face was covered with acne and I had no self esteem. I had perfectly clear skin when we first met. Right after the pill I had high libido and then suddenly after a few months I started noticing I was less attracted to my boyfriend. When we first met, he smelled like fresh baked bread and we couldn't get enough of each other. Even when we settled into our relationship after 2 years I wanted sex with him. Suddenly he smelled like milk and I didn't enjoy kissing him. We moved in together a few months ago and Im driving myself crazy with questions of morality. I want him to have someone who can give him the love he deserves. He masturbates on his own all the time and I feel like a horrible girlfriend because I used to do things like surprise him with sexy things and give spontaneous pleasure. Now whenever the subject arises I try to change it. We've talked about it and when we moved in I lied and told him it wasn't a problem anymore so he wouldn't feel self conscious. I look at other men and even women and want to pursue them. Ive shut my mind off from even thinking of fantasies because I feel so guilty. I started seeing a therapist a couple weeks ago and she said not to think about this anxiety until our lease is up. I feel so bad and I think he knows I feel this way and I keep blaming it on my job being stressful. I love him so much and Im afraid I will never find a better match. We have an amazing dog, like all the same activities and he always has my back. He's lived up to his promise even though I can be a wet noodle. I know sex Isn't everything and that maybe the stress is manifesting Im weird ways. I try to think of him proposing and me being conflicted with moving on with the rest of our lives. I don't want to feel this stress forever. Its a constant battle and I feel like I waste so much time trying to will myself to feel attracted to him again. Our lease is up in October and I think I have until then to try to come to terms with a solution. I don't want to give up and let him go, but Im so young and I don't want this to hurt him anymore. My therapist says thats up for him to decide, but he loves me so much he would never let me go. He bought pheromone essential oil blends and everything to try to make this work. It all feels like a lie. The first two years of our relationship, I didn't want anyone else, now I have to think of someone else just to get through sex. I know I could be with him forever, but don't want to regret not exploring all of my options and giving myself time to be my new self. My whole adult life I was under the influence of the pill. Now Im finally healthy and the only acne I have left is from the stress I put on myself for feeling guilty. I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship even though we have talked about it. I care about him so much Im not sure If I should just let it all go and start fresh or fight to hang on to what we have built. Im sitting here sobbing reading all of these stories. It's so nice not to feel alone. So many women are let to believe they are crazy but we aren't. These are real chemical things happening. I would never have gone on the pill if I had know it would do this to my life. These experiences make us stronger and they might be hard but as long as we are honest with ourselves, I think the answer will show itself in time. Im going to keep fighting until October. in the mean time, Im taking it one step at a time and focusing on the activities we love to do together. I think I have to let go of what we had and try to accept what we are now. If I mourn the smell of fresh baked bread, I will always be sad. Hang in there everyone. Everything happens for a reason, we may not know what it is at the moment, but things always work out as long as you are honest. Stay strong and live in the moment! xoxo

Hello, thanks for the post. I can completely relate to you with almost everything you mentioned. I was only on the pill for a short amount of time and actually got off the pill for the reason of just feeling weird and doubting my relationship. It’s been a year off and I’ve gotten much better but I still have a lot of doubts. I do question his attractiveness a lot and it really bothers me because he’s a wonderful guy and I feel bad for feeling doubt towards our relationship for that reason. I don’t know why we still feel this way and I wish we had answers but unfortunately we do not. I think I just don’t see the future with him like I used to and it kills me but that’s what happens when coming off the pill. I’m actually the person who started this thread so I’m glad you found comfort in the messages. Good luck to you

did you ever get better?? you might not be on here still but i’m going through this after getting off nexplanon a month later. i feel like i can’t recognize him sometimes and it hurts so bad because i can’t feel love for him even though i know i love him...

Hey! To be honest I wish I wasn’t on here anymore. As of right now, no I do not feel better. BUT there has been nice where I lost I was better. I still doubt our relationship and I’ve came to terms as to why I feel like we don’t recognize them. I think since we feel so disconnected and “out of love” we lose touch of our relationships and who they are. I’ve been off for a little over a year now and I’ve had some really good days, weeks and even months, but I’m not completely myself yet. I think the trauma of also going through this is going to make it hard to ever feel normal again. I’m trying and I’m trusting my gut although sometimes I strongly believe I will be better off alone. It kills me to say that but all I want is to be happy and if I’m not happy with this person anymore than I feel like I should leave but I just don’t want to! Wish you the best of luck on your journey. Don’t doubt for the second that is wasn’t BC that did this to you because it isn’t a coincidence that we all feel the same way. Best wishes to you

Hello, how do you feel???

It’s hard. It did get better though. I was crying constantly for two weeks and i was worried that it will never get to the way it was. I think because we were all on birth control, it kinda put us in a trance (as my boyfriend says). I wasn’t the happiest on it, and i would usually argue with my boyfriend throughout the birth control. Once i got off, i felt so much better. Now i feel like it’ll get better but i look at him sometimes and i feel like i have no idea who he is or any of our memories. I think i’m just scared about the feeling that my mind tries to block him out and make me afraid of him. It does hurt, but we do have good days. I really think it’s just the hormones because i have never ever felt this way before. Hormones take a while to get out of the body i’ve heard. It’s just such a weird feeling and i’m wondering if anyone has ever gotten out of this. I don’t see myself with anyone else. I know i love him and i do convince myself i do. It’s really hard...